older girls for younger guys

if their rite 4 e/other, thats wat counts!

Not to be rude, but if a 20 year old male marries a 28 year old female (for sake of discussion, not taking into account relative maturity – we’ll assume an unusually mature 20 year old) — they could still end up with crowded house full of children, and when she is 78 and he is 70, the age gap won’t seem very significant at all (and since women last longer, she’ll probably avoid the problem of a long widowhood, though that isn’t a problem in the frum community since in our community there are lots of grandchildren by them).

??????!

lol @ yentingyenta “very low” 20’s.

If a guy is uncomfortable then no. If he really doesn’t care, then yes. Some bochurim I know really don’t like the idea of being younger than their bashert. These are bochurim who are confident, happy, and have a solid self-esteem. So, it really depends on the boy’s level of comfort. I feel that no matter who is older, it shouldn’t be by more than 5-6 years. You have to be not only compatible, but the ages should at least be close as well.

My grandfather was six years younger than my grandmother.

They had a beautiful happy life together,

Why should there be anything wrong? R’ Pesach Krohn is a big proponent of this and encorouges people to do this.

@lolkatz:

Niiiice.

So, everyone has heard of a 25 year old guy marring a 19 year old girl, and thought nothing.

Or a 24 year old guy marrying a 26 year old girl.

At what point do you start wondering if everything is ok?

How about 28 year old guy and 19 year old girl?

How about 20 year old guy and 25 year old girl?

What are your cutoffs before you start snickering to yourself (and maybe to your chavrusah, just a bit)

My 58 year old great-grandfather married my 28 year old great-grandmother.

I just heard recently about a 20-year-old boy that married a 28-year-old girl (I don’t know them personally).

And my mother is four years older than my father, too.

It really comes down to compatability and level of maturity, not age.

I personally know Two couples where the boy was 23-24 and the girl

was 27 yrs. old when they got married. They are both married approx. Five years with kids and they are very happy. Of course when people heard the Shidduch their first reaction was of total disbelief….but Boruch Hashem it’s working out nicely. Also, Twenty-five years ago my sister-in-law at age 24 married a guy who was 22 at the time (then it wasn’t so common and is more acceptable now) they have a large family and are Boruch Hashem very happy together. With the Shidduch crisis today, people should be more open to this idea and help establish more Yiddishe families for Klal Yisroel.

This reminds me of an Readers Digest anecdote.

So this 64 year old dude is taking a college chemistry course, and his lab partner is a 24 year old girl. And he likes her. Naturally.

So one day he is by the doctor, and asks the doctor: “Say, do you think a 40 year age gap should get in the way of love?”

So the doctor looks at the guys chart, and says, “Why, are you thinking of dating a 104 year old?”

lol popa

Off the bat I would date a girl that is three years older or younger. Those limits can be pushed though, depending on the circumstances.

What difference does 2 or 3 or 4 years age difference either way make? Although I know some couples where the age difference is much greater, I don’t think that has effected the marriage. Now I would never have thought about a woman 10 years my senior.

My great grand father was 3 1/2 years younger than my great grand mother. Whenever someone wished him ad meah v’esrim, he answered “und drei un halb!”