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March 23, 2011 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm #595855Feif UnParticipant
I am in the process of buying a house. The owners are not Jewish, so I called my Rav about how to kasher the kitchen. It was very straightforward except the dishwasher. There are many different opinions regarding them.
My Rav told me that if it’s made of metal or plastic, I can kasher it easily. However, I know that many Rabbonim hold that either you can’t kasher it at all, or that you must wait a full year before kashering it.
Here’s a theoretical case. Let’s say I invite you over for Shabbos. Your Rav holds that a dishwasher can’t be kashered. You know that I kashered my dishwasher based on the psak I received, and have been washing my dishes in it for a long time.
Would you use the dishes in my house?
March 23, 2011 3:46 pm at 3:46 pm #755830Joseph / clark-kentMemberNo.
March 23, 2011 3:47 pm at 3:47 pm #755831anon1m0usParticipantYes.
March 23, 2011 3:58 pm at 3:58 pm #755832mikehall12382Membermaybe
March 23, 2011 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm #755833popa_bar_abbaParticipantKind of depends.
If it is something I hold is ???? ?? ????, then I would not eat it in your house.
If it is something I am just machmir on, and it will mean I can’t eat in your house, I would eat it.
March 23, 2011 4:10 pm at 4:10 pm #755834MDGParticipantMaybe, I would ask my Rav first.
March 23, 2011 5:17 pm at 5:17 pm #755835bptParticipantAre you and your Rov Orthodox? Then yes. I might ask that you serve either meat, pareve or cholov yisroel, but your dishes are a go.
Pesach is a different story, but year round, absolutely.
March 23, 2011 6:20 pm at 6:20 pm #755836yitayningwutParticipantI agree with Popa, except that even if I held it was ????, if I only held it was a ????? then perhaps in certain circumstances there would be a ???? to be ???? due to ???? ??????. But that is certainly not something to be thrown around lightly.
March 23, 2011 7:01 pm at 7:01 pm #755837Mother in IsraelMemberI don’t know, but FWIW, when we moved, we were told we could kasher our dishwasher as long as we replace all the plastic parts. We found out that replacing the plastic would cost almost as much as a new dishwasher, so we ended up getting rid of it.
March 23, 2011 7:04 pm at 7:04 pm #755838zaidy78ParticipantMy Rav told me that one cannot be oiver on Bain Adam L’chaveiro because of a chumra of Bain Adam l’Makom.
The example he gave was that if a guest came to your house and brought you a cake or a bottle of wine with a hechsher that you would normally not eat, (not because it’s treif ch”v, but because you are machmir on a better hechsher – I think the example he gave was a wine with the OU only) you have a chiyuv bain adam lichaveiro to serve it and use it. And that overrides your “minhag” of only using badatz.
Now with regard to your dishwasher, (I would ask my Rav first, but I think he would tell me) that the dishwasher was (probably) cleaned well before your first use and there is no treif in it now, so whatever chumrah I would have would be innapropiate at your home.
(Disclosure: I have not learned well bassar b’chalav – so I don’t know what the practical issues of the machlokes with regard to dishwashers is and if its a question of chumra to wait a year or if its a shaila of real tarfus)
March 23, 2011 7:14 pm at 7:14 pm #755839s2021MemberI would. That dont mean I know what Im doin..
March 23, 2011 8:06 pm at 8:06 pm #755840apushatayidParticipantI think the subject of thread is wrong. If your Rav told you that you can Kasher it easily, that is not a hetter. That is a psak that you can kasher your dishwasher and make it 100% kosher as far as he is concerned. If other Rabbonim pasken that it can not be kashered, then that is not a chumra, but a psak that the dishwasher can not be kashered at all and it remains treif (unless they hold that me-ikkar hadin it can be kashered but they want to be machmir like a specific shita for whatever reason in which case, the first Rav is not maikel, the second is machmir). In which case your quesiton becomes, if I have an item that is kosher meikkar hadin, but someone is noheig a chumra, am I obligated to let him know that he would be violating his chumra, or conversely, must he always investigate that all situations conform to his chumra. To me, the word hetter always comes with the implication that the Rav found a loophole, which is often not the case and where possible, I try to avoid its usage because it is disparaging.
March 23, 2011 8:17 pm at 8:17 pm #755841☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantYes, since it’s not a ben-yomo, the food is muttar b’dieved anyhow.
