Syag,
If you are a shadchan who will not set up singles unless they fit specific criteria and pay certain fees, who do YOU believe the rest of us should go to?
Im not sure who youre addressing, but personally Ive never complained when I got little or no Shadchanus, where I havent seen ostentatiousness dangled in front of my eyes. And I dont mean costume jewelry! In this recent case, I am aware of uniquely expensive celebration of the engagement, one totally out of the ordinary. That stings, when you dont hear anything about Shadchanus.