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I’m kind of cooking right now and need to get this off my chest. A box of some private materials was shipped to me and I found the box by my door not too long ago ripped open. It seems obvious that my “overly excited to open the mail” neighbor also expecting a box just attacked it not even looking at the name on the label to see if it was theirs. I mean what’s your problem? You rip it open and you don’t apologize or anything just leave it at my door assuming Ill understand? How do you open a box without knowing if its yours?! Maybe its your spouses, maybe its your child’s maybe its your neighbors? Maybe there’s something in there that you have no business seeing? Ahh I’m just so upset. I wish I knew which neighbor it was so at least I know who to be upset at and who the guilty one is.
Anyways thanks for reading and letting me vent a little. Next time you guys open mail remember to always make sure its yours first!
wow, ouch. That is NOT fun. And assur to open someone’s mail too. Someone seriously owes you an apology. Yich
I feel for you, but some food for thought: maybe he’s better off not apologizing, because you’ll then feel embarrassed every time you see him, as you’ll know he saw your private items.
What about the neighbor who throws your mail out? I used to subscribe to the Reader’s Digest magazine and after a few months of not receiving it, I called their customer service. They explained that it was mailed to me every month. After doing a bit of snooping and questioning, I found out a neighbor had been taking the magazines. When I asked her for them, she said she was throwing them out for me. She explained that she knows I really don’t want to read “those goyishe books” but that “you didn’t have the Koach to throw them out on your own”. Since I was able to receive the magazines on my iPad shortly thereafter, I let her behavior and stealing go.
WIY- maybe he/she opened it without looking at the name, and then was too embarrassed to own up to it. He/She left it by the door to make sure you get it without having to face you. Look at the bright side- at least it’s not bh18’s neighbor stealing it… I have a non-jewish neighbor that can’t keep any tenants for too long because he goes through their mail and their trash. Don’t ask me what he’s looking for…
Order a package of dye bombs.
bh18: Did that really happen? Stealing someone’s mail is a federal crime. She could get into real trouble for that!
wow, that is terrible! ever since i learnt about the issur of opening someone else’s mail, i am overly careful, i wont open or throw out even an advertisement that i’m almost 100% sure will be thrown out by that person. All mail that does not belong to me gets returned unopened. We’re still getting mail from the old owners of our house and they arent alive anymore, we return them to the sender.
miritchka- i’m not sure opening and throwing out are the same thing l’halacha. You should find out
wiy- of someone who you know is dead? I dunno
To all those being mistreated,
I’d simply say to the person involved -that I believe you took my mail or opened it and IF it ever happens again -I want you to know that it’s a federal crime and I will report it.
Whether you report it or not is up to you, but 9 times out 10 if you say it seriously enough – if won’t ever happen again.
Pretty horrible thing to do.
Reading someone else’s mail violates one of the takkanot of Rabbenu Gershom.
rebdoniel: So Sephardim are exempt, not having ever been makabel the cherem?
LOL. Tot imagining all kinds of embarrassing scenarios right now.. involving the overexcited neighbors confused/surprised face and his whole family involved in the awkward return back to ur porch without u noticing… AHAHAA. (Sorry.)
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