Mothers Day: Yes, Or No?

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  • #684451
    volvie
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    “No — we’ve simply decided to take their say-so on the matter.”

    IOW, you are posturing that they are or may be wrong in matters, but we nevertheless accept their wrongheadedness as law of the land. Am I more or less characterizing your position correctly?

    “we have ruled, post facto, that the matters are as they say they are.”

    Where is this ruling mentioned? How is it brought down?

    Please check that out.

    #684452
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    IOW, you are posturing that they are or may be wrong in matters, but we nevertheless accept their wrongheadedness as law of the land. Am I more or less characterizing your position correctly?

    Isn’t that the basic concept of “Lo BaShamayim Hi?”

    The Wolf

    #684453
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Just out of curiosity…

    how can you accept the notion that individually members of Chazal are fallible, but collectively there are not. Logic dictates that that should not be possible since an error by any one of the group means that, by default, the group as a whole is not infallible.

    The Wolf

    #684454
    volvie
    Member

    Lo bashamayim hi – once the Torah was revealed, there will be no further revelation? What are you getting at? You are saying, in so many words, Chazal can be wrong in halacha. This is patently incorrect.

    Where have I ever said individual members of Chazal aren’t infallible?

    #684455
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Lo bashamayim hi – once the Torah was revealed, there will be no further revelation? What are you getting at? You are saying, in so many words, Chazal can be wrong in halacha. This is patently incorrect.

    In other words, HKBH could determine the halacha one way, but if Chazal decide otherwise, then we follow them. The famous case is the oven of Achnai.

    Where have I ever said individual members of Chazal aren’t infallible?

    Again, open up a Gemara. The fact that the Gemara says about any Amora’s position “Tiyuvta d’…” proves that that person was not infallible.

    The Wolf

    #684456
    volvie
    Member

    Chazal have only and 100% consistently decided halacha as per HKBH. Stating otherwise is the plainest definition of apikorsus.

    #684457
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Chazal have only and 100% consistently decided halacha as per HKBH.

    Only inasmuch as HKBH Himself is maskim to the point of “Lo BaShamayim Hi.”

    Otherwise, how do you explain the oven of Achnai?

    The Wolf

    #684458
    Mommy613
    Member

    YESSSSSS!!!!!

    (answering the Q, mother’s day, yes or no)

    #684459
    cherrybim
    Participant

    When Chazal have a machlokis,ipso facto, someone is wrong.

    #684460
    goody613
    Member

    not acording to the gemoroh in gittin. Elu ve’elu divrei Elokim chayim

    #684461
    smh1
    Member

    Um, did anyone notice that the Mother’s Day discussion has become the Volvie/Wolf Hashkafa debate? Can we get this back on topic or close this thread? Maybe they want to start a new one to discuss this more?

    Regarding Mother’s/Father’s Day: someone here said it best. If your parent is expecting a fuss to be made, then it’s your achrayis to do it! It doesn’t matter what you personally think about the day, it’s about your parent, today and everyday.

    (btw, if you have a parent to give to, thank Hashem. Some of us can no longer do the Mother’s day thing 🙁 )

    #684464
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    IOW, you are posturing

    Minor nitpick (with no malice whatsoever): The word you’re looking for is “positing.” 🙂

    The Wolf

    #684465
    volvie
    Member

    It took you 7 hours and your making 5 previous posts since the comment in question to realize that!? Who was your English teacher again? (No malice intended… 🙂

    #684466
    SJSinNYC
    Member

    Goody, there are some things that are mutually exclusive.

    For example, R’ Hillel said in the gemara that Moshiach already came and will not be coming in the future(Sanhedrin 98b). But we don’t believe that. Its one of the 13 ikkrei emunah that Moshiach is coming in the future.

    Either Moshiach came already and is done or he is coming in the future. How do you reconsile that?

    #684467
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    It took you 7 hours and your making 5 previous posts since the comment in question to realize that!? Who was your English teacher again? (No malice intended… 🙂

    Alas, when I first read your post, I skimmed over it, but I got the meaning. The error caught my eye when I was reviewing it several hours later.

    The Wolf

    #684468
    binyomin5766
    Participant

    If I want shalom bayis, I will remember Mother’s day as well as my wife’s birthday every year. Of course, they frequently fall in close proximity to one another, which does simplify matters for me….

    #684469
    outoftownjew
    Participant

    Volvie,

    Please get real. How many of us really do kibud av vaem daily? Celebrating a day for our mother’s and father’s is not diregarding the other daily mitzva we have but it let’s us realize the honor that we owe our parents.

    #684470
    cherrybim
    Participant

    goody613 – “not acording to the gemoroh in gittin. Elu ve’elu divrei Elokim chayim”

    Obviously, that can’t apply to everything; Elu ve’elu is a process. If one member of chazal says a peice of meat is kosher but the p’sak din is like those who say it’s treif; are you going to eat it because they are both right, eilu v’eilu?

    #684471
    volvie
    Member

    “The error caught my eye when I was reviewing it several hours later.”

    B”H. I am pleased to learn that you are chazering (reviewing) my insights.

