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January 25, 2009 9:29 pm at 9:29 pm #665455anonymisssParticipant
hmm, moish, about being a lawyer, I’m seriously considering it as a wonderful idea for you.
~a~
January 25, 2009 9:32 pm at 9:32 pm #665456coke not pepsiMemberi go with 6 or 7
January 26, 2009 12:41 am at 12:41 am #665457qwertyuiopMember4 and 8(only because mod72 voted for it).$ hope this doesn’t sound like gaaveh but on shabbos someone in my shul had a pretty ugly vest, and has hard as it was for me i told him he had a nice vest.$
January 26, 2009 12:47 am at 12:47 am #665458asdfghjklParticipantqwertyuiop: that was so nice of ya!!! ha ha
January 26, 2009 1:52 am at 1:52 am #665459kiruvwifeMemberWondering if anyone agrees that ayin tova has qualities that are all encompassing when it comes to the above suggested middos to work on. (and more)
January 26, 2009 2:20 am at 2:20 am #665460moish01Memberwe’re not looking for an “all encompassing” one. one millionth of that is hard enough – can’t you see?
January 26, 2009 2:48 am at 2:48 am #665461qwertyuiopMemberames: we are all very proud of you.$
January 26, 2009 2:52 am at 2:52 am #665462asdfghjklParticipantames: i’m so proud of ya!!!
my good is that i listened to my mommy today!!!!! yay me!!!
January 26, 2009 3:12 am at 3:12 am #665463beaconParticipantasdfghj- so you finally put away your toys on time? Don’t forget to take your mitzvah note to show morah tomorrow!
January 26, 2009 3:17 am at 3:17 am #665464moish01Memberme? i welcomed aMEs even though i wasn’t in a very welcoming mood.
January 26, 2009 3:46 am at 3:46 am #665465kiruvwifeMembergood point moish and ames–well taken—hatzlocha.
January 26, 2009 4:50 am at 4:50 am #665466oomisParticipantBeing dan l’chaf z’chus is a very hard middah to fulfill, but it is really important.
January 26, 2009 5:24 am at 5:24 am #665467asdfghjklParticipantbeacon: could ya write the mitzva note for me!!! pleeeezzzzzzzz!!!!
ames: yes she was happy & proud!!!! thnx!!!
moishl; way to go!!!!
January 26, 2009 6:11 am at 6:11 am #665468anonymisssParticipantames: way to go!!!! That made me happy!!! Thank you!!!!
~a~
January 26, 2009 6:12 am at 6:12 am #665469qwertyuiopMemberasdfghjkl: im very prowd of you for listening to her, i knew you were able to.$
moish: that was really good.$
January 26, 2009 6:27 am at 6:27 am #665470asdfghjklParticipantqwertyuiop: you so kind!!! thanx pal!!!
January 26, 2009 8:00 am at 8:00 am #665471shkoyachMemberI have an idea… we all can either pick our own one towork on each week or the Mods will TELL us which middah it will be that week. (or they can nominate a CR member to set it out) cuz this thread is so beautiful yet messy that I dont know where to start and will prob give up all cuz I can tdo e/o amazing ideas at once and I cant pick which one cuz e/o is saying s/t else
nu…. mods… what do u have to say??
sounds great! I nominate mdlevine to be in charge of giving out what midah everone should work on. He seems to be amazing at doing chessed.
Moderator-55
January 26, 2009 2:58 pm at 2:58 pm #665472APushetaYidParticipantshkoyach… I think it is a GREAT IDEA!! Thats how there will be 1 middah & we will all work together! It doesn’t have to be for 1 week it could be for 2 weeks as well… Also I am sooo proud of e/o that did 1 good dead… you don’t even know what it means in shemayim!! keep up the good work!! so… now…Lets Start Together!!!
January 26, 2009 3:59 pm at 3:59 pm #665473APushetaYidParticipantames, it’s really impossible to vote.. e/o will come up with something else..and it will never work out.. how about one person telling us the what middah to do..?!?!?
January 26, 2009 4:53 pm at 4:53 pm #665474APushetaYidParticipantAmes, Not a problem, sounds great with me! I will work allong with E/O else! So.. when are we starting ????? I am really excited! anyone that has story please post.. thanks
January 26, 2009 4:56 pm at 4:56 pm #665475mdlevineMemberbeing as I was nominated by a mod (I am not waiting for a second to the nomination)
I select:
small chasadim to others
reasons:
small is easy
a whole lot of small by Yidden worldwide adds up to a whole lot of big unity
ok?
