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before marrying, make sure you are both right for each other. A marriage can be challenging sometimes, and if the two are not right for each other, then they won’t be able to withstand the challenges. we need to pause and think, do I want to spend everyday with this person, even when things are challenging, like financial things etc. If you both feel sure about this, then go foward.
I thought I was sure, but it turned out i wasn’t. So I’m not engaged anymore. better now BH, rather than later.
This is Not to say that we should be very picky. There’s no perfect people and we shouldn’t look for that, only someone that mostly fits what we want/need. The rest, the two can learn to comprimise with certain things so the couple can both enjoy themselves.
Hi sm29, Would you be comfortable sharing a) what made you originally think you were right for each other and b) only later realize that wasn’t the case?
Hatzlacha
I’m sorry things didn’t work out for you, but very happy that you found out early enough before it did any damage. Hatzlocha!
If you find yourself saying before or during engament “its nothing, and wont bother me after we are married” or “why does that bother me, its not such a big deal” I suggest you dont keep it to yourself and discuss it with a Rov or professional shadchan.
u sound really good and really at peace about it. its good that he cared enough to end it nicely and not make it into a sticky situation. may the right one come around very soon.
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