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  • #591205
    ty
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    Should I let my son go collecting on Purim?

    #674110
    YW Moderator-42
    Moderator

    As long as you know that he is with responsible people who won’t drink and drive and won’t cause a Chilul Hashem, why not?

    #674111
    Halelujah
    Member

    How old is your son?

    You know your son, if HE is responsible AND he is with responsible people, as you said, why not?

    Make sure you reiterate to him the yearly set of reminders about the potential danger that could result from irresponsibility and recklessness on purim.

    #674112
    aries2756
    Participant

    There are a lot of variables one has to consider before asking this question.

    1. The age of the child.

    2. Who they are collecting for, a tzedaka that you approve of and support.

    3. Who organized the groups.

    4. Who the driver will be

    5. Where they are going

    6. How you can contact him

    7. When he will be home

    Many yeshivos send their boys out collecting without any regard to the fact that the boys are mechuyav to have a seudah as well and should be at HOME for the seudah. They also rarely get involved and do not wish to be responsible for the arrangements including paying for the costumes.

    When groups come to OUR home, before my hubby gives a check he asks to meet the driver and if he is a young driver we ask to see his license. We also make sure that the driver is not drinking and we offer coffee to him.

    WE don’t appreciate bochurim coming in drunk to our home and they will not impress upon us to give them a check when they are that irresponsible. I have a table set up with cake, soda and coffee. If anyone asks us for mashkeh or even wine, we show them the door.

    We also ask who the boys are and where they go to school.

    It is hard to collect money in these hard economic times, and the job should not be left to young bochurim although we enjoy their enthusiasm and spirit.

    So you really need to consider how old your son is, who he will be going with and were they will be going.

    #674113
    Just Smile
    Participant

    Mod 42 – I wouldn’t necessarily want my son with a bunch of drinking and smoking boys. It depends who my son is obviously and how old he is.

    #674114
    Mosh3
    Member

    Well obviously the older he is the more responsible he will be

    #674115
    shlomozalman
    Member

    No.

    #674116
    YW Moderator-42
    Moderator

    Just Smile, I said that he should be with responsible people. That means no drinking, smoking, etc.

    Klal Gadol, if you will cause a Kiddush Hashem, go for it, if chas veshalom it will cause the opposite, then don’t.

    #674117
    Peerimsameach
    Participant

    Yesss!!!

    #674118
    ty
    Member

    why ?

    #674119
    Peerimsameach
    Participant

    most of the time its completly safe bc ur going with r”y or rabbanim and even if it does get a bissel wild that’s part of the experience.ur going to make it forbuten(assur) for ur kid to go out and join there freinds then there going to go out on their own and its for a gut cause y nt (if thier asking to go out and collect)go out and do mitzvoh.this is one of the few things we look forward 2.and we end up by a big Baal tzedakahs house having a geshmack time ats wrong with that. Nt 2 mention all the gelt for the yeshiva

    #674120
    ty
    Member

    you should be learn on the holy day of purim

    #674121
    Peerimsameach
    Participant

    Sum1has to do the collecting and y nt take the buchirim who have a lil more chayes

    #674122
    Peerimsameach
    Participant

    without the gelt their won’t b a beis medresh to learn in

    #674123

    peerimsameach please speak english… it is very hard to understand your way of typing

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