Make The Seder Great Again

I can’t tell you how to run your seder, nor can tell your children’s rebbeim and teachers how to teach, but I can point out that most of the effort they put in to preparing your child for pesach is focused on ensuring they stay engaged.
If you dont like it, try homeschooling?

Can we take a peek at why this bothers you so much though? Is your child explaining to you that karpas is a potato that irritating to you?
Can you please take some time to focus on your children in a positive light?

What an outright Chutzpah to suggest that you know more than the Gedolim who have devoted all of their time to studying the words the Torah and Chazal in order to understand what Hashem wants from us and then do it.\

You should seriously work on your Kavod Hatorah! Which starts by respecting its Learners!

Fake, a mitzva in the Torah is for fathers to educate their children. Schools are tools to fulfil that mitzvah. Sometimes, school is useful, sometimes not, sometimes partially useful. Look at Bava Basra describing how education system evolved during 2nd Beis Mikdash times. The first attempt was for fathers to teach sons. It did not work – as a general system – because not fathers were capable of teaching. Then, they tried most exciting teachers in Yerushalaim, then teaching teewangers, … until they came to the system of teaching little kids locally. So, logically, the school system is great to maintain public education, but it does not mean that parents who are capable of teaching should not shoot for better.

See another thread, a quote from ard, attributing success of Steipler in raising a great child was due to him playing out every prasha … why didn’t he just stick to the gemora and leave teaching kids to professionals …

If you want to get the children engaged then you first need to speak to a shadchan to find your child a chosson/Kallah

Sam has the best answer.

If you really want to “Make The Seder Great Again”,
then I suggest that every large Orthodox synagogue,
or even every medium-sized Orthodox synagogue,
should provide free public Pesach Sedarim,
that any Jew can attend for free.

Please do not make the mistake of assuming
that “everyone” has a Pesach Seder to go to.

Widows and widowers, gerim, baalei teshuvah, old people,
poor people, travelers, yordim, students from out-of-town
may have no place to go to for Pesach Sedarim.

If you also offered the daytime Yom Tov seudot,
then that would help even more people.

HaLeiVi, there is a middle ground. I’m happy to have my kids say Divrei Torah, but there are 2 other things I bear in mind. First, the mitzvah is on me to tell over the story to them, not the other way around. Second, I try very hard to have the Afikomen before chatzos, and if possible, to finish the 4th cup by then too.
So I tell my kids beforehand that I want to hear what they have to say, but we do need to bear those things in mind. I tell them to keep some of their Divrei Torah for the daytime meals, and we can hear it then!
I believe my seder will be great this year. At first, I was disappointed that I wouldn’t be having guests. I invited a number of people, including some whom I believed could use a place, but didn’t get any acceptances. But just the other day, my wife found someone who needed a place, and she accepted our invitation. So now we will be having a guest at our seder!
My Rebbe, R’ Bender, always says that Simchas Yom Tov isn’t complete unless you’re sharing it with others.

Yaapchik > most parents aren’t as capable

obviously, the question here is what parents who are capable should do. They should not be shy teaching their own Torah knowledge, saying that it is school’s job.

al pi my hagada, children have a say. I always stop before ma nishtana with an awkward pause, saying I can’t continue .. until I have questions.

The question mode might relate to the halakha that a child is not supposed to correct his father, but rather ask him – doesn’t the Torah say this?
So, maybe we are modeling to children how they should express themselves, and not presume they, and their printed divrei Torah, are the answers.

R Twersky writes that one thing he does not understand in life is – people, mostly, become wiser with years. At the same time, we are making the most important decisions – haskhafa, job, marriage – when we are young. He says he doesn’t understand how Hashem made the world this way. The only solution is for young people to take input from older people when making those decisions.

So, maybe the goal of teaching children to ask rather than to recite is to develop tis ability to ask for advice when they’ll need it. So, maybe this is the problem with schooling – kids are constantly doing some obscure specialized tasks where they do not need help from parents/mature adults. This conditions them to not seek advice when needed.

DaMoshe > I try very hard to have the Afikomen before chatzos, and if possible, to finish the 4th cup by then too. … So I tell my kids beforehand that I want to hear what they have to say,

Upon second reading, I don’t fully agree. I thought you have a problem with kids reading school-prepared divrei Torah that may or may not correspond to what you want to talk about. At the same time, the whole point of the seder is to engage children. If they have something to say on their own, they should say it, maybe in a way you can answer him. The same applies to guests, especially if they are not very observant/knowledgeable, the goal is to get them into the discussion. In some circumstances, you do not even need to read the whole Hagaddah. I am machmir on the main Torah mitzvah of sipur yatziyat mitzrayim than finish 4th cup by chatzos (even number of cups is midrabanan!)