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how does this work? anyone that you like-automatically likes you??
If you have a relationship with someone, they read your body language and reciprocate. In most cases closeness and distance has to do with trust. When Aron Hakohen told a person that his friend wants to be close again the person would like his friend, as well.
A great Tzaddik once said that just like you need to have Emuna in Hashem you need to have Emuna that your friend loves you. It takes Emuna in the friendship when your friend doesn’t return a call or even got upset at you. Most broken relationships began as misunderstandings. If people would fully trust that the relationship is strong they would see things differently (just as a wack on the back can have opposite messages, depending on who wacked you).
When you do your part and try to feel the closeness deeply and truly, it will show in your body language, and will be understood subconsiously, giving that person the trust to return the friendship.
you can look up the mephorshim on the posek – there are quite a few.
if you like someone and feel close to them you will usually act in a way that shows them that and they will reciprocate and act that way too to you.
I don’t know which one, but one of the meforshim explain it to be a natural phenomenon, and yes, an automatic reaction, feeling. But the love must be sincere and obvious, then it will work both ways.
That’s what one Pirush (I think it’s Rabbeinu Bachaya) says by “VaYigash Eilov Yehuda”- Yehuda tried to come close to Yosef, stratigically, by gushing forth love upon the viceroy of Mitzraim, as a desperate attempt to save his brothers from their predicament. This way Yosef will be “forced” to love him back!
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