Please Include Photo

for all those overweight girls, don’t despair. I have a few friends that are specifically into overweight girls. Not every guy wants a thin girl.

Do they insist on a photo first, to make sure the girl is sufficiently overweight?

I did see a photograph of my wife before I met her. She looked OK, I didn’t think she’d be anything special, but I met her anyway.

Needless to say, I was extremely wrong.

I have no problem with a pic, but then he has to send one to me for my daughter to see, as well. It cuts both ways.

oomis:

Has that ever actually happened? That they asked for a pic and you asked for one also?

I know a guy who only wanted a thin girl. Everyone told him he should look deeper than just looks, but he kept looking deeper and deeper and he just couldn’t get past it.

Couldn’t agree more with BPT. Yes for boys it is expensive and annoying, not easy to keep going out.

Yes it is not geshmak for a boy who is learning to keep missing seder and face their chavrusa again and again after a date falling through because of looks or other reasons..

A boy ends up being burnt out faster than a girl though. A boy has his learning, and his yeshiva life is basically his life. A girl on the other hand has a social, work, maybe college life.

If I would have gotten a dollar for every time a shadchan told that the girl was beautiful, gorgeous and pretty I’d be a very rich man. When I first started dating about 7 years ago I didn’t ask for a picture beshita, but when shadchanim would tell me that the girl is absolutely gorgeous, I’m telling you…., and I personally verified that it was not so(at least to me) pictures started getting more of a necessity. To avoid hurting anyone’s feelings. Yes I do send a pic to whomever asks.

I never asked for photo of a girl when I was dating, although I seriously considered it, when my 70+ year old Rebbe, who could barely see the sefer 2 feet in front of him, came over to me one day and said “do I know a pretty girl for you” 🙂

I was once looking to buy a house. I knew that the most important thing was how functional it was, and how sound the construction was. But, I would only be able to tell that by walking through it and having a inspector look at it.

I also needed that it was on a nice looking block. This was non- negotiable (8 cow block).

I had good reasons for this, and they were a definite deal breaker, even though not as important as the other things.

I ran into a problem. Many times the broker would shlep me out to see a house, which as soon as we parked I knew was no good, since the block was ugly. Finally, I just asked for a picture of the block before shlepping out.

Some people told me I was being petty by asking for a picture. I was looking first at the least important part.

“he probably meant the word “pretty” in a different way than you thought”

He didn’t.

I firmly believe that pictures are a two way street. Whoever asks for one, must offer one in return.

popa

Every time your wife is looking a little worse for the wear do you send her under the knife for a remodel?

Just wondering…

Did I ever imply that I am married? My mistake if I did.

Sorry to ruin this fun.

No, I did not imply it yesterday. I said it was a mistake if I did, as I meant to never imply either way. You can read every one of my old posts, I am sure I have never implied it, and if I did, it was a while ago, and I may have gotten married since then.

You also don’t know where I learned. You don’t know what I do. You probably can deduce I am not learning anymore from my hours online.

I keep my cards close.

So, what about my house?

PBA I here but disagree with your analogy

Seriously, man, we can all tell how single you are.

What married man compared his wife to a HOUSE? Sheesh. You’re not even supposed to tell her she could stand to lose 5 pounds, let alone that she’s as big as a house.

Any married man who makes a comment like yours would undergo a change in status 🙂

shimmel that logic is fashimmelt

squeak

IDK, I was always under the impression he was married….

“Its a shocker to see a person’s face for the first time when you meet them”

Considering some of the people I’ve met in life, I’d say a bigger shock is hearing their voice after seeing their photo. Anyone remember a basketball player named Mark Eaton who played in the late 80s early 90s? A massive 7’4 fellow built like a soda machine with arms and legs. The first time I heard him speak I couldn’t stop laughing, he sounded very much like my little daughter, very high pitched voice (what made it funnier is the advertisement was an NBA promo about child abuse – it showed him as a menacing fellow, as the camera slowly scrolled up from his sneakers to his face – then he says “If I look menacing to you, think how you look to a little kid” in that whiny high pitched voice).

Perhaps in addition to a photo, you should ask for a voice sample so that her voice doesn’t throw you for a loop as well.

popa-

I never heard a field object to being called an ox, but if you try your half of the saying in real life you get a rolling pin to the head. QED.

shimmel do u ever leave home?

Sorry my post went up twice…

I am a very visual person. It’s a shocker to picture one thing and see quiet another.

Call me shallow or whatver but If the guy is bad looking and its the first time i saw him, all I will see the entire date is his face. It WILL bother me the entire time.

If it’s something I got used to already, because I studied it, then it wouldnt bother me half as much.

Cshapiro–No never, i’m a hermit

I have no funny response.

Now, how did you know the qed business?

the guys not askin for a picture, his mother is- she wants to see if you’re: aidle, pretty, skinny, cute, etc. she also happens to show it to her son which if i may ask- is that tzneius? i mean i’m not one to talk about tzneius being i’m a teenage girl but then the guy is marrying her for her looks and isn’t that pretzus? to all the guys out there- GET YOUR PRIORITES STRAIGHT!!!! not every girl is 5″2-5″4, size 0-2, blonde hair, blue eyes, chesed head, g.o., popular!!! is what you want a trophy/ photograph or someone who understands you, cares about you etc.???? i for one would NEVER give a picture, if his mother is the one asking- i don’t want a mother in law who is so into looks- she should want a baalas chesed and middos tovos!! if he’s asking then i tell him go jump in a lake! ur obviusly conciete and full of yourself because you think you deserve someone who is practicly perfect- they make a little someone that pleases everyone- her name is BARBIE! she’s practically perfect and u can take her where ever you want- if someone asks for a pix maybe i’ll just give one of her- because it seems thats what everyone is looking for!!! and mothers- ur sons aren’t always the little perfect tzaddik/talmud chochom you think they are- u don’t want to no wat goes on in yeshivos!! (i only no this cuz i have brothers)shiddichum is now like a factory! the guy orders wat he wants- and a girl is made- straight out of sem!!! wat happened to the old way? before resumes? i have older siblings of who met their bashert without this factory way of shidduchim- someone knew someone who knew someone who had a cuzin who would be perfect for your son!!!! thats the way it went and it usually worked!

Hey, he can compare his hypothetical wife to a house. Shlomo Hamelech compares the aishes chayil to a cargo ship…haysay kianiya socher…

To the one who commented (I forget who, as I write this), yes, I was kidding about the voice.