I was at someone’s house after Shabbos recently and noted that before putting out their havdalah candle, they started a little mini- bonfire from it by dipping the candle into alcohol (vodka I think.) Has anyone seen this? Is there a source for this? I thought it was kind of fun.
Its not putting it out from what is in the becher. It is taking the flame and putting it into alcohol which then sets a contained blazing fire, Then they put out the candle with the wine from the becher.
When I was a kid (my parents were away) I made Havdolah on whisky and, obviously, dipped the candle afterwards … I nearly set the house on fire! Never again!
I’m told that my grandparents (who I never knew) had a shtarke minhag to light their first post-Shabbos cigarette from the Havdolah candle.
Dr E, old school yidden would never blow out a candle. It’s considered a terrible thing, though you’ll hear various reasons given, which is a sign that nobody really knows why.