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  • #665726
    kapusta
    Participant

    AOB, sorry, and don’t worry when I text someone with verizon (I can send much more in one text,) no one understands me either, its not you.

    I’m happy to hear it went well (ok means well) and I did, also, escape but it’s better to do that than to end up fighting and arguing and in a really rotten mood.

    TIP: something I learned from experience, walk into a situation like an eight day y’t, and expect a few “blowouts” makes it much easier.

    *kapusta*

    #665727
    an open book
    Participant

    kapusta: you mean expect it to be really bad, so at least it won’t be worse than you thought?

    #665728
    kapusta
    Participant

    AOB, don’t expect really bad, but forewarned is forearmed. If you walk into a situation and expect that a few times you might get “hit,” it doesn’t seem as bad.

    *kapusta*

    #665729
    an open book
    Participant

    kapusta: hey, i’m all for it. i usually go into a situation expecting the worst with an attitude of “hey, even if <worst case scenario> happens, i’ll be okay”. then most times i am pleasantly surprised 😉

    #665730
    kapusta
    Participant

    AOB, if it works then great, that’s the general idea!

    *kapusta*

    #665731
    kapusta
    Participant

    I think this is an older middah, bing thankful for the little things. I meant to post about this but somehow it didnt happen. Over pesach, I was in terrible pain (not sure what it was) and I was in agony (literally) if I moved, to bend down to a sink was awful…

    *kapusta*

    #665732
    an open book
    Participant

    hey we forgot about this again.

    #665733
    kapusta
    Participant

    AOB, any ideas?

    *kapusta*

    #665734
    an open book
    Participant

    kapusta: i’ll think about it. meanwhile i wouldn’t mind hearing anybody else’s suggestions.

    #665735
    kapusta
    Participant

    AOB, great minds think alike. 🙂

    I think we went through most of them already, unless someone wants to go back and find the ones that were never used…

    *kapusta*

    #665736
    Jax
    Member

    an open book: we need ames! feels like ames has been gone for days!

    #665737
    an open book
    Participant

    ames: thanks, that’s a nice one. just read that in pirkei avos last week (not yesterday) – the list of things about a chacham.

    #665738
    kapusta
    Participant

    ames, I like that. One question, if you get what the speaker is saying but they havent finished talking is that considered a fool?

    this one gets my vote.

    *kapusta*

    #665739
    shaatra
    Member

    Ames: go 2 kugel thread!!

    The middah I think everyone should work on is how u talk to strangers. I was reading comments on the home page and some were so nasty I was so shocked!!!! Why does everyone think its ok to be mean to people they don’t know?? This annoys me very much

    #665740
    anonymisss
    Participant

    ames is back!!

    Sounds good. any other suggestions before we decide?

    ~a~

    #665741
    Jax
    Member

    ames: sure i noticed! that actually does sound like a good middah to work on! it would help me!

    #665742
    BasYisroel2
    Participant

    ames I’m right with you there.Although I fell people including myself-need to carry this middah beyond the coffee room.We need to take the middah with us whenever we deal with others.

    #665743
    kapusta
    Participant

    I like the middah ames suggested very much, but I have another one to cast into the lot. What about giving people the light of day, making them feel like a person even if you are on different “status levels” (Theres someone in perticular I’m thinking of, and I always feel so bad people are literally disgusting to her. She never did anything wrong, treat her like a person!)

    *kapusta*

    #665744
    shaatra
    Member

    Ames: yeah I saw! They deleted it! Pleasure having u

    #665745
    an open book
    Participant

    I like the middah ames suggested very much, but I have another one to cast into the lot. What about giving people the light of day, making them feel like a person even if you are on different “status levels” (Theres someone in perticular I’m thinking of, and I always feel so bad people are literally disgusting to her. She never did anything wrong, treat her like a person!)

    kapusta: you mean “time of day”?

    #665746
    mepal
    Member

    Thanks for unearthing this, ames! Yes, perfect timing for reviving the thread!

    #665747
    APushetaYid
    Participant

    yes, lets work together! klal yisroel is a family together!

    #665748
    kapusta
    Participant

    yes, yes, yes!

    AOB, that was three months ago, but it looks like that was what I meant. Thanx. 🙂

    *kapusta*

    #665749
    APushetaYid
    Participant

    how about if we go in order of alef-beis lets start with Amunah.. e/t bad happens say gam zu l’tovah!

    #665750
    squeak
    Participant

    Aleph.

    Hurry up and you can edit!

    #665751
    NY Mom
    Member

    This sounds really good to me. I’m in, as soon as we decide on something. So emunah it is? Who has the final word? The YWN Editor?

