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I see many threads with people asking for advice on dating, dealing with co-workers, etc. In this thread, I will offer my not-so-expert advice on all types of relationships, in my sarcastic and humorous way.
Ask away!
OK, in your humble opinion why are people so eager to give free unsolicited advice :)?
Because its easier to give advice than take it
Okay Dr. Feif i have this coworker who really brings out the worst in me she is the most infuriating person i have ever known i do so many favors for her and she shows no appreciation and is constantly complaining to me about everything how do i keep her from getting my goat?
Ok, Feif Un, here’s one: Do you think people should be taking advice about their relationships from anonymous posters in the CR? Why?
Hey Goq, nothing mentioned here helped!?
” Ask away! “
Ok, how’s this:
I want to be percieved as an underacheiver/ shlemazel so I’m giving the fewest chores at home, yet be thought of as a go-getter /A++ superdude, so my wife will brag to our neighbors (both city and bungalow) about what a terrific guy I am.
What do you suggest?
Only a “life coach” is qualified to give relationship advice.
“Sorry, that’s not a relationship question. Next! “
Sure it is! It is about your relationship to your own ego 🙂
” how do i keep her from getting my goat? ” (You’ve got a goat?)
A better question would be how do you keep her from getting your attention. Just be too busy to chat.
Tums, that would be a “dating coach”, unless they need to learn manners, in that case a Life coach would help.
Dear Dr. Feif: Since we know that everything that a person does to another person is caused by Hashem, and we are obligated to be “melamed zechus on the person who causes us any harm”, how can anyone ever have a real relationship with another person? You will never know whether you are relating to the “real person” or to the actions or words that Hashem sent to you via that person despite his/her desires to relate to you differently.
Dr Feif: Imagine I was PBA’s husband/wife. Should I allow him to troll on this site? Why or why not?
I’m not one to turn down free advice… Lets see what the good doctor can come up with…
1. Someone I know, never especially friendly with her, very sweet, not socially awkward but socially something, seems to be looking for a new best friend (though by now she may have realized I don’t exactly rush to return her calls).
2. Always had a good relationship with her, but seems to fall off the planet when its not convenient (sometimes for months at a time) wakes up and acts like nothing happened.
“hang out in the coffee room all day”
Can’t imagine it rivaling the coffe room I already hang out in. Plus the cig smoke would drive me nuts, so that’s a no-go.
Any other ideas?
Lol, very good!
Feif Un, excellent advice to Kapusta, I would just add, ask for references, if thats OK with Tums. Oh well even if its not.
I have this very frustrating love/hate relationship.
When I’m bored, and interested…. nothing.
When i’m not, like when i’m busy and so not interested, then I get bombarded. won’t give me a few minutes of peace anf quiet.
VM, Texts, Rrrring, vvvibrater, Rrrring, vvvibrater,.
When I look to you, I get you nothing?
Now that i’m busy here you go. LEAVE ME ALONE!!!
What do I do?
“at least your wife can boast about you being in BMG”
Not sure if she’d be proud. I know I would’nt be. The only place I can see myself being happy in BMG is the Executive Suite
this thread is hysterical.
bpt- if you were my husband I would boast about you all day. you are awesome!
i dont have any now! will think of one though i promise!!!!!!
ok what do you do if you told someone to be in touch with you ( a younger girl that needed you at some point) and then she calls you every 3 minutes and makes you nuts. how do you kindly tell her that you have a life and have no patience for her? but you cant hurt her and shes very sensitive!!!!!!!!!!
Let her know that you care about her and set up a time once a week for her phone call.
” if you were my husband “
Now that you’re engaged, no one else exists, Adore.
Start bragging about chosson # 1 (as he no doubt is doing about his kallah)
bpt- he’s not doing that trust me and I’m not doing that either (except to his mother when I wanna pump her up a little)
Feif, i think mod42 has a phone number you can give to such people when you want to outsource such friendships. If your guruship wishes to ask him to provide it, that is.
I don’t want to be the bad guy here, but is it possible to steer clear of the suicide stuff?
This is a great thread btw.
Thanks Feif! how’d you know I have terrible games.
As for the cool ringer,any suggestions.
I’m afraid my idea of cool is the “Incy Wincy Spider” ringtone.
Whats the question?
i was just passing through (reading the news) and saw this thread – it’s hysterical!!!! great answers, feif on! (i especially love your answer to bpt, cuz it’s so true. couldn’t help l(ing)ol.
adorable – mazal tov!!!!!! (didn’t know you were engaged till now. that’s wonderful!
good.jew – i think abba ben aristotle is pba’s father.
i’m not really here – so have a great yom tov everyone and a sweet and healthy new year.
feif on – my only relationship question right now is: how do i have a better relationship with my boss, who happens to be the King of this World? (i might not be looking up the answer, cuz i have a feeling He’d rather me not be here – the coffee here is extremely addictive for me, but you never know. 😉 )
Lol!
can’t go to another thread – my Boss wants me to get back to work, like you wrote in your first paragraph. Thanks for the advice. I think i won’t switch to another department though as there are great benefits and perks where i am now. Though, i may at times have to sit back and enjoy the popcorn.
binah
a brief welcome back to you. Thanks for your YO”T wishes and same to you.
Dear Feiffy,
Why do so many posters retire early or semiretire? And how long does the average CR poster last here?
bina- thanks. you must have missed the news.
“Change your last name to Kotler, and apply for a job.”
Now that I think about it, if I take the job, it will mean wearing a tie 24/7 and being hounded by the press corps.
Not for me.
Feif – the more I consult with you, the more I realize I have no reason to want to / need to change any detail in my (for the most part) wonderful way of life.
For this, I needed to consult with a relationship adivsor?
” he’s not doing that trust me “
Oh no? You think he’s telling people he got his new watch from a vending machine?
I think, short of carrying a photo in his wallet, he is quite proud about being engaged. And so should you. Just because it did’nt take 5 years, is no reason to take it for granted.
Dont.
Feif,
once he changes his name to Kotler he can no longer claim to be chassidish.
btw, this thread is hysterical! thanks for the laughs!
bpt- i likes the advice you are getting on here! making me laugh
“just tell them you’re also chassidish”
No, that will cause other problems. Then, I’ll need to start making the Parlor meetings in Willy and Monroe instead of Wesley Hills and Lawrence, have Mezamrim and Meal Mart instead of <enter name of top entertainer> and <enter name of top caterer>
My guys will be thrilled, but the BMG alums (who look forward to the events) will be like fish out of water.
Looks like my BMG future will need to be limitied to my kids attendance.
Oh well. Next idea, coming right up!
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