    #684472
    volvie
    Member

    “How many of us really do kibud av vaem daily?”

    outoftownjew –

    Most of us. (At least those of us in-town. You seem to be implying most out-of-towners don’t have Kibud Av V’Eim daily, but I am not mekabel that loshon hora on my out-of-town brethren. I know the vast majority of them also have Kibud Av V’Eim daily.)

    #684473
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    B”H. I am pleased to learn that you are chazering (reviewing) my insights.

    Oh, it’s not just you. I usually go back and review things I write after the “heat of the moment” is gone.

    BTW, I’m still waiting for your explanation of the oven of Achnai if you think Chazal can never “disagree” with HKBH on halachic matters.

    The Wolf

    #684474
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Most of us. (At least those of us in-town. You seem to be implying most out-of-towners don’t have Kibud Av V’Eim daily

    Alas, I’ll admit that, in this respect, you’re a better person than me.

    It is highly impractical for me to visit my father daily. So, I call him once a week. When we do speak, we spend about three minutes on the phone — but that’s simply because he’s not a talk-on-the-phone type of person. Never was – probably never will be. If I called him daily, he’d probably go mad and would not appreciate it (and would probably wonder what is wrong).

    My mother, on the hand, is a different story. While she lives much closer to me than my father and it’s fairly easy to “pop over,” my schedule really precludes me from doing so on a daily basis (most days I get home fairly late). I do, however, call her somewhat often and visit her at least once a week, if not more often.

    The Wolf

    #684475
    mosheemes2
    Member

    “Chazal have only and 100% consistently decided halacha as per HKBH. Stating otherwise is the plainest definition of apikorsus.”

    Rambam:

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    #684476
    volvie
    Member

    If I called him daily, he’d probably go mad and would not appreciate it

    Then it sounds as if your Kibud Av’ V’Eim is being fulfilled by your not calling, per Dad’s wishes.

    #684477
    rabbiofberlin
    Participant

    I have no clue how the words of the Rambam (mentioned in its original by mosheemes2) have any relevance to the long discussion about chazal being right or wrong in some instances.All the Rambam is saying is that we have to believe that HKBH speaks to us through his Nevi’im and that the Torah is G-d given, to its last letter. I have no idea how this impacts the present discussion.

    Now -as per our discussion. I think that people have an erroneous understanding of halacha and what halacha means.

    In truth, halacha has no direct connection with reality. This sounds strange but ALLOW ME TO EXPLAIN.

    We have a halacha of “bittul be’rov”, something can be “absorbed’ by the majority of what surrounds it.

    SO, when a piece of pork falls into a pot of kosher meat and is “bottul” (whether Mi’deoraissa with one in two or mi’derabbonon as less than one sixtieth) and you end up eating the WHOLE pot, you are NOT considered having eaten tereifa. because, once the halacha tells us that there is NO treifa meat there, HALACHICALLY that piece of pork turns into a kosher piece. There are some discussions about the pace of eating but the actual Psak is clear.

    The halacha of “chatichah na’aseh neveilah” rests upon the same reasoning- in the opposite direction.

    Hence, reality is not what directs halacha. It is the OPINION of the Poskim that make it halacha.

    That is what the story of “tannur achnai” tells us. Halacha is what the chachomim tell us , regardless of what reality (and heaven clearly knows better) is.

    This is also why we can say ‘ele ve’ele divrei elokim chaim”. Both sides of the Psak are -from a halachic point of view- real. We ultimately pasken like one but both are -from a chachomim point of view- correct.

    All this, however, relates ONLY to halachic questions.When we have the words of gedolim that do NOT have any relationship to halacha-then, of course, they can be wrong, whether it is science or matters that do not deal with a halachic question.

    I would be happy to hear comments on this analysis.

    #684478
    mosheemes2
    Member

    RoB,

    The Rambam defines an Apikores and it looks nothing like what Volvie said its clearest definition was.

    #684479
    rabbiofberlin
    Participant

    thank you for clarifying your posting! mosheemes2

    #684480
    gavra_at_work
    Participant

    ROB:

    To get this totally off on a tangent (and I have no interest in the argument between wolf & volvie), there is an interesting Machlokes (IIRC) between the Achronim if eating something that is Batel is a bad thing (due to timtum Halev) or Good (due to one showing emunas chachamim that the item is now mutar). I believe the Lashon of the Shaarei Teshuva is one who does not eat it is “Karov La’Apikores”.

    As a “side point”, Mothers day should be supported by those whom their mothers care about it, as if not, they will be Over the Mitzva of Kibbud Em.

    #684481
    volvie
    Member

    “Mothers day should be supported by those whom their mothers care about it”

    And Groundhog day should be supported by those whom their fathers care about it; and Earth day should be supported by those whom their mothers care about it; and Mardi Gras day should be supported by those whom their fathers or mothers care about it. Right? Because if not, they will be Over the Mitzva of Kibbud Av V’Em.

    Just let’s remember that Groundhog day and Mother’s day has nothing to do with Judaism, the Torah, or our people. Sometimes you just gotta accommodate other people’s silliness in order to maintain friendly relations.

