Something i wrote a few years ago on a blog.
I was listening to a lecture and the speaker mentioned about awe and love of G-d. He said that Yiras Hashem(fear of G-d) does not mean terror. The word yira is connected to the word ro’eh(see)
For example, in a relationship, a person should see the preciousness of the other and respect the other person. From there, the person goes on to work on love. Respect motivates us to notice the other and honor them; we don’t dream of hurting the relationship we have with someone. – Love motivates us to be close to them –
So too, we should work on noticing Hashem in our life who gives us both pleasant things and challenges, which we see in retrospect is for the best. And we should work on Yirah, respecting Him and the people around us. Plus, we should be aware that when we do something wrong, we hurt the relationship, which in turn makes us grow apart from each other. However, it can be mended and healed if we put in the effort to do so. It’s best of course, to try not to mess up, but of course it’s happens b/c we’re human, and so there’s teshuva.
Once we have Yirah and respect for G-d , we build the love.
By the way, one good way to build a connection is through personal prayer.
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