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kapusta: sounds like a pretty bad day to me
aussie, well said!
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AOB, I can tell you from experience or anything, but I don’t think those smile for the camera are too fake…
random question: (probably for a mod/editor) what was the first topic in the CR and what was the first day it was around?
Summer ’07 about getting drunk at kiddushim. I think?
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kapusta: the cr started out from the ”out of the mail bag” on the homepage, then redirected you to the cr! i think it was in the summer about either the idea of the bungalow colonies or kiddashim in bungalow colonies!
anonymisss: summer ’08, last summer!
Jax, the first part you’re right about but what was the date? just curious (notice to 55, that was curious, not Curious)
that’s it? feels like forever but i think you’re right! ha ha my addiction’s really bad
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anonymisss: yeah the addiction does that you!
kapusta: Joseph said it was in July i think once! we should ask Joseph, he’s been here since the start!
dont talk, mines worse! (but one pro, I am TRYING not to watch anything until lag baomer and because of the CR, so far so good!
it started from an out of the mailbag that directed you to the cr(i think that was the only way to get to the cr then) i think it was two letters about kiddushim and it was right b4 last summer
ask joseph, he can tell you every detail about it -who was the first poster etckapusta: i went to the out of the mailbag section on the homepage, & dug it out for you!
Out Of The Mailbag: (Flatbush Kiddush: Tznius & Drinking Out Of Control)
June 14, 2008-with this letter the editor links you to the cr! but to the cr homepage board, not to that thread!
if you had a choice, would you want to be a mod?
AOB: No.
an open book: hey that’s my dream in life-to be a mod! but never ganna happen! 😉
aussie: any reason why not?
I wouldnt be able to follow the rules and its more fun to post
aussie: hey you came back 🙂
ok
AOB, permanently, probably not. I’m very curious what the page looks like and evrything, I would want to be a mod for a day or two as a trial.
kapusta: i wonder if the they have to mod a minimum amount or can they do it whenever they want? in which case they could stop modding for a while & then pick it up again when they feel like it, right?
random question:
the words–
am, is, are,was,were,been,do,does,have,has,had,may,might,must,become,feel,taste
what is the grammar word used for theses words?
i had to memorize it in around 4th grade & just can’t remember what the grammar word is!
state of being verb. but i don’t think all of them are.
jax: you mixed together 2 categories of words (but some of those words are in both categories). helping verbs & linking verbs.
AOB, I guess so, but you would probably have to ask a mod that, I think almost all the mods come on (some not as often as others, ahem, 72, ahem) eventually, all have been on somewhat recently other than the missing 86. (anyone ever hear from him? what was the real story or is that classifies info?)
Jax, the begining sound like helping verbs, the end sounds like the five senses… Jax, are you having a problem with crossed memories? 😉
random question: how is it possible to link a specific post?
anonymisss: do you have an answer for me on this one?
moish, kapusta, aob: thanx ya all!
kapusta: i did ask a couple different ways but they just joke around! k i just learned this on the attn mods thread – click the # sign next to “posted 6 hours ago” of the post you want to link to, & copy the url (i think that’s what it’s called) of the page you get to
jax: not sure how that helped much but no problem 🙂
they’re all state of being verbs, moish is correct. Taste and feel can be used as either state of being or action verb, for example, The cake tastes good (state of being) I tasted the cake (action) or The sun feels so hot today (state of heatstroke if you wear a hat and jacket) or Can I feel that piece of fabric? (action)
Was that clear?
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state of being verb. but i don’t think all of them are.
Moish, seems like you’re a very good teacher! Or should that be a very good student?
>> or The sun feels so hot today (state of heatstroke if you wear a hat and jacket)<<
Oh no, not again. Does this topic have to hijack every thread??
Sorry, areivim. I’ve been kind of absent the last two days and I wrote that before I saw what was going on there.
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anonymisss: thank you, english teacher 🙂 but aren’t do, does, may, might, must, etc. helping verbs, not any state of being?
anonymisss: state of being verbs, yeah that’s it thanx!
random question: I have a friend who is (literally) obsessed with psychology. She comes up with a term for everything. She is convinced that I dont open up to anyone (probably wants me to talk to her), and that I’m hurting myself. Actually shes right, (about the first part, way off on the second) but its working very well this way and I dont really have too much to talk about (that she could help me with). I have tried (repeatedly) to tell her that I am absolutely fine without her help but she refuses to take no for an answer and she continuously tells me to do something (which wont really help anything). Question, how do I explain to her that I work best when I dont discuss my life with people in a way that she’ll understand? She is very much into “talking, and getting things off your chest”.
