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lol i’ll make a regular name just for you.
it’s ok. she doesn’t need to know about all my friends anyway.
in general the less she knows the better off she is. i DO want her to sleep at night, you know…
I always wondered… is it better to let parents sleep at night or worry to death knowing whats going on… I m not sure what I would prefer… ignorance is bliss… 😉 thanks moish. you are kind.. tho she prrob wants to connect wth you anyway and would happy to know some of your friends and life sitch.
i can assure you (and i’m only 16) i’d never want to know what my kid was up to he was doing a quarter of what i do. so yeah i guess in a way i’m kind (though i’ve never heard that from another person) – i don’t purposely disturb her peace.
Moish, I mean exactly that. I know quite a few guys your age who are playing the same game as you, and a bunch more who were once your age and played the game already. I knew what the answer to my question was going to be. That’s all.
hey you know guys my age? where do you live? lol maybe i know you!
good for you moish. She doesnt have to know all that you do. But mothers like to be a part of their kids lives anyway… do you have shaiches with her at all in a good way?
moish: just wonderin, howz it feel to be the topic of convo??
i guess it’s ok. i try to make her happy so i put on a big show at the shabbos table and all, but it’s still kinda strained. not that i blame her. it’s gonna sound weird, but i’m actually better with my father. most guys have it the other way around. but overall i gotta say i’m pretty lucky – i see what my friends parents are like…
Moish- It shows a lot about you that you try to make your mother happy. I’m very impressed!
i’m sorry i missed all the action. Moish congrats! you have now become more popular here than Joseph, Squeak and even brooklyn19- that’s a real WOW!
BTW- i sincerely apologize if any of my comments came accross as an attack (my writing comes accross a lot stronger than my real intentions)- I am in full agreement with everything charlie brown said in this thread.
The interesting part is that (in a normal convo with ppl I know) I never dig- I guess the CR brings out the strangest things in me :):):)
keep smilin bro and go for the goal
PS- you better bet that “normal” round here is all relative- too true
Anyone who says that it is better for a parent not to know so they don’t worry is not a parent.
Don’t let guilt cause you to hide things from your parents. They are always better off knowing (though some parents need to learn how to deal with the knowledge, and they should seek help for that).
moish01- i don’t know if you’ll check the latest on “why yidden are the BEST” so i’m posting here: PLEASE SEE MY RESPONSE by “why yidden are the BEST”. I really don’t want you to go on thinking bad of me or youself…. thanks and have a great shabbos
moish you realy impress me
squeak, you may be right, but anyone who takes your side is definitely not a kid.
and guys? don’t flatter me. i still do whatever i want – it’s not my mom’s fault so why should she suffer? trust me, she’s still not too thrilled. that’s how i look at it. don’t see what’s the big deal.
Squeak, regardless of whether or not parents should/want to know what’s going on, if a parent will react the way many parents do, it kinda makes life easier not to tell them too much.
squeak – how old are you? how old are your kids? any teenagers?
squeak,
I am a parent of teenagers and I’ll say this. In an idealistic world I’d agree with you 100%. The problem is that in reality some parents need help dealing with that knowledge and don’t have the sense to get that help for their kids sake and they wind up harming their kids by reacting the wrong way. Its unfortunate but I’ve seen it happen. For kids of those parents, they may be better off keeping things from their parents.
hey if gavra isn’t your tatte maybe squeak is, huh? or maybe I am, lol.
squeak does not sound like any of my parent. my mother would be crying before she had this conversation and my father would never be on here.
but if you’re cool enough maybe you’re my dad’s partner.
and if i told my parents what i was up to they’d NEVER sleep. my mom would just cry and my dad… i dunno what he’d do. but it’s not worth it to strain things even more. i respect their house and i don’t bring home girls or be mechallel shabbos in front of the kids. (i’m usually ok about shabbos altogether) why do they need to know every single thing? so they could be more upset? there’s nothing they could do about it anyway.
To quote myself,
(though some parents need to learn how to deal with the knowledge, and they should seek help for that).
And help is out there. If a parent doesn’t learn how to deal with a child who “falls far from the tree” so to speak (though when you analyze it, it usually turns out to be closer than you’d think), then that parent is cutting himself/herself off from being fully involved in that child’s life.
I know you said that. I was just adding that the kids of those parents who need help but dont get it will be better off keeping things from their parents.
To quote Charlie Brown:
The problem is that in reality some parents need help dealing with that knowledge and don’t have the sense to get that help for their kids sake and they wind up harming their kids by reacting the wrong way.
How terribly, unfortunately true. The interactions that I have witnessed between parents and their children who are not living their lifestyle is tragic, more tragic than what the children are doing. The parents are the ones who are doing the most destruction. As long as there is that connection and belief in the child’s ability, there is hope.
I was one of “those kids,” not too long ago and I can show you too many who were destroyed by their own parents. It’s so sad.
annonymisses could you write about yourself?
What do u wanna know abt me? I was trouble.
Hello, im new here. I was directed here from another topic by some kind people.
asdf you are so cheerful and chipper today!
welcome 2009!!! (wasn’t that welcome supposed to be about a week and a half ago? when there was some commotion outdoors… remember mod? what’s you call it? a zoo – like the one inside mod 72’s house…)
We’re all kind here.. Some are more forthright about it :]
welcome aboard… warnings…. addictions along the way
as asdfghjkl would say- on behalf of the coffeee room board i would like to welcome you to the CR.
yes 2009 don’t get too addicted like me.
Thank you, 2009, and welcome again.
Seems like there are quite a few new ones over the past day, no?
or, perhaps, new old ones?
Am i considered new??
l’chatchilah it’s l’maaaseh an echtige sufik. but to act yashrusdig, we will welcome you as a new member of the elite CR society
Yea yashrus brand new. welcome.
Moish, don’t hide things from your parents. I did the same thing, I hid everything because I didn’t wana hurt them, and when they found some things out 2 years later it totally killed them. Don’t do it
asdfghjkl: nobody, but you usually welcome people from the CR board.
I am on tonight.
and welcome syriansephardi, i must warn you the Coffee Room is addicting. enjoy
asdf-me
Bidieved!!!!!!!!!!!
myshadow-well like asdfghjkl said i never got a proper welcome. All i did was get bashed.
hiii
i love this coffee room lol
Yashrus20 – don’t feel so bad, I didn’t get a proper welcome either. So anyway, I ‘ll welcome you to the CR. WELCOME, WELCOME, BARUCH HA-BAH YASHRUS20!! Maybe Curious can write a big welcome banner to all newcomers.
syriansephardi: Don’t get ADDICTED
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