Let’s begin.
January 26, 2009 5:36 pm at 5:36 pm #665476mazal77ParticipantHi, everyone – I’ve been reading through the thread – still trying to figure out what the midah of the week is. Ames, can you so kindly explain what I we working on this week?? The Dvar Torah was amazing and I think I am going to print it out, if I may. I hope it will be a remainder not to waste time.
January 26, 2009 5:48 pm at 5:48 pm #665477mdlevineMemberames – whatever works for everyone is fine by me. :o) I saw the comment by mod55 and said why not. I didn’t notice your subsequent posts.
As long as people are working in anyway to improve themselves and are sharing Torah thoughts to do this (and certainly by learning Torah) they are doing much more than a small chesed not only for themselves but for everybody. – essentially, these are not mutually exclusive areas to work upon.
in the list that you provided you can group certain areas together (see below as an example) and as a person improves one area, the others areas should follow along.
example for someone who masters point #7: they are going to be more proactive in avoiding #’2 and 4, and increasing #’s 3, 5, 6 and 8 which will ultimately or at least should hopefully positivelty impact #1)
1) ga’ava (includes: 3,4,5,6,8)
2) leitzanut (includes: 2,4,7)
3) small chasadim to others (includes: 1,2,4,5,7,8)
4) not answering back when someone insults/hurts/embarrasses you (includes: 1,2,3,6,7,8)
5) show appreciation for small kindnesses (includes: 1,3,6,7,8)
6) thanking Hashem (includes: 1,4,5,7,8)
7) utilizing our time better (includes 2,3,4,5,6,8)
8) beig happy with what we have (includes: 1,3,4,5,6,7)
regarding the trait for next week: what ever is choosen is fine by me. :o)
January 26, 2009 6:03 pm at 6:03 pm #665478amichaiParticipantames, very well written dvar torah. thank you. may we be able to learn from one another.
January 26, 2009 6:08 pm at 6:08 pm #665479APushetaYidParticipantAmes, thanks! really nice dvar torah, keep up the good work!
January 26, 2009 6:17 pm at 6:17 pm #665480mazal77ParticipantAmes, sorry, I am little slow on the take. What exactly is the midah that was decided upon that we should work on?? thanks
January 26, 2009 6:31 pm at 6:31 pm #665481APushetaYidParticipanti assume it’s not waisting time! Doing things zerizus…
January 26, 2009 7:31 pm at 7:31 pm #665482mazal77ParticipantActually, my some of the kids are home on vacation for the next couple of days. Driving me crazy!! (they want the laptop, NOT!!) trying to do laundry in between reading replies.
January 27, 2009 2:14 am at 2:14 am #665483asdfghjklParticipantames: after seeing you point me out, i did indeed read it!!! it was a great shiur!!! from now on while being in the cr, i will have a sefer at the computer to learn while no updates are happening!!! i’ll give ya an update later on how I applied the midah of “not wasting time” into my day!!!!!
i was a good boy today & picked up a yeshiva bochur waiting at the bus stop today in the freezing cold today!!!!
January 27, 2009 3:11 am at 3:11 am #665484shkoyachMemberI think that the timewasting thing is way too big to start with but no fighting right?!?!? so then I guess i better scram from YWN coffee roomso I dont waste time! aaaah!
January 27, 2009 3:55 am at 3:55 am #665485mw13ParticipantFirst off, thank you ames for the truly amazing dvar torah!
When the mishnah says wasting time, I assume it means from learning. After all, we have a chiyuv to learn yomum vilayla, and we are only excused from learning when performing a mitzvah or vital duty (raising kids, making a parnassah, etc.) Besides for those times, we are michuyiv to spend all our time learning. So for this week, I think we should all be mekabal on ourselves to spend some time that we usually waste learning. A good time to do this would be for those of us who take buses. Bring a sefer with you, or load up an MP3 player with your favorite shiurim (I’m pretty sure there used to be a topic in CR filled with links to Torah websites). After all, it really is ridiculous how much time we waste every day. With just a few minutes a day you can learn an incredible amount!
January 27, 2009 4:33 am at 4:33 am #665486mw13Participantshkoyach: you can start with simply taking 15 minutes that you usually waste and making a seder then. It doesn’t have to be anything lumdish, there’s plenty of light and interesting english seferim out there!
