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what do you women think about the husband cooking dinner a couple times a week??
Apikorsus.
I would love to be their shvigger.
What about when the man cooks better than the woman? I dated someone who once served me ravioli that were all stuck together. Another made a broccoli dish on shabbos with semi-raw chunks of white onion in it. I’ve tasted chicken soups that taste like hot dish water. When I marry, I’d be more than happy to do all the cooking (and I’d clean afterwards, too).
Only if he makes pizza.
I love to cook!
“Another made a broccoli dish on shabbos with semi-raw chunks of white onion in it.”
I am certain she did not make it on shabbos.
My boys and I make pancakes from time to time, for dinner or breakfast. I know of no better way to get my kids to take part and they love it. (They are 6 and 4)
my father is the best chef!!
My husband cooks, and he’s pretty good. On the other hand I think that I am sufficiently capable in the kitchen department, but it’s great that I can ask him to step in if I am not well, or when I have just given birth.
Men don’t mind barbequing or being a Chef or making cholent. If you don’t call it cooking they’ll do it quite happily.
If you cook well, go for it! Unless your wife thinks of the kitchen as her territory and doesn’t like when others mess with it. Speaking of mess, make sure you clean up after yourself when you’re done.
I always clean up when I’m done. I wouldn’t subject my mother to that kind of balagan.
As long as the experiment doesn’t kill your wife
My future husband better cook! There is no way I’m stepping in to a kitchen during shana rishona…I’m just gonna embarrass myself.
streekgeek- just remember that there’s no need to make gourmet meals. Chicken and potatoes are perfect…
And how exactly do I cook that?! I don’t know the first thing about cooking and I don’t have time or patience to learn or experiment. But it’s the least of my problems so I’m not worrying about it.
I do a fair amount of cooking. In fact, I cooked dinner last night — fried talapia (breaded with my own custom breading), homemade over-baked french fries and brown rice.
I happen to enjoy cooking and don’t really get the chance to do it as often as I’d like.
I remember a certain poster who once posted that it was forbidden for men to cook on a regular basis because of Lo Yilbash. Ah, the good old days of insanity.
The Wolf
streekgeek- you remove the skin from the chicken, put it in a baking tin. Peel and slice an onion and add that to the tin. Peel a potato, and cut into small pieces and throw it in too. Spice, cover with aluminum foil and bake on 350 until it smells and looks ready- usually an hour.
Thanks Gamanit. So to my lucky husband out there, you better stop eating chicken and potatoes cuz your gonna get sick of it soon. May as well also cut back on macaroni and scrambled eggs once you’re at it…
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I’d be more than happy to cook and clean for my wife, not only during shana rishona, but for all of my marriage, too.
Of course men cooking is a good thing.
I enjoy cooking and baking for my husband, but I also very much enjoy and appreciate when he makes food for us. Because he can cook, he’s better at complimenting food because he has more understanding of what goes into making good food. He also knows how to lend a hand when needed.
Ultimately, however, it’s a woman’s responsibility to feed the family healthfully.
Torah
You are married? Ah chiddush.
i would cook but the one time i tried following a cookbook …… lets just say the cake didnt make it out of the pan in one piece
If you enjoy it, don’t let it stop you.
My family likes to tell the story about how my first attempt at baking (brownies) came out hard as a rock and completely inedible.
It’s all about learning from your mistakes.
The Wolf
Bemokom she’ein nashim, hishtadel lhiyos isha. Not easily done, but plain food plainly prepared works once you get the hang of it.
Cooking and baking are fun! It takes some experience; I recommend going to a friend or relative and learning the basics. The better you get at it the more you’ll enjoy it. We all mess up sometimes. In all areas of life! Just brush yourself up and bounce back.
i think men should know how to cook just as a woman should know how to pay the bills, put gas in the car etc.
lets just say the cake didnt make it out of the pan in one piece”
Wow – it must have been really yummy, if you couldn’t wait long enough to take the whole cake out of the pan. 🙂
Cooking is about learning how to take a disaster and trun it into something great.I once cooked chicken SO soft that it couldn’t be plated, it was falling apart. I pulled it apart, added some cooked vegetables and a little marinara sauce, and served it like a casserole.
