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Should C.S.’s consider remarrying and why?
Ha!Read the posts on the Dating After Divorce thread.
92 is the safest age!
(you mean S.C.s by the way.You vahnt I should bring you your glasses?)
Yes. It’s a mitzvah.
you mean s.c. and why not? old people need companionship as much as young people do, and if they can find it at that age with a little love thrown in for good measure, go for it!
Cedarhurst, what mitzvah would that be?
lesschumras:
1.V’hodarta p’nei zakein
2.Mi’pnei sayvah tokum
3.lifnei eevair lo seetayn michshol
…the list is endless!
By the way,I happen to have THE DEEPEST respect for “senior citizens”….so please no one take offense at the silliness I just posted.
lesschumras: the biggest one is pru urvu.
Why not? Are they not entitled to happiness like everyone else? Who said they should be alone for the rest of their lives?
And the can be makayim the mitzvah with a kallah who is young enough to fulfil that mitzvah for him. And many do exactly that.
definitely. they can share a wonderful life together for many more years.
Why would it be anyone’s business except the parties to the marriage?
Cantoresq makes a strong point.
It can actually be applied to other threads as well, usually beginning with “SHOULD….?”
Cedarhurst,
I’m aware of that mitzva but it doesn’t apply to senior citizens. By the wy, there is absolutely no reason why senior citizens shouldn’t get married. Why should they live alone?
Related topic – if there is no practical aspect relevant to our own lives, should we be discussing how other people choose to live?
Lesschumras: it very much does apply. My grandfather was in his 60’s and my grandmother in her 20’s when they were mekayim the mitzvah. The Chofetz Chaim and Ribnitzer Rebbe amongst many others also remarried a young wife when they were “senior citizens”.
The issue is lo tov heyos ha’adam l’vado, men and women are naturally incomplete by themselves– at any age. My grandmother remarried in her late sixties, to the man who was as doting a grandfather to me as any natural could be. And both my grandmothers were “of large stature”, the barbies of their day,when starvation was common, and nutritional history was part of a kalla’s yichus, and prognosis for motherhood and long life.
Cedarhurst,
It should have been obvious that I was talking about two senior citizens
I was just saying that mitzvah makes no difference in regards to his age.
Cedarhurt- once a man has a son and daughter, he was already mekayam the Mitzvah of Peru Urvuh.
But I do think it’s a good idea for senior citizens to get married again and be happy.
The Ben Ish Hai mentions the idea of creating souls in Shamayim when a married couple act with kedushah together.
smartcookie – even if he has a son and daughter it is still a mitzvah of pru urvu to have more children. Even if he is 65.
V’Ahavta l’Rayacha Kamocha, is a good enough reason. Hashem also said it is not good for a man to be alone. If marriage were ONLY for the sake of pru u’rvu, then barren people, old people, people who have spinal cord injuries that preclude their being able to have a child, women who have had hysterectomies, etc. etc. would be halachically barred from marriage. As we know this is not the case, there is no reason why two senior citizens who have been lucky to find love the second time around, cannot marry and have a wonderful life together in their golden years.
Cedar- true, I guess it becomes. Mitzvah versus a Chiyuv.
Good grief, why should senior citizens remarry? Have we become so besotted with the mainstream “youth culture” that we can’t imagine “old people” wanting companionship and marriage?
For those kvelling over the prospect of octogenarians marrying 20 somethings. Check out the details. You will find that in many cases the kallah was a widow with children to bring up and married an older man rather than have no chance of remarrying.
A story I heard – it may or may not be true, so I will not give the name that was mentioned to me. A European Gadol a hundred plus years ago approached a young woman as a shidduch for his son, citing the boy’s yichus as the Gadol’s son. The young woman reasoned, why should I settle for the son? Why not the father? So they married and had children, but the Gadol was so much older that he could scarcely be a father to them. As a result, one of the sons went off the derech and became a fervent Maskil, doing untold damage precisely because the maskilim could say, “Look at his father, and now he’s seen the light and joined the Haskalah.”
So – consider all the angles before you jump to judgement.
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