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March 15, 2011 12:49 am at 12:49 am #595699a nony musParticipant
There’s an old saying that a mother would step in front of a bullet for her child.
Does the instinct to do this come from the fact that it is her child, or that it is the child she loves? Would she step in front of a bullet for the same person if the person was not related to her?
Basically, does a mother love her child just because it is *her* child, or does the mother love the person that her child is?
March 15, 2011 1:01 am at 1:01 am #750582deiyezoogerMemberbasically, it’s both the same. because your child is yours no matter what.you would do anything to save your child even if it’s not a 100 student or a 20/20 vision eye sight…….. get it? good.
March 15, 2011 1:07 am at 1:07 am #750583aries2756ParticipantBut wouldn’t maternal instinct take over and wouldn’t a women jump in front of “any” child? Isn’t it a woman’s instinct to save any child?
March 15, 2011 1:15 am at 1:15 am #750584GrandmasterMemberaries: Would you take a bullet for a random child you were passing on the street?
March 15, 2011 1:16 am at 1:16 am #750585popa_bar_abbaParticipantaries: Would you take a bullet for a random child you were passing on the street?
Well, would you take a bullet for a random one of your children?
March 15, 2011 1:18 am at 1:18 am #750586popa_bar_abbaParticipantThere’s an old saying that a mother would step in front of a bullet for her child.
Taking a bullet for someone is no big deal.
Dying is easy; living properly is hard.
March 15, 2011 1:21 am at 1:21 am #750587aries2756ParticipantYes, I don’t think there is time to think about it, I think it would be a natural instinct to step in front of a child and protect them.
March 15, 2011 1:38 am at 1:38 am #750588wanderingchanaParticipantI think I would go batstuff crazy if someone tried to hurt my kids, or any kids.
March 15, 2011 4:25 am at 4:25 am #750589a nony musParticipantSo basically everyone said that the mother loves the child because it is their child. Not for who the child is.
Obviously, a mother loves her child no matter what problems the child may have, but she wouldn’t necessarily love the same exact person were it not here child.
Correct?
March 15, 2011 5:05 am at 5:05 am #750590🍫Syag LchochmaParticipantI think I would risk harm for another person’s child, but I don’t know that I would risk my life. I would probably stop short of risking my life for another person’s child because I would be looking out for the welfare of my own children who, B”H!!!! need me. Does that make any sense?
March 15, 2011 5:50 am at 5:50 am #750591GrandmasterMemberIt does make sense Syag, but it may leave a contradiction, albeit an understandable one. If you have more than one child, and you risk your life for one of them, you have the same issue of looking out for the welfare of your (other) children, that you speak of in the case of risking your life for someone else’s child.
March 15, 2011 6:47 am at 6:47 am #750592Mother in IsraelMemberI think that it’s the maternal instinct and that it’s only for one’s own child. There have been actual cases in Israel where mothers have lied on top of their children to protect them from terrorist bullets. This is how Binyamin Kahane’s wife saved her children. It’s not something you think about–it just comes naturally to a mother. While I think most women would want to do what they can to help other people’s children as well, I don’t think that instinct comes into play when it’s not your own.
March 15, 2011 3:14 pm at 3:14 pm #750593mytakeMemberDon’t know, not a mom yet.
March 15, 2011 9:42 pm at 9:42 pm #750594Princess123Memberparents do not always love their children. whoever came up with that was lying. just cuz its natural doesnt mean there are no exceptions. some women just arent maternal.
March 15, 2011 10:54 pm at 10:54 pm #750595shuliParticipantagree wih princess
March 15, 2011 11:02 pm at 11:02 pm #750596a nony musParticipantAgreed Princess. So when a mother tells her child that she loves him, does she love him just because he is her child or because she loves who he is?
March 16, 2011 11:38 pm at 11:38 pm #750597smartcookieMemberI think most mothers like their child because it’s their own child. Most mothers love their own children over others, myself included.
March 17, 2011 5:02 pm at 5:02 pm #750598msseekerMember“just cuz its natural doesnt mean there are no exceptions.”
And b/c it’s an exception the pain and shame is so deep. With e/1 singing the praises of the yiddishe mama, a child who is hated by his mother thinks he’s the only unlucky one in the world. In truth there are many, MANY “yiddishe mamas” (mostly with Borderline Personality Disorder) who hate their kids and often single out one child for devastating abuse. Still, it’s an exception. Most parents do love their kids.
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