With a chocolate cake that has crumbled, make it even more crumbled and use it to top ice cream, or layer it with vanilla ice cream to make a parfait. Much it like playdough and roll into balls, then roll in confectioner’s sugar, cocoa, chopped nuts or melted chocolate. Chill and voila – truffles!. It’s all about using what you have, even when it seems to be unsalvageable.
I work Fridays and my husband doesn’t so he has made Shabbos (when I am not off) for 7 years. When guests compliment the food, they look my way but I tell them I had nothing to do with it. I’m starting to have a complex about it so I started baking Challos on Thursday nights.
What do you MEN think about the wife cooking dinner a couple times a week??
I’d make dinner and clean every night. I love to cook, and I’d always do what I can to treat my wife like a malkah and feel appreciated and loved.
Rebdoniel: Suppose your wife gets satisfaction out of cooking for you, even though she’s not terribly good at it, and doesn’t remember to defrost broccoli before adding in cheese, or something dreadful like that. And suppose she hated cleaning.
Would you treat her like a malkah and never cook and always praise her food and pay for cleaning help?
Wolf:
My family likes to tell the story about how my first attempt at baking (brownies) came out hard as a rock and completely inedible.
I had a roommate once who decided we were going to have steak for dinner because it was Chanuka. I came home from work, sat down, and I was unable to cut the steak.
I asked him how long the steak had been in the oven, and he said 30 minutes. Per side. On broil.
I’m shocked to this day that the steak didn’t disintegrate into ash.
If my wife liked cooking and wasn’t good at it, I’d eat her food with a smile, compliment her cooking, mipnei shalom bayit, and take an evening walk to Mendelsohn’s or Pomegranate. Dishonest? Yes. But the gemara says that lying mipnei darkei shalom is mutar, and I’m looking to marry someone with good middot and a good heart and beautiful neshama, not Julia Child (a”h). I’d do the cleaning myself, if she wanted to cook. I don’t trust strangers in my home, going though my belongings, and I also feel it’s degrading and arrogant to pay someone to do what people should do for themselves. Cleaning is an activity that develops the muscles and instills good middot. What is the aversion yidden have to cleaning their homes? I don’t get it.
If my husband liked cooking but he was bad at it, I would buy him a pick up truck with a rifle rack and a rifle and a collection of fine scotch
Rebdoniel
You really think you are such a tzaddik?
These are my thoughts, and this is how I would deal with an otherwise uncomfortable situation. I wouldn’t dare purport to be a tzaddik.
seriously torah613:
YOU GOT MARRIED? mazel tov!!!:) i don’t post often but I do read your posts….
Yoya
Yeah she went behind our backs and got herself married.
Thanks Yoya!
RD: cleaning needs depend on the size of your home, compounded by the amount of furniture, knick-knacks and belongings one owns. I think you are not aware of how much stuff families with kids have. And it’s not davka extras.
Growing kids constantly need new clothes, games etc. Basically everything needs maintenance, sorting, mending, laundering etc. And kids need a lot of your time and attention — from diapering to homework help. There’s more than enough to keep you busy as a parent without physically cleaning the house. Some women are spoiled, or used to it this way, but it’s not as black and white as you seem to think. You can’t compare your current lifestyle to that of a growing family, hopefully in a comfortably sized home. IY”H by you.
Cleaning “develops the muscles”? Really??
If anything, it can lead to soreness and joint pain.
lol, posting a story about your husband means you’re married? How many times have I posted about my husband?
Let’s put it this way: If torah is married, then so am I.
Cleaning is a necessary function for normal, productive adults to carry out. People make too many excuses around it.
Cleaning is an unnecessary and harmful tactic used by women to distract their husbands from wholesome beer drinking.
Men of the world unite!! Fight back!!
“Cleaning is an unnecessary….Men of the world unite!! Fight back!!”
First of all many men, unfortunately do fight…
And many men fight back cleaning..they leave their unclean stuff all over the place, dishes…
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