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I have a coworker who has the same job as me cashier and it is part of our job duties to bag and throw out our trash at the end of the day this coworker who I will call Dan rarely does this and when I’m on the night shift after he does a day shift i have a full garbage can to deal with i have complained about this to the store manager and his reply was just make sure your trash is thrown out he had nothing to say about Dan I have an issue with this it is part of our duties to throw out the trash at the end of the shift if Dan doesn’t do so he should be disciplined but he is not this one issue is causing a rift between myself and the manager so the question is should i just drop it and put up with Dan’s refusal to do his job so i can get along better with the manager?
Your thought’s please.
Does his not throwing out his trash make things harder for you, or does it just bother you on principle?
Either way, best to drop it, but I am curious as to what the issue is.
Two options, in my view.
1. Also stop throwing out the trash.
2. Throw it out for Dan, just to get along. And secretly sprinkle cayenne pepper on the cash register so that when he touches his eyes or nose he’ll get it……
Must be frustrating.
Goq, may i start by saying i really feel for you, have you considered this may be your own fault? possibly you have done something to offend? etc?
Have a separate garbage bag for when you come. Leave his to build up and continue disposing of yours. After a couple days of pile up, either:
A) He’ll get the msg that you are not his garbage collector and you do not agree to be stepped on. (if he is purposely doing this)
B) The manager will confront you and you will respectfully let him know that you do remove your garbage and are too annoyed with the lack of cleanliness due to Dan.
Or you can just take the high road though not recommendable if it will cause you a frustration build up.
Get your own trash can.
Or, send an email to Dan saying that you will empty the trash can every other day. He will empty it on those other days. CC the email to your manager. If he doesn’t empty the trash on his days, empty it in a garbage bag, and leave it their for him to do, so the trash can should start off empty on your days.
People have more respect for those that stick up for themselves. Even if at the beginning it looks like they don’t.
My two zuzim: just forget about it and do your job.
For all you know the boss has had private conversations with your coworker reprimanding him. Perhaps that is all he deserves.
Regardless, as a worker you do not have the right to ensure that fellow employees who break the rules should be punished. Deciding on when and how to discipline is the boss’s job. Punishment is not always the answer.
In addition, keep in min that he will get what’s coming to him eventually, whether at work or in the Heavenly beis din.
If you do your job right and stay out of others’ business, you’re also more likely to be promoted or receive a raise.
I would only complain if your co-worker is paid more than you for doing the same job less well.
It is considered very important in Yiddishkeit to allow “your soul to be silent to those who curse you” (that is, don’t respond or get upset even when other people are mean to you) and accept all your suffering with love as a way Hashem is, in His hidden way, bestowing His kindness upon you (by cleansing you of your aveiros, for example).
So try not to worry about it. Even thank Hashem for your troubles. Gamzu l’tovah.
You’re welcome, Goq!
The thanking-Hashem-for-your-troubles thing I’ve seen in a few places, I think, but it’s really emphasized in R’ Arush’s book, the Garden of Gratitude.
Better idea.
Take out Dan’s garbage. But hide it in the stockroom.
Take out your own garbage at end of your shift, and bring Dan’s garbage back from stockroom and put back in garbage can.
yytz: When one is being mistreated by another person, where does one draw the line?
Do we just thank Hashem for our troubles? And allow the other person to take advantage or abuse us?
Goq,
Can you try this: when you change a bag and Dan is next, put a knot in the bag so it only holds half. Or put a smaller bag in, if possible. Either way it’ll force him to take care of an overflowing heap.
So it looks as though cayenne pepper on the cash register has the most votes.
Threaten him that if he doesn’t start taking out the trash you will tell everyone in the coffee room that he doesn’t take out the trash.
Popa, I still think cayenne on the register is the best idea.
So the answer to the question of the thread title is “yes”.
it’s like the eternal question that husbands everywhere ask themselves: Do you wanna be right, or do you wanna be happy?
P.S. it’s better to be happy with someone you live or work with.
I’m so happy for you, Goq! You really deserve this. 🙂
Wishing you much hatzlachah.
I have a similar problem. We have certain rules we’re supposed to follow. While it annoys me that other teachers don’t clean the classrooms when they finish, that’s all it is–an annoyance.
However, one rule is that we are not supposed to speak Hebrew in the lessons. I do my best to follow that (not so difficult since my Hebrew is pretty poor). But I sometimes lose students to teachers who are willing to speak Hebrew. Since I get paid only for the lessons I teach, following the rules is costing me parnassah.
I’ve brought it up to the supervisor and to her boss. I’m waiting to see what happens.
We agree to disagree.
Agreeing to disagree doesn’t solve the problem.
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