Screen Names

Mod 99 –

Thanks. In re-reading my 1st post, I have no idea why I would think that “totty” would spring to mind (as opposed to BP something else).

I guess my role as totty plays a bigger part in me than I realize.

Working –

Living in BP, Yiddish is my 2nd language, but my kids (who are more yeshivish than BP-ish) would sooner use the word teef (as in “ah teefer gedank”) than I would. If I wanted to make the same point, I would probalby say “Me’darf git aran-trachten de’rin”. Same idea, but as a yiddish speaker, one just sounds more BP-ish.

As it happens, my yiddish has a very chassidshe favor, yet my ivrah is more yeshivish, so “teef” might very well make its way into a statement of mine.. at one of my more yeshivish moments

I nominate Mrs. Doubtfire for BEST SCREEN NAME of the Year award

because i am a shtark bochur

…person who has too much time on their hands…

bombmaniac, that too!

cheakmate27: Try emailing a mod, like [email protected]. Maybe he would let you change it. I know it would bother me, if I had made that mistake.

Because bombmaniac was already taken! 🙂

I chose The Best Bubby because my dearest einaklich call me that and I always strive to be The Best Bubby!

checkmate27: Glad you were able to fix it! 🙂

I feel trapped between two worlds.

Since I first went to yeshivah I do not feel I can go back to living in the

secular world but after having lived in Crown Heights for awhile but not having

yichus or Geszher and having been told I was “a ben Niddah”, I can never feel part

of the Heimish world, either.

So I chose a screename that reflects that I do not know if I am supposed to be here or there.

It also has a double meaning since my tribulations, make me wonder if I should be

be living in this world or if I’d be better off in the ‘afterlife’.

hereorthere

In relation to your other post which unfortunately had to be deleted. a story was told of a soul very dear to the Ribbono Shel Olam that came up to Shomayim who had been a Tzaddik but had a problem with Gaiva. He was asked whether he would prefer to be cleansed in Gehinom or come back to this world where he would suffer and not be able to see why, being a msakein for his gaivah. He choose to suffer here.

There are many other explanations for suffering which seems to be undeserved. Please go see a Chushuv, preferably a Zakain, Talmid Chuchum and discuss your personal issues and questions with him. I believe this is very important for you to do.

It is not so easy to accept the tafkid why you are here if all you do is suffer.

Especially without the slightest knowledge of exactly what your specific tafkid, is.

To the moderator;

#1 Since you mention it here, please tell me why my other post “had to be” deleted?

#2 That story still does not explain how his suffering is supposed to cause him to do teshuvah in life where he has no clue as to what is going on.

it wasn’t supposed to cause him to do Tshuvah, it was to cause him to suffer (specifically in the most difficult manner of not knowing why) to cleanse his Neshama

#3 I know very little Yiddish (or Hebrew for that matter) what is a Chushuv and what is a Zakain I am unfamiliar with either of those words or their meanings.

Chusuv means important in Torah ways, Zakain is an old wise Yid

Thanks.

hereorthere,

Zakein means an elderly person- someone with wisdom and life experience. Chashuv in the sense used here is someone who personifies Torah ideals.

Life can be very hard; try to remember that you are worthy of life and therefore capable of doing good with it. You have inherent dignity despite any circumstances- stand tall and talk to the One who is interested in hearing your thoughts: Hashem.

hereorthere: Listen to oomis.

There is indeed a shailoh whether or not one may marry a ba’al tshuva, because of the ‘ben nidda’ suspicion. However – Rav Moshe Feinstein wrote in a Tshuva (responsa) to this question that the shortcoming of a ‘ben nidda’ would be apparent in the person’s middos. Hence, a ba’al tshuva who has fine middos is clearly not a ‘ben nidda’ and his middos prove that through some means his mother must have done t’vilah, albeit unknowingly (e.g. a swimming pool).

Is the inverse also true, i.e. does an FFB with bad middos prove that his lineage is flawed? Rav Moshe does not say so, but as we know from Pirkei Avos/Mussar sefarim – a person with Torah learning/fine middos is a better person in the eyes of G-d and His people than a person without Torah learning/fine middos, regardless of his lineage.

Go find people with good middos and live among them instead.

If the person was specifically supposed to suffer then how is G-d following Torah as I was told he did and we know that one may not punish in anger or

make suffer just for the sake of making suffer without the one being punished knowing why?

If his soul needs clensing that could have been done inbetween lives and seems wasteful during a life where he has no clue.

Thank you positiveaynayim and Bemused and oomis1105 and

squeak and happyOOTer.

You have all expressed some beautiful thoughts and ideas and I appreciate them all.

At this point in my life my biggest concern is that as I grow older and weaker I will no longer be able to do my physically demanding job for which I get low pay and have no life savings or pension of any kind (except a pittance from Social Security, which I am quite sure will not exist by the time I’d be able to collect it)and no healtn plan (and Obamas plan will only make it worse, I dread existing under THAT plan)which is problem now even before I get that weak.

I have no clue whatsoever what I will do next week or next year or a few years or at whatever point my boss tells me he is hiring someone younger and stronger when he notices that I am not keeping up like I did when I started there, over 12 years ago.

I have no way of fixing my teeth which desparately need fixing right now

(for years now and about to get unbareably painful).

I know, pray, study, give tzoddeka, and hope for miracles and I have been doing that for years now………….sigh………

Thank you Jewishsoul; I understand what you are saying but I wonder if the soul really fully understood how hellish life down here would be when making that choice.

Did my soul truly know that my life would be so bad that I would spend every single day wishing I were dead?

It reminds me of what is said about the Avos and how they each prayed for

something and G-d said “You have asked for a good thing it will start with you”.

And it seems that what they got was not what they asked for.

For example Avroham Avinu asked that people be able to tell him from his son Yitzchok so G-d made him old.

But with old age, came weakness and Avroham did not ask for his strenght to run away with him.

He only asked that people would know him from his son.

Who asked for the suffering from the weakness of old age?

My little cousin calls me this and it sort of stuck…

WolfishMusings because I’m Wolfish and have ignorant and insane Musings.

The Wolf

Sounds scary-in what way are you “wolfish”?

In every bad and negative way you can imagine…. and then some.

The Wolf

Why do you say that? Are you really that self critical of yourself?

Sometimes. Now would be one of those times.

The Wolf

very simple – to remind myself (and along with myself others) whats truly important in life

WolfishMusings because I’m Wolfish

How are you Wolfish?

Wolf: Where is Goldilocks?

Hello Kitty is my childrens favorite character!! They always drive me nuts to buy them stuff from this character. I told them, I am Hello Kitty, so they’ll have it all the time…

That’s how my nickname became HELLO KITTY!

Wolf: Where is Goldilocks?

Don’t know. She had a run in with bears, not with a wolf.

The Wolf