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Yesterday, Time Magazine published an article entitled “What Two Religions Tell Us About the Modern Dating Crisis” by Jon Birger. Well worth a read. Compares a somewhat similar issue in the Mormon community of having an oversupply of women to men ratio to the shidduch crisis (Time uses that term) in the frum community.
So, they also have this issue, despite not
having the cheirem d’Rabbeinu Gershom ?
The article quotes the usual silly commentators who are intentionally out of touch with reality such as Sam Heilmann, Michael Saloman and Chananya Weisman. They should tell you how much intentional fictional information is included.
And based on the comments to the articles about the Mormons, it seems that the sources for information about them are similarly intent on prevarication.
So it may be an interesting article but you must consider that it, for a very large part, is based on the information provided by people with the specific intent of painting those communities in a bad light by way of prevarication.
Like most Time articles about minority cultures, it doesn’t say much worth reading.
Like most Time articles about minority cultures, it doesn’t say much worth reading.
I have found almost any article in the secular media relating to frum people, culture, or practice, to be inaccurate. I suspect the same is true about any minority culture.
In fact, I suspect it’s true about most subjects.
So, they also have this issue, despite not
having the cheirem d’Rabbeinu Gershom ?
The LDS outlawed and repudiated polygamy over a century ago. Polygamists today are shunned by the mainstream LDS church.
The Wolf
When someone complains about a “shiduch” crisis among a group that has a high birthrate, one should be skeptical. If women were having real trouble finding husbands, the birthrate would immediately start declining.
I suggest the “crisis” is no more than many man acting quite rationally and trying to get established economically during what is apparently, a mild long term depression.
Akuperma, you continue to use the same flawed argument, although it has been pointed out to you numerous times.
Akuperma:
Example
9 men 10 women
9 couples
Each couple 5 children
Population increases by 250% and still 10% women unmarried
Scenario repeats itself
Wisey: 1) That’s not a crisis – society gets along fine
2) over time, the women will be less fussy;
3) Such a sex disparity is unlikely among Jews (or Mormons) unless something kills off a large number of men (such as a war)
4) To observe a real “shidduch crisis” look at India and China which allow (or at least tolerate) aborting female babies result in a very serious shortage of women – which is already causing serious social disruption
Joseph,
I think the article mentions and dismisses that as significant.
They might both be true. An age gap/population growth combination would cause a disparity, and more boys leaving the fold (or even simply looking for wives outside of the mainstream shidduch scene, would cause a disparity.
If they’re both true, it makes the disparity worse.
Joseph,
” I would hardly take a journalists guess or statement as having anything to do with reality”
Fixed that for you.
Your welcome.
Why would an article dismiss something as significant?
“Insignificant”. Sorry about that. The terror of autocorrect and poor typing skills.
Or it may primarily be age gap/population growth.
Neither issue precludes dealing with the other.
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