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    Divorced_Guy
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    What is the appropriate way to daven at a Kever. I know that you aren’t supposed to daven to the deceased person, so what should you have in mind?

    #729248
    Fast Forward
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    You can say tehilim from Perek 119 using the specific letters to spell out the first and middle name of the person. Also, in the Artscroll “Mourning in Halacha” book, there are specific tefilos to say for a parent. I also read that you are not supposed to ask the deceased for anything, so I just ask HaShem to take care of them and tell them I miss them :(.

    #729249
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    That Hashem should listen to your request in the z’chus of the person buried there.

    #729250
    eclipse
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    And that the loved one should advocate on your behalf…I don’t know how it works, but a parent can be a “mailitz yosher” for his/her child.

    #729251
    Sam2
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    A Maimonedian-based rationalist would probably tell you remember their lives and use it as an inspiration to do better or to take on something new for yourself. A Chassidish-based/Kabbalistic-oriented person would tell you do daven in their Zechus or that they attempt to intercede with Hashem on your behalf.

    #729252
    Divorced_Guy
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    Can another relative be a meilitz yoisher? What about a great-aunt who never had any children? Can she be a meilitz for her great-nephew?

    #729253
    Brooklyn Yenta
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    why not? at every levaya the speakers ask that the niftar should be a mailetz yosher for the family AND FOR KLAL YISROEL. unless you don’t fall into one of those categories, i assume that is the case. just be careful not to daven TO the person.

    #729254
    Divorced_Guy
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    Makes sense BY, was wondering why eclipse specifically focused on a child though.

    #729255
    Brooklyn Yenta
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    good question, dg. probably bc at said levayas, assuming that nature has taken its natural course and the children outlive the parents, people do say the parent should be a mailetz yosher for the children. a sort of nechama for the children.

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