    BTW, what the Shaarei Teshuva described fitting into as “Karov La’Apikores” doesn’t fit into the definition of the Rambam quoted by ME2. So perhaps I shall change the description of what ME2 questioned from “plainest definition” to “Karov La’Apikores”, and it shall fit in more aptly.

    #684482
    rabbiofberlin
    Participant

    gavra at wrok- thanks for the insights ! I’d appreciate even more if you show me the source of the sahhrey tshuva. your “IIRC” is not something I understand. I presume it is Yoreh Deah- hilchos taa’aruvos.

    #684483
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Just let’s remember that Groundhog day and Mother’s day has nothing to do with Judaism, the Torah, or our people.

    Neither does photography, but I’ve yet to find any posek who says it’s forbidden.

    The Wolf

    #684484
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Off-topic:

    Is it just me, or did half of this thread (as well as some others) suddenly disappear?

    The Wolf

    #684485
    cherrybim
    Participant

    volvie – Is it permitted, according to your logic, to give your mother a gift on her birthday since the mitzva of kibud em mandates that every day should be special to you, not just her birthday?

    #684486
    volvie
    Member

    It is a mitzvah of Kibud Em to give her a gift any day. No more or less on her birthday. (Erev Yom Tov though would be very appropriate and probably an extra mitzvah in itself.)

    #684487
    cherrybim
    Participant

    So volvie, what about Mother’s Day; shouldn’t it also be celebrated because of kibud em?

    #684488
    cherrybim
    Participant

    And Volvie, don’t you think a mother appreciates your gift on her birthday as this day is special to her?

    #684489
    volvie
    Member

    what about Mother’s Day; shouldn’t it also be celebrated because of kibud em?

    Of course – just as much as you celebrate it on Earth Day.

    don’t you think a mother appreciates your gift on her birthday as this day is special to her?

    As I said before, everyone has their silliness. If your mother expects a gift on her birthday, by all means accommodate her. If she expects a gift on Mardi Gras day, by all means accommodate her.

    #684490
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Mardi Gras

    You are aware, I suppose, that Mardi Gras (unlike Mother’s Day) is a religious holiday. It’s the day before Ash Wednesday, which is the start of Lent.

    The Wolf

    #684491
    volvie
    Member

    Not being the expert of gentile holidays (thankfully), I wasn’t aware of that. Thanks. Change my comment from Mardi Gras day to Groundhog Day. (That isn’t pagan or religious, is it?)

    #684492
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Change my comment from Mardi Gras day to Groundhog Day. (That isn’t pagan or religious, is it?)

    It is to the Church of the Eternal Groundhog. 🙂

    The Wolf

    #684493
    volvie
    Member

    Sounds pagan to me. 🙂

    #684494
    cherrybim
    Participant

    Yeah, I guess you’re right; mothers are just being silly when they enjoy good wishes on Mother’s Day. But if they have to be accommodated, we have no choice, sigh…

    And do you think a mother or wife would feel a bit more special if you gave them flowers during the week without piggybacking on Yom Tov or Shabbos?

    I guess you have to be lucky to have a wife or mother who doesn’t appreciate a gift on her birthday or Mother’s Day; it may save you some cash, but trust me, you get it all back.

    #684495
    volvie
    Member

    Why do you limit yourself to one day a year, when our Torah HaKedosha gives us 365 days a year for this purpose? You are throwing out 364 possibilities a year.

    “Piggybacking on Yom Tov or Shabbos”? I enthusiastically say yes. Spend all your cash on Mom and Wife these special days.

    #684496
    SJSinNYC
    Member

    And we are back to…why do you limit teshuva to Yom Kippur? You are missing out on repentance 353 other days.

    Unless Volvie uses a secular calendar 🙂

    #684497
    volvie
    Member

    Who limits teshuva to Yom Kippur? If you do, that it most unfortunate.

    Everyday is a day to do teshuva. One never knows if today is the last day of their life.

    #684498
    volvie
    Member

    Maybe the next holiday Congress will institute is a “Do Not Steal Day”. This way the people of the country will have one day a year to show respect for the rule of law. It makes about as much sense as a “Mother’s Day.”

    #684499
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Who limits teshuva to Yom Kippur? If you do, that it most unfortunate.

    And who truly limits their Kibbud Aim to Mother’s Day?

    The Wolf

    #684500
    SJSinNYC
    Member

    Volvie that’s precisely the point! No one limits teshuva to just Yom Kippur, but people *in general* focus more about teshuva on Yom Kippur than a random tuesday.

    Same thing with mother’s day – you can honor your mother all year long and just focus a little better on Mother’s day. It takes nothing away from the rest of the year.

    #684501
    cherrybim
    Participant

    No volvie, give her something special, for her. The flowers should be l’kavode Shabbos or Yom Tov; it’s like giving your wife a vacuum cleaner for your anniversary…if you have to accommodate her.

    #684502
    volvie
    Member

    Yom Kippur is assigned by the Torah. Kibud Av V’Eim is mandated by the Torah. “Mother’s Day” is assigned by some drunks in Congress, before heading to the bar or their next KKK meeting.

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