Hope it wasn’t too confusing. Thanx in advance!
kapusta, sounds like your friend means well just isn’t exactly a professional in the field. (btw, no therapist would ever force a client to talk before the client is ready.) Could be she is right about both the first and second part, it isn’t healthy to keep everything inside for very long. It often ends up sneaking out in the most unexpected way at the most unexpected time, it might even shock you when it happens. Whether or not she’s right, you do NOT have to tell her anything that you don’t want to. You can very nicely tell her thank you so much for caring about me, I’m dealing with the situation in the way that is easiest for me right now. When I’m ready to talk (and it doesn’t ever have to be to her,) I know that you’re here for me. End.
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kapusta: …do i know you?
anonymisss, I dont keep things bottled up inside me, it doesn’t build up, I dont care about most things, so there isnt much to talk about. The only things I would talk about are the things that G-d gave me to deal with, and I deal with those on my own. the thing is she asks and asks and is VERY intimidating, especially when she doesn’t get the answer she wants. One time, (to make her happy) I started talking to her, and she started telling me that I’m thinking about everyone else in my family more than I should, and completely brushed aside what I told her, (in a second) and said I dont do enough for myself. (advice which I found to be not only unprofessional, but completely stupid.) She told me something during the day and then went as far as calling me to tell me before it was in a sort of mocking way, but she really wants me to know that shes there. She is EXTREMELY pushy, and refuses to be told off.
AOB, why, is that you I described? shes over 26 anyway… unless you lied about your age, or she lied about hers. 😉
that was supposed to be 16, not 26, sorry!
kapusta: well, i have this 1 friend i am a bit like that to, but only once in a while & i’m definitely not that pushy. or intimidating. & no,
i don’t lie. if i don’t wanna say something i just say “i’d rather not say”
i would never say something that’s not truthful. don’t you know that?? -moish01
kapusta: is there a nice way to tell her that you really don’t like when she does this & for her to please stop?
AOB, I thought you said you wouldn’t quote that anymore? Now, someone might not trust you in the future;(
kapusta, I hear what you’re saying, that’s pretty rough for you. It’s hard to deal with people who are…ummm…. very assertive, (did I say that nicely enough? I think it’s a nicer word than bullies.) The only advice I can give you is don’t back down. Show her that you are consistent in your refusal to supply her with information (aka, satisfy her curiousity.) It seems to me that you’re a pretty confident person and you are probably capable of withstanding pressure, even though she’s so pushy. Best of luck to you! Keep us posted.
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AOB, then I guess its not you. 🙂
Jax, I tried, and the funny thing is I dont think she means it. If I had to guess, I would say when she was younger, she went through something that wasn’t addressed and now shes going through more because of it. (I know she was.is going through something that was mostly of her own doing, but more psychological) and now shes probably trying to protect me from the same thing, subconsciously. She does not take no for an answer and I think she does this only with me because I have other friends who are even closer with her than I am and I cant imagine she does the same thing to them.
anonymisss, read what I wrote to Jax. and thanx, I’ll try!
anonymisss: as far as i remember, i said i was going to stop using it all the time, didn’t say i would never quote it again.
kapusta: yeah that is good, isn’t it 🙂
what anonymisss is saying sounds good, i don’t have anything to add, but i agree.
it’s good that you seem to be trying to understand why she’s doing this – i think that can help to deal with & forgive the person.
wow. wow. i leave and its what 600? now were in the 2000 range????
AOB, for who? 😉
forgiving her is not really an issue, she never actually hurt me or anything, it just gets on my nerves that she thinks she can control my emotional wellness and she cant. Whenever she looks at me, she gives me this nice, sweet, “I feel for you” smile. I think her “background” (for whatever its worth) in psychology is to an extreme. Example: the other day she asked me what was wrong, she said I was less jolly than usual (happens to be earlier than that I was and then I was in a great mood, she got the wrong timing). I told her nothing and that I’d been up a lot of the night before (completely true) and she told me I was using a defense mechanism not to tell her what was wrong. Shes starting to drive me crazy! (and I have a pretty high tolerance level.)
kapusta: oh i see what your saying! hatzlacha is all i got for you then!
Jax, amen, and thanx!
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