March 23, 2011 9:09 pm at 9:09 pm #755842oomisParticipantYes. I am pretty sure my Rov holds that your minhag or the p’sak that you follow doesn’t necessarily override the p’sak someone else follows from a reliable rov. I would ask my Rov, but I am 99%certain it would be ok. Ask the shailah.
On Pesach, though I have never done this, I learned that an Ashkenazi may eat food prepared by a Sefardi in sefardic pots and pans, as long as the food contains no kitniyos.
March 23, 2011 9:56 pm at 9:56 pm #755843☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantYes. I am pretty sure my Rov holds that your minhag or the p’sak that you follow doesn’t necessarily override the p’sak someone else follows from a reliable rov.
According to this, you could eat the actual kitniyos, as long as your Sephardi host has a reliable rov.
March 23, 2011 10:09 pm at 10:09 pm #755844charliehallParticipant“Would you use the dishes in my house?”
Absolutely! You did everything you were supposed to do. And anyone who says you should do anything other than what your rav says isn’t orthodox.
March 23, 2011 10:10 pm at 10:10 pm #755845charliehallParticipant“According to this, you could eat the actual kitniyos”
And you would violate absolutely no halachah by doing so.
March 23, 2011 10:17 pm at 10:17 pm #755846popa_bar_abbaParticipantYes, since it’s not a ben-yomo, the food is muttar b’dieved anyhow.
That is a good point.
March 23, 2011 10:40 pm at 10:40 pm #755847☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant“According to this, you could eat the actual kitniyos”
And you would violate absolutely no halachah by doing so.
Except the ‘??”? ??”? ??”? ???? ?.
March 23, 2011 11:02 pm at 11:02 pm #755848apushatayidParticipantI have a family member who won’t use my dishes because I eat gebrokts and he doesn’t, he claims he received such a psak. On the flip side, many who don’t eat gebrokts have eaten on my dishes and have told me their rav says its no problem. Just follow your rav.
March 23, 2011 11:05 pm at 11:05 pm #755849yitayningwutParticipant“Yes, since it’s not a ben-yomo, the food is muttar b’dieved anyhow.”
That is a good point.
But what if they serve onions and you use your fork and knife that were in the dishwasher?
Truthfully my rav is matir to use a treife dishwasher, but that’s another story.
March 23, 2011 11:43 pm at 11:43 pm #755850ItcheSrulikMemberI’m not sure I would eat. It depends on why my rabbi was assuring the food.
March 24, 2011 12:25 am at 12:25 am #755851popa_bar_abbaParticipantBut what if they serve onions and you use your fork and knife that were in the dishwasher?
Hmmm.
March 24, 2011 12:36 am at 12:36 am #755852ItcheSrulikMemberStam kelim enam ben yom?
March 24, 2011 1:59 pm at 1:59 pm #755853RavHamachshirMemberBut what if they serve onions and you use your fork and knife that were in the dishwasher?
Hmmm.
even if you you use a knife on onion, the taam wont come out of the knife, but there is no treif taam in the knife, cuz where did it come from? – not he dishwasher which is more than a ben yomo. you could have a real problem if you cooked treif in the dishwasher and then used it to cut the onion
March 24, 2011 2:09 pm at 2:09 pm #755854☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantBut what if they serve onions and you use your fork and knife that were in the dishwasher?
Interesting thought. Following the same reasoning, if you kasher a ??? in a larger ???, both ???? ?? ????, if there is no ‘???? ?? (which is not required in this case), the larger ??? should never be subsequently used for a ??? ???? (this is, of course not the case).
The (? ??”? (??”? ?’ ?? quotes his son ?’ ??? ????”? who uses this ??? to be ???? washing dishes ?????? in a treif (???? ?? ????) dishwasher. R’ Moshe argues because it becomes part of the ???? of ???? ?? ???? ??? ?? ????. No mention is made of potential use of a knife (or fork to spear) a ??? ????.
March 24, 2011 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #755855☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantStam kelim enam ben yom?
You would only need that to use the dishwasher within 24 hours of when the ??? left the house.
March 24, 2011 3:19 pm at 3:19 pm #755856charliehallParticipant*Except the ‘??”? ??”? ??”? ???? ?. *
That’s a minhag, not a halachah. There is a difference!
