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I thought of a setting up a guy I dated (think I got to know him pretty well)with my friend
Don’t know if it’s too fast we just finished, to set them up or should I wait a little before calling him about the idea?
Onit
Very inappropriate to be calling a guy you are no longer dating. He isn’t your friend just because you dated him. Call his mother to redt the shiduch or have your mother call his mother.
Waste no time, if it is shayach, and if you are certain he is not hurt by your deciding to no longer date him. If the break up was sad for him, he might feel worse (I wasn’t good enough for you, but I’m ok for your friend????) If it was a mutual decision, it would be a lovely chessed to set him up with someone you care about. Perhaps you can redt it through someone, but you can certainly talk to him or his family about the girl. Hope you find your bashert very soon.
Onit
I don’t see why you should wait. If he’s free now and she is as well why wait where there’s a chance one of them won’t be free? I say go for it now.
I don’t see your issue just get some one else to suggest it if you can’t do it
one of the biggest compliments and chessed you can do for this guy is to set him up with someone else. most people who redt shidduchim vaguely know the two parties. if you know both sides pretty well and you tihnk he is more for your friend then you are helping the shidduch crisis. your friend will see that you think this guy is good enough to go out with her and he’s not some creep that you went out with that you want to forget about.
kol hakovod! and hatzlacha!
If he is a decent guy who you think would be good for your friend but not for you then go for it. My wife set her best friend up with a guy she had dated for a short time, they have now been married more than 20 years.
On a similar note I once got a job at a company because a friend of mine interviewed there, decided he wasn’t interested but knew that I would be, so he gave them my name, and they called me.
My nephew married the wonderful girl his best friend dated for several weeks and realized was not for HIM but perfect for my nephew. She was, and is, and it is a wonderful thing. I guarantee you know this boy’s personality much better than any shadchan, at this point, and can tell your friend honestly that although you liked him very much, certainly enough to want to see him with your friend, the chemistry wasn’t there for you. We might meet many people in life whom we would like very much, but not want to MARRY them! It could be even a small thing, like he is outdoorsy, and you prefer to sit in and read. Some perfectly lovely people are just better-suited to other people than to each other.
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