Setting up a MO girl with a serious Lakewood bochur = good idea or not?

Anyone with a girl who goes to the movies Friday nights and is looking for a Lakewood bochor to marry should contact the MO shadchan “Mr. Rebbetzin”, as he specializes in such shidduchim.

Rebbitzen: If Briskboyz is the subject of this thread and posted above that he just became aware of this CR thread you started but would consult with his rebbe about his OWN SITUATION, do you consult with him before updating all of us on how the first date went. I suspect by now every bochur in Lakewood knows who he is, where they went for their first date and whether they’ve discussed the important stuff in life such as gebrokts, yekeshe hashgacha and testing Uggs for shatens. Seems a bit weird to have both you and the subject of your thread posting updates contemporaneously. The fact that he his here in the CR posting on the internet suggests he has the flexibility to find a common ground with this “moderneshe” young lady.

reb. I have never heard the story that you heard by Rabbi Frand but the story regading the milchigs kiddush on shavuous is in one of Rbbi Krohn’s maggid books as well as the artscroll biography of Reb Yaakov. I live near one of Reb Yaakov’s granddaughters and verified that the family minhag is to eat gebrokts while reb Yaakov himself did not based on the story of why he did not eat gebrokts as i saw it in the artscroll biography.

Mr. Rebbetzin: Steven I. Weiss proved six years ago that your citation about Rav Shach as well as about yesh al ma lismoch are forgeries of Prof. Michael Broyde.

Personally, I would never agree to a shidduch for my children with someone whose hashkofas are totally the opposite of my own.

So I guess you would not let your children marry a Sefard (Or an Ashlenaz if you are a Sefard)

do ashkenazim and sefardim have different hashkafos?

If the guy is really a serious learner in Lakewood, I cannot imagine he would agree to be set up, let alone his parents approving of it. If he is willing to go out, I would question how serious is. Bottom line: he would have to accept the way she is now–there is no guarantee that even if she agreed to be “frummer,” that she will or that it will last. And from the girl’s part, I find it hard to believe that despite the commonalities, that she would agree to go out with a boy who plans to be a long-time learner unless she already is leaning in that direction.

I think its a good idea to be involved with shidduchim. It’s a bad idea to deliberately waste someones time. If you think it’s a good idea, suggest it, and the parties involved disagree, they will say no thanks.

SC -“The question is why was a serious Lakewood bochur at a seudas shabbos with a MO girl?”
No. The question is why did they go out on a date?

I think most people would agree that it can work out between them with compromises and the like as you see in cases where after marriage a spouse changes level of observance many rabbonim under specific circumstances say to stay together and work it out but for someone to enter this situation when still single is risky and not worth it there are many girls on the same page as him hashkofa wise with great middos hobbies etc.

If the girl grew up MO and became much more BY-type in seminary, then there should be no hashkafic issues between them.

H/t:
I am an ex-Modox bochur in the parsha who became Charedi in Yeshivat Ohr Yerushalayim. I have been in the Yeshivish velt for four years.
A lot of BY type girls (some as old as 23!) refuse to go out with me because they truly believe my family’s lower level of frumkeit can cause Shalom bayis issues!! This is wrong!