March 24, 2011 3:20 pm at 3:20 pm #755857charliehallParticipant*Except the ‘??”? ??”? ??”? ???? ?. *
Also worth mentioning is that we don’t even follow all the Remah’s minhagim! For example, the six closest Ashkenazic synagogues to me recite Hallel in shul on the first night of Pesach.
March 24, 2011 3:21 pm at 3:21 pm #755858charliehallParticipant“he claims he received such a psak”
What is the basis for such a psak. Gebrokts is agreed by everyone to be minhag, not halachah.
March 24, 2011 9:44 pm at 9:44 pm #755859popa_bar_abbaParticipantBut what if they serve onions and you use your fork and knife that were in the dishwasher?
I asked my people. One of them pointed to ??? ????? 447:134 http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14169&st=&pgnum=52
He is quoting from ?”? that if a food absorbs issur which is pagum, and then the food becomes ????, it does not reinvigorate the issur.
Perhaps the same applies here, even though it is a bit different.
March 24, 2011 9:49 pm at 9:49 pm #755860☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant*Except the ‘??”? ??”? ??”? ???? ?. *
That’s a minhag, not a halachah. There is a difference!
That difference is not that it can be disregarded in someone else’s home!
Something which may have started as a ???? becomes a ???. Specifically by ??????, the ??”? says
“??? ?????? ?????? ?????? ?????? ???? ????? “.
The ?”?, when explaining the development of the ???, says, “?????? ????? ????” and, “????”.
*Except the ‘??”? ??”? ??”? ???? ?. *
Also worth mentioning is that we don’t even follow all the Remah’s minhagim! For example, the six closest Ashkenazic synagogues to me recite Hallel in shul on the first night of Pesach.
This one is universally (AFAIK) accepted by ???????.
“he claims he received such a psak”
What is the basis for such a psak. Gebrokts is agreed by everyone to be minhag, not halachah.
The minhag may have been to not allow keilim either.
March 25, 2011 3:12 am at 3:12 am #755861popa_bar_abbaParticipantBut what if they serve onions and you use your fork and knife that were in the dishwasher?
Ok, here are my newer thoughts:
???? generally does two things:
A. It makes ???? as if it is not.
B. It makes ??? ??? into ??? ?????.
Now, there is a dispute over what is ????. We are ????? that even onions are.
The ?????? ??? ???? says in 96:3 that we will not say both chumros of charif in a case where the charif is only an onion.
So that would solve our issue.
Also, there is a ?? 122:2, which I hope to talk about later.
March 25, 2011 4:05 am at 4:05 am #755862golden momMemberThis is with everything u have to trust the person ur by everybody holds different ur not going to go thru everything before u serve ur guest for example many hold that u could use a microwave for milchig and fleishig and just boil water in between our rav doesn’t let he said u need 2 different ones u could go on and on….
March 25, 2011 12:25 pm at 12:25 pm #755863☕ DaasYochid ☕Participantpba,
What about a radish?
March 25, 2011 1:58 pm at 1:58 pm #755864☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantAlso, pba, I’m surprised you haven’t mentioned that the detergent is pogem.
Feif Un,
I apologize for not saying this until now, but hatzlocha on the house; may you make many simchas there until moshiach comes b’mheira!
March 25, 2011 2:33 pm at 2:33 pm #755865gavra_at_workParticipantPesach is no proof to anything, as the Halacha is to be machmir crazy chumras that are shittos Yachid and would never be kept during the year, if that is your minhag.
http://www.oukosher.org/index.php/articles/single_print/1380207
Ta’am Lefgam is a Machlokes the Rashba & the Ran whether it is no longer Ta’am or it is Batel. Ashkinazim are machmir like the Rashba, and since on Pesach Chametz is not Batel, Aino Ben Yomo may not help.
As usual, AYLOR.
As far as your specific case, you may just want to replace the dishwasher. Compared to the price of a house, the difference between buying new racks & a new cheaper dishwasher is not great.
It should be with Mazel.
March 25, 2011 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm #755866☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantAs far as your specific case, you may just want to replace the dishwasher.
Why should he? His rov said he could kasher it. He’s concerned about serving others who may not hold of this p’sak, but I don’t think anyone who would otherwise eat in his house would refrain because of the dishwasher (as I explained before).
