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where can i get an inexpensive (possul ok i guess) arba minim set for my 4 yr old? around flatbush or bp. thanks
Most stores will give you a posul one for free.
To buy a kosher real cheap set, just wait until erev yom tov, and pick one up for $15.
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I wonder if the child will be making a Bracha on it if Halachically it would be better if the set should be Kosher?
I asked a Rav if it is ok to buy a Possul set for a kid. He said if the kid will be making a Bracha on it, it is preferable to buy a Kosher set. Just a heads up.
I don’t get it. If your child is old enough to understand what he is doing and why , than why buy a posul set? If not, just buy him a lemon
estherhamalka – Why a kosher lulav and esrog? Because that’s what chinuch is.
Why put real tzitzis on your son when you can tie some strings to his pants?
Why give your four year old son chulent with kosher meat when you can teach him oneg shabbos with treif which is a lot cheaper?
estherhamalka
You can buy cheap kosher sets the day before or day of Erev Yom Tov. If anything, tell your husband to take your son with him when they shop for the set he will be excited by the experience and it will give him an appreciation for mitvos. Take advantage of every opportunity to give your kid a love and enthusiasm for mitzvos.
They sell a fake set my 4 year old loved it last year.
First of all I think it’s ridiculous to buy a set for a 4 year old. True it’s chinuch but the actual mitzva of chinuch begins at 9, not at 4. Yes we do chinuch much earlier but these are chinuch things directly connected to the person, such as tzitzis and brochos. The general minhag is one esrog and lulav for the entire family. Chinuch therefore is having him do the mitzva like everybody else. Most boys don’t have their own set until they get married. Buying a set for him will make him different and in a spoiling way. OK that said, if you do buy it should definitely be a kosher set, albeit barely kosher for $15 or whatever erev succos.
If I gave my four year old a lulav, it would not be for chinuch purposes.
It would be to make him happy.
Accordingly, I would give him a lemon if I couldn’t get a really cheap esrog.
Are you sure you are doing it for chinuch? Is there such a chinuch for a four year old?
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Some children are more precocious than others. There are definitely some 4 year olds who “get it” and could appreciate the chinuch aspect. And once you have some kids like that, which parent is going to say his little yankele is any less precocious as little Yankele Cohen across the street….
Besides, your 4 year old is only going to shul to run around, anyway. We wouldn’t want him swinging a lulav at the same time, could be dangerous.
If a child can do na’anuim, you are obligated to provide him with a kosher esrog and lulav.
Many children are in this category; if not all, if you believe the grandparents of these little geniuses.
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