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whats ur defenition of a person with a healthy self-esteem and how do u build one?
A person with a healthy self esteem is someone who doesn’t wonder if he has one. You get one by not wondering, as well.
Now, how’s that for an over-simplification?
When was the term “self esteem” first used?
A person who recognizes his unique talents and abilities as well as his faults but focuses on his abilities and understands that everything was given to him specifically as a gift from Hashem.
a person who KNOWS all his faults, understands that he must change them but STILL loves himself and feels good about himself….
Hmm this definitely gives me food for thought …
😀 Zuberman! 😀
Besides for everything posted above:
Someone who recognizes who he is, why he is here, what he must do, and how he must do it. By establishing himself as a very real entity with a very real purpose, and by taking steps towards his goals in life, a person can gain respect for himself. It is important for him to come to terms with with his limitations, but to gain a healthy self-esteem one must validate his unique gifts and positive attributes thus enabling him to move in the direction of his unique tafkid.
BTDT. 🙂
Self esteem is improved with your capacity to help yourself and your capacity to solve your own problems. If you are disabled, your self esteem is determined by your capacity to trust in Hashem and your caretakers. That said, one must strive for a healthy self esteem. Positive thinking is a must. Clearly its all in your soul and your mind. But that said, I must confess that my self esteem clearly improved with more Torah study and with more adult acheivement and learning. I can not report that being a child with children who taunted one another and may have made one feel worthless was the most beneficial thing for your own self esteem, but like the people say today in regards to those who are bullied and have tough childhoods, “it does get better in the future”. So grab a book, study hard and think good thoughts. Talk to your Creator if that is something you think you can do. He wont reply to you in an audible manner, but maybe just maybe you’ll get a good feeling for how G-d regards your soul and your self acheivement and self sacrifices and thus you can gleam a hope of how you should indeed feel for real.
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