January 27, 2009 5:05 am at 5:05 am #665487beaconParticipant…it’s wonderful that you’ll be learning during boring times when there are no post updates. you can finish shas in like a month!!!
LOL
January 27, 2009 5:45 am at 5:45 am #665488asdfghjklParticipantames: yeah i know i’m brilliant!!! i donno about finishin shas like a month–but yeah!!! yeah & i’m just a nice guy(moish’s line!!!) for givin him a ride!!!
January 27, 2009 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm #665489APushetaYidParticipantames, we can’t really work on the middah of not waisting time… how about we take..complimenting people i did that last night when i gave a compliment to my sister.. you had to see that smile!!! that was pure bliss!!!!! can we start TODAY! Ames, you’ll give the shiur you r good at it! (now i made u smile :))
January 27, 2009 5:12 pm at 5:12 pm #665490kiruvwifeMemberames-thanks for the divrei chizuk. I think sometimes it’s a challenge to define for oneself what wasting time really is. (I think there are also different gender obligations). Sometimes I’d rather read an inspiring book (I happen to love mussar/middos improvement genres) than do household chores, but then I’m not being honest with myself about how I should be spending my time….Insights?
I’d also really like to hear success stories.
January 27, 2009 6:15 pm at 6:15 pm #665491kiruvwifeMemberames-thanks-not sure if my last post got in–s/t happened when i hit send. I definitely feel that I have balance in that most of the time (don’t ever feel like a slave- I quite enjoy all components of building my home-{hate hypocricy so i try vigorously to live what i teach}).just hard sometimes to be totally intellectually honest.appreciate much the introspection it leads to.
January 27, 2009 7:26 pm at 7:26 pm #665492APushetaYidParticipantwhen speaking about laziness…i have a very good story a story with a lesson.
I once had a cleaning lady cleaning my house…whatever she did, she did with a lazy and sour face! like she is working for free, i really got mad! and sent her home! after she left i learned the BIG LESSON we are all working for hashem… We dont want to look like that cleaning lady whenever i do a mitzvah i try thinking of that cleaning lady and automaticly i do it with simcha!!! Imagine the cleaning lady worked for money, money comes and goes! but we work for Hashem!!!!! The schar is Much Much More! let’s not forget this lesson!!!!!and not be lazy when we do a mitzvah!! Hope you all enjoyed this story!!! Ames, here is my story lol 🙂
January 27, 2009 8:28 pm at 8:28 pm #665494APushetaYidParticipantmaybe cuz of my name.. pushetayid??? hhaha
January 27, 2009 9:06 pm at 9:06 pm #665495goody613MemberIf you want to work on not wasting time why r u on YWN?
January 27, 2009 9:47 pm at 9:47 pm #665496areivimzehlazehParticipantames- you’re too much! anyone ever tell you that?
goody613- just read this topic alone- do you consider working on middos and reading divrei torah a waste of time?
January 27, 2009 10:12 pm at 10:12 pm #665497APushetaYidParticipantc’mon lets not make this post into a fight! lets continue working on our middohs!!!
January 28, 2009 1:23 am at 1:23 am #665498asdfghjklParticipantames: that’s great that ya said your tehillim even with the new mods welcoming them!!! yes i did learn last night at a slow update time last night!!!
my good deed for the day was: i went to learn with an elderly home-bound man today!!! i even had a great time doing it!!!!
January 28, 2009 1:37 am at 1:37 am #665499beaconParticipantThat’s so nice of you ,asdf.
January 28, 2009 1:43 am at 1:43 am #665500qwertyuiopMemberasdfghjkl: that’s very nice of you.$
January 28, 2009 1:47 am at 1:47 am #665501moish01Memberasdfghjkl – really? wow. i could never do that
January 28, 2009 2:00 am at 2:00 am #665502asdfghjklParticipantthank you beacon, qwertyuiop & moish!!!! what could i say i’m a really nice guy!!!!!
ames: you gatta comment on this one!!!
January 28, 2009 2:58 am at 2:58 am #665503moish01Memberames BRILLIANT! joseph??
January 28, 2009 2:58 am at 2:58 am #665504asdfghjklParticipantames: thanx morah ames!!!!!!!!!
January 28, 2009 3:23 am at 3:23 am #665506moish01Member.
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