March 25, 2011 2:53 pm at 2:53 pm #755867gavra_at_workParticipantDY:
Because if the difference is small enough, it is worthwhile buying a new one.
March 25, 2011 2:59 pm at 2:59 pm #755868☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantGAW,
He didn’t say that the rov told him he needs new racks, so it’s a total loss.
March 25, 2011 3:03 pm at 3:03 pm #755869popa_bar_abbaParticipantDY: Why would detergent help us when eino ben yomo won’t?
March 25, 2011 3:15 pm at 3:15 pm #755870☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant??? ???? is ????? a ??? which is ???? ?????
March 25, 2011 3:36 pm at 3:36 pm #755871yitayningwutParticipantPopa-
Why would detergent help us when eino ben yomo won’t?
I was actally klerring if that which a davar charif is mashbiach something which is pagum is even by something which is be’etzem pagum or only by an eino ben yomo. Is this mefurash?
March 25, 2011 4:26 pm at 4:26 pm #755873popa_bar_abbaParticipantI’ll look into it.
However, soap does not make the taam pagum in itself. It just makes sure that the taam will be pogem whatever you mix it into.
March 25, 2011 4:37 pm at 4:37 pm #755874gavra_at_workParticipantDY:
Thanks. Didn’t notice that.
Feif: Did your Rov Pasken you have to change the racks?
March 27, 2011 2:24 am at 2:24 am #755875☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantGAW,
An additional factor is that it’s also costly to have the dishwasher installed.
March 27, 2011 3:10 am at 3:10 am #755876charliehallParticipant“This one is universally (AFAIK) accepted by ???????.”
And *that*, not the codification of the Rema, is why Ashkenazic Jews don’t eat kitniyot. Minhag is important.
“Because if the difference is small enough, it is worthwhile buying a new one. “
Dishwashers aren’t that expensive compared to the cost of a new house. It might be worth it.
Kashrut is the major divider among Jews today. I am glad that I live in a neighborhood where if you are shomer Shabat, people trust your kashrut.
March 27, 2011 6:05 am at 6:05 am #755877☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantCharlie,
What has been accepted IS the Rema’s codification!
I’m not sure why you and Gavra At Work feel that a dishwasher’s relative low cost compared to a house is reason to disregard Feif Un’s rov’s p’sak that he doesn’t need a new one. For one thing, it’s his rov’s p’sak! (To quote someone who I consider to be wise, “And anyone who says you should do anything other than what your rav says isn’t orthodox.”
Also, some people I know stretch themselves quite thin (financially) when they buy a house, and that’s a time when they specifically need to pinch pennies.
March 27, 2011 2:45 pm at 2:45 pm #755878charliehallParticipant“What has been accepted IS the Rema’s codification! “
LOL!!!
Rabbi Yaakov Emden didn’t accept it. And as I pointed out, many other codifications of the Rema have not been accepted. And the Rema never codified that massive expansion of the definition of kitniyot we’ve seen in the past generations.
“a dishwasher’s relative low cost compared to a house is reason to disregard Feif Un’s rov’s p’sak that he doesn’t need a new one”
As I said, I agree that he can follow is Rov and that anyone who doesn’t accept it isn’t Orthodox. But because there are so many people who claim to be Orthodox who won’t accept it, it may be worth an extra 1/10 of 1% of the cost of the house to get a new dishwasher. Sometimes you just have to cave in to the folks who won’t accept the halachic process in order to maintain shalom among Jews.
March 27, 2011 5:52 pm at 5:52 pm #755880☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantRabbi Yaakov Emden didn’t accept it. And as I pointed out, many other codifications of the Rema have not been accepted. And the Rema never codified that massive expansion of the definition of kitniyot we’ve seen in the past generations.
I know that there is some debate about how far the issue of kitniyos extends; my point remains that one can’t disregard his own p’sak just to be able to eat in someone else’s home (unless his p’sak allows for that, as pba mentioned earlier).
The example of the dishwasher was, in my opinion, one in which even one who follows a p’sak not to rely on a certain heter might do so because of the halachos of blios. Pba’s example would also be valid; a situation in which one held that meikar hadin something is muttar.
However, in a situation that involves a clear issur according to one’s rov (or a talmid chacham’s own p’sak), there is no room for such a compromise. I naively assumed that kitniyos for an Ashkenazi in a Sefardi home would be an example that everyone could agree to.
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