there’s also a huge potential for misunderstanding when reading responses and lacking tone. Tone changes e/t. Sarcasm->rudeness->honest compliment and all other directions.
”Oh him? He’s friendly to everyone” -honest admiration, sarcasm meaning he’s rude, derogatorily meaning he’s ‘too’ friendly, etc etc
”You got those shoes? Wow, so pretty” -compliment, with a sneer followed by a snicker, ”pretty” meaning i dont think you should ever wear them outside again, etc etc
yesterday i read on a thread a whole argument going back n force w accusitions and getting nowhere. Reading it through, objectively, it was blatantly clear which lines had been misunderstood because they were tone-ambiguous, like the ones above, and that neither side had meant what the each thought the other had. perhaps dan lkaf zchus would help avoid some, but perceived insults are sometimes hard for some to let pass