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AOB, sorry, and don’t worry when I text someone with verizon (I can send much more in one text,) no one understands me either, its not you.
I’m happy to hear it went well (ok means well) and I did, also, escape but it’s better to do that than to end up fighting and arguing and in a really rotten mood.
TIP: something I learned from experience, walk into a situation like an eight day y’t, and expect a few “blowouts” makes it much easier.
kapusta: you mean expect it to be really bad, so at least it won’t be worse than you thought?
AOB, don’t expect really bad, but forewarned is forearmed. If you walk into a situation and expect that a few times you might get “hit,” it doesn’t seem as bad.
kapusta: hey, i’m all for it. i usually go into a situation expecting the worst with an attitude of “hey, even if <worst case scenario> happens, i’ll be okay”. then most times i am pleasantly surprised 😉
AOB, if it works then great, that’s the general idea!
I think this is an older middah, bing thankful for the little things. I meant to post about this but somehow it didnt happen. Over pesach, I was in terrible pain (not sure what it was) and I was in agony (literally) if I moved, to bend down to a sink was awful…
hey we forgot about this again.
AOB, any ideas?
kapusta: i’ll think about it. meanwhile i wouldn’t mind hearing anybody else’s suggestions.
AOB, great minds think alike. 🙂
I think we went through most of them already, unless someone wants to go back and find the ones that were never used…
an open book: we need ames! feels like ames has been gone for days!
ames: thanks, that’s a nice one. just read that in pirkei avos last week (not yesterday) – the list of things about a chacham.
ames, I like that. One question, if you get what the speaker is saying but they havent finished talking is that considered a fool?
this one gets my vote.
Ames: go 2 kugel thread!!
The middah I think everyone should work on is how u talk to strangers. I was reading comments on the home page and some were so nasty I was so shocked!!!! Why does everyone think its ok to be mean to people they don’t know?? This annoys me very much
ames is back!!
Sounds good. any other suggestions before we decide?
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ames: sure i noticed! that actually does sound like a good middah to work on! it would help me!
ames I’m right with you there.Although I fell people including myself-need to carry this middah beyond the coffee room.We need to take the middah with us whenever we deal with others.
I like the middah ames suggested very much, but I have another one to cast into the lot. What about giving people the light of day, making them feel like a person even if you are on different “status levels” (Theres someone in perticular I’m thinking of, and I always feel so bad people are literally disgusting to her. She never did anything wrong, treat her like a person!)
Ames: yeah I saw! They deleted it! Pleasure having u
I like the middah ames suggested very much, but I have another one to cast into the lot. What about giving people the light of day, making them feel like a person even if you are on different “status levels” (Theres someone in perticular I’m thinking of, and I always feel so bad people are literally disgusting to her. She never did anything wrong, treat her like a person!)
kapusta: you mean “time of day”?
Thanks for unearthing this, ames! Yes, perfect timing for reviving the thread!
yes, yes, yes!
AOB, that was three months ago, but it looks like that was what I meant. Thanx. 🙂
Aleph.
Hurry up and you can edit!
This sounds really good to me. I’m in, as soon as we decide on something. So emunah it is? Who has the final word? The YWN Editor?
ames, it starts with an alef.
lol, yea, that went through halfway. Sorry about that.
google test:
amunah 4650 hits
Emunah 226,000 hits
So what are you trying to say?
lol, good ol’ mepal to the rescue. IIRC, I was gonna say the a was supposed to be instead of the alef. either you get that or you dont.
errr, kapusta, my post was aimed at 80, not you!
I have a good one for next week. (time) vatranus…
mepal, oh well. Then I guess you just got lucky.
hi guys! i think a good middah to work on is to include others. you may not realize this but when you become an exclusive group it really hurts others. also, i thnk that we should try to think before we speak- my friend actually just told me that she just started becoming nore careful with thinking before speaking, and she said that she really feels a difference. its amazing. hatzlacha in all that you do!
sounds like a great middah/thing to start with! so who gives the DT here!?
Interesting point, sunflower.
nah, ames sounds better (as the chassidic version of the word emes) 😉
as i know people that are in charge of school, the theme for chodesh cheshvan but can be applied to every single month of the year and your whole life is “dont leave her out in the rain” try to include others, you know deep down that if the girl left in the rain was you you would feel horrid. put youself in others shoes and include others. a ksiva vchasima tovah! rok smachot!
mods., would you mind to add in by those in charge of -“shmiras halashon”? thanks!
So as we are trying to work on emunah and say “Gam zu l’tovah”…Today I was stuck in traffic and trying to get home in time for my daughter. It was gonna be close or I would be late. The tension is building, and every car that is doing something dumb (going really slow for no apparent reason, etc) is delaying me further. Then I remembered to say “Gam zu l’tovah”. It’s just a test.
I made it home with time to spare 🙂
How can you tell when you need to upgrade your level of emunah and bitochon? Your nervous system gives you feedback. View anxiety and nervousness as a message, “Time to elevate your level of emunah and bitochon.” Don’t become upset about this. That’s not very helpful. Rather, be appreciative of the feedback. The message you are receiving is immensely valuable.
(From Rabbi Pliskin’s book, Serenity, p.92)
(copied from aish.com)
the klausenberger rebbe zt”l during the holocaust b4 kol nidre spoke ashamnu,bagadnu,
gazalnu-we didn’t do any of this. we are starving and suffering, what do we need to teshuvah for? he answered we need to do teshuvah on our lack ofemuna. he asked how many of us went to sleep hoping they wouldn’t wake up in the morning. we need to work on our emunah.
this was coming from someone who lost everything.his chasidim his wife and his 11 children and he was able to have emunah in Hashem. al achas kamah vekamah we who haven’t lost any of this for sure need to work on our emunah.
Hi, All! Are we working on a new middah this week?
It should probably start with a bais since we did the alef one.
Bitachon? (almost the same as Emunah)
You’ve got my vote!
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