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There is probably a really simple answer out there but I just wanted to know- why are some bonfires tonight and some tomorrow?
The ones tonight are lit after shkia and the ones tomorrow night are light before shkia. I heard that in Meron, tonight it’s the Bianer (Boyan to some) chassidim that have the biggest fire. Tomorrow it’s Toldos Aaron or Toldos Avrohom Yitzchok. The one tomorrow is lit right before shkia and they probably dance on for hours.
Better question: How can Chasunas be on both nights? Either the first night is lag bomer or the second night is. But both aren’t.
Also, if you hold the first 33 days of sefira, how can you attend weddings before rosh chodesh? (Or after lag bomer if you hold the last 33.)
Shmoel: See Rav Moshe’s famous T.shuvah on this. (I think it’s O.C. 1:159 or 1:139.)
Sam: Why don’t you please briefly summarize it.
Shmoel: It’s quite long. But basically he says that Minhagei S’fira are unique and that you can change your Minhag from year to year to attend weddings.
R’ Schachter says that other Poskim point out that the Minhag is just against getting married. But you can attend a wedding no matter which half it’s in, so long as the person getting married isn’t violating his own Minhag. This seems to be the Minhag for most people.
How can you listen to live wedding music if it is still part of your 33 days that year?
Shmoel: You’re there to be M’sameach the Chassan V’kallah, which is a Mitzvah D’Oraisa. The music being there is part of that. The Minhag not to listen to music can’t trump that. (Also it’s a Seudas Mitzvah, which many say you can have music at during S’firah.)
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