    #665752
    kapusta
    Participant

    ames, it starts with an alef.

    *kapusta*

    #665753
    kapusta
    Participant

    lol, yea, that went through halfway. Sorry about that.

    *kapusta*

    #665754

    google test:

    amunah 4650 hits

    Emunah 226,000 hits

    #665755
    mepal
    Member

    So what are you trying to say?

    #665756
    kapusta
    Participant

    lol, good ol’ mepal to the rescue. IIRC, I was gonna say the a was supposed to be instead of the alef. either you get that or you dont.

    *kapusta*

    #665757
    mepal
    Member

    errr, kapusta, my post was aimed at 80, not you!

    #665758
    kapusta
    Participant

    I have a good one for next week. (time) vatranus…

    mepal, oh well. Then I guess you just got lucky.

    *kapusta*

    #665759
    sunflower
    Member

    hi guys! i think a good middah to work on is to include others. you may not realize this but when you become an exclusive group it really hurts others. also, i thnk that we should try to think before we speak- my friend actually just told me that she just started becoming nore careful with thinking before speaking, and she said that she really feels a difference. its amazing. hatzlacha in all that you do!

    #665760
    Jax
    Member

    sounds like a great middah/thing to start with! so who gives the DT here!?

    #665761
    APushetaYid
    Participant

    ok.. so who is in with us? seriously speaking! any one know of a story? Even if u don’t see the good.. know e/t is from hashem! lets share our stories,I once read before moshiach will come.. pple will have to work on amunah. but truth is.. how can we not beleive we see soo many miracles.. look up to the sky an air plane every minute.. thousands of pple in the air.. it’s just AMAZING! lets start to see the wonder of this world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    #665762
    mepal
    Member

    Interesting point, sunflower.

    #665763

    Shall we now call ames emes?

    #665764
    mepal
    Member

    nah, ames sounds better (as the chassidic version of the word emes) 😉

    #665765
    sunflower
    Member

    as i know people that are in charge of school, the theme for chodesh cheshvan but can be applied to every single month of the year and your whole life is “dont leave her out in the rain” try to include others, you know deep down that if the girl left in the rain was you you would feel horrid. put youself in others shoes and include others. a ksiva vchasima tovah! rok smachot!

    #665766
    sunflower
    Member

    mods., would you mind to add in by those in charge of -“shmiras halashon”? thanks!

    #665767
    NY Mom
    Member

    So as we are trying to work on emunah and say “Gam zu l’tovah”…Today I was stuck in traffic and trying to get home in time for my daughter. It was gonna be close or I would be late. The tension is building, and every car that is doing something dumb (going really slow for no apparent reason, etc) is delaying me further. Then I remembered to say “Gam zu l’tovah”. It’s just a test.

    I made it home with time to spare 🙂

    #665768
    Cest la vie
    Member

    How can you tell when you need to upgrade your level of emunah and bitochon? Your nervous system gives you feedback. View anxiety and nervousness as a message, “Time to elevate your level of emunah and bitochon.” Don’t become upset about this. That’s not very helpful. Rather, be appreciative of the feedback. The message you are receiving is immensely valuable.

    (From Rabbi Pliskin’s book, Serenity, p.92)

    (copied from aish.com)

    #665769
    APushetaYid
    Participant

    NY Mom: wow! that’s amazing! z’chus zull diech bie shtine!

    Cest la vie: NICE! thanks for sharing!

    Where are more stories?

    #665770
    APushetaYid
    Participant

    Mods maybe you make a nice sheet with everyones names and stories? updated every day?

    Isn’t that what we’re doing here?

    #665771
    APushetaYid
    Participant

    like the daily tehilim a sticky one 😉

    Let’s see how serious you guys are about this first.

    #665772
    goody613
    Member

    the klausenberger rebbe zt”l during the holocaust b4 kol nidre spoke ashamnu,bagadnu,

    gazalnu-we didn’t do any of this. we are starving and suffering, what do we need to teshuvah for? he answered we need to do teshuvah on our lack ofemuna. he asked how many of us went to sleep hoping they wouldn’t wake up in the morning. we need to work on our emunah.

    this was coming from someone who lost everything.his chasidim his wife and his 11 children and he was able to have emunah in Hashem. al achas kamah vekamah we who haven’t lost any of this for sure need to work on our emunah.

    #665773
    NY Mom
    Member

    Hi, All! Are we working on a new middah this week?

    It should probably start with a bais since we did the alef one.

    #665774
    NY Mom
    Member

    Bitachon? (almost the same as Emunah)

    #665775
    mepal
    Member

    You’ve got my vote!

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