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what do parents of the girl usually look for in a boy that would make them really love to have him as a son-in-law? and what does a girl look for in a boy that would make her wnt to marry him?
Why are you asking about what the boy’s parents want, and what the girls want?
Shouldn’t you ask about what the boy wants?
I understand. I am wondering why you would want to marry a boy’s parents.
Firstly, they are often married to each other.
Secondly, only one of them is a man.
Thirdly, he might be much older than you.
Oh. I see. I was misreading it.
I am confused. Who said anything about wanting to marry the boy’s parents? And how, in any way does the question imply that at all?
To answer the OP, I don’t think there is any overall set standard, nor do I think anyone can make such a thing. Each person is different and some people are looking for an immature person (sometimes because they are immature themselves) and others are looking for a very mature, settled person. While on the other hand you have people who prefer learners to earners or you have people who prefer earners to learners then you also have those people who prefer a combination of both (and within that you have different ratios). Unless the girl and her parents (which guess what? There are different kinds of parents also) are on the same page the likelihood of them wanting the same type of boy are slim. Let me as a question though. As much as a person would like both the girl and her parents to be happy, sof sof is the boy marrying the girl or her parents?
They could have the same wants but I feel the parents aren’t looking for a son-in-law, they are helping their daughter find a husband (if they were looking for a son-in-law then they would be looking to marry the boy-kinda a reverse situation to someone marrying a girl for her family)
Just my opinion
as the Mom of 2 married daughters,(29 & 21), I wanted a boy with good midos who would take care of my daughter, & care about her & her needs more than anything else (obviously not speaking about Hashem et al.)
before I get trounced on.. I’m not necessarily speaking about financially… one of my sons-in-law has been in Kollel 7 1/2 yrs now, & the other is an enterprising ‘blue-collar’ worker of sorts.
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