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Any ideas for a present for the kallah to give a chassan in the yichud room?
Do u have any idea what the yichud room is abt? U already r the gift
Jewelry is standard, especially a necklace, and especially pearls.
Yes, DaasYochid. I am sure the chosson will appreciate a necklace or pearls. Good job standing to your username!
Just curious why are you asking what she should get you?
“Any ideas for a present for the kallah to give a chassan in the yichud room?”
Keys to a shiny new Lamborgini.
Oops.
I didn’t know the kallah gives the chosson a gift in yichud. Is this a new thing?
No not a Lambo, an RS6 is way more practical and better + its faster in the right tune….
Cufflinks, watch, wallet, flask, I don’t know, whatever you want, for every guy and every couple that’s different.
Tur/Shulchan Aruch (I know it’s bulky but it’s still better than giving him pearls).
Give him a gentlemanly present, as suggested above. I think a wristwatch with a meaningful, personal, loving engraving on the back would be a great idea.
I got my husband something he loveddddd but definitely not a common yichud gift. He wanted a leather recliner chair really badly, but didn’t want to spend the money on it when we were picking out our furniture. I ordered him one that was delivered during Sheva brachos. I printed out a picture and wrapped the picture and gave that to him.
When the time comes (please, HaShem, may it be soon), I’d want something like a gift certificate for Smokey Joe’s, or for Sur la Table.
Golf clubs. One thing no married man should be without.
You mean my wife was supposed to give me something? Is there a statute of limitations?
I was told to give a leather bound Siddur, but being that our marriage was during the Omer [during the same Hebrew month as both Yom haAtzmaut & Yom Yerusholayim] I transposed this idea to a leather Shovu’os Machzor, intending for gift being conferred at such an important juncture in time to last a lifetime, but realizing that a Siddur being used daily shall suffer the vicissitudes of tear & wear.
You mean my wife was supposed to give me something? Is there a statute of limitations?
+1
“Im Jewish and I know it” is 100% right! Not much more needs to be said and I have never posted before but I felt that I had to comment on this and do whatever I can to contribute to stopping this new “tradition” that I think is contributing to marital troubles.
What kind of crazy women’s lib idea is this? When I got married almost 10 years ago, my husband told me about the gift his sister got his brother-in-law for the yichud room. They are modern orthodox and I explained to my husband basically what “Im Jewish and I know it” said. I have to tell you that we are very happily married and his sister is divorced (her choice of yichud room present did not do anything to help their marriage). The premise of the idea of a gift for the chosson in the yichud room is so misguided! Your gift to your husband is to happily and lovingly be his wife and to build your home on the foundation of kedusha and tahara– as will be said under your chuppah–…v’heteer lanu es han’suos lanu al yedai chuppah v’kidushin…ba”H m’kadesh amo Yisroel al y’dai chuppah v’kidushin. This is your gift to him and it’s not always an easy one but I can almost guarantee you that if that is your gift to him you will have a wonderful marriage! Yes, his job of buying some jewelry is easier but as you will b’ezras Hashem see, that will be the case in many of your roles in your home (giving birth comes to mind.)…Or you can buy him some old dinky gift! 🙂 May you have a beautiful marriage built on kedusha and tahara and love!
shmeeq: Can you explain why you think women buying gifts for their husbands is contributing to marital troubles?
“Golf clubs. One thing no married man should be without.”
A baseball bat is just as good.
squeak
“A baseball bat is just as good.”
Depends on what your goal is.
oneofmany– There is no reason why a woman should not buy gifts for her husband. Women should always try to do things that make their husband happy. My post was about the yichud room!
Sooooo what’s the problem with giving him gifts in the yichud room? Am I missing something here?
Oneofmany
Do you assume every thread is about a problem? Lol.
shmeeq: A wife has to give her whole self and all, but all a husband has to give is a necklace?
That doesn’t even begin to make sense.
writersoul: A few minutes before the yichud room, the husband gives the wife a kesuba promising to provide for her financially.
So then why does he need to give her a necklace at all?
writersoul
“So then why does he need to give her a necklace at all?”
Because girls like stuff.
WIY: look, I’m not complaining or anything…. 🙂
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