Is a Girl Looking to Date a Boy or a Tzaddik?

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    Lightbrite
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    When a boy dates a girl, is it his job to act like a tzaddik?

    Is anyone a tzaddik before marriage?

    Does he feel pressure to show himself as being on a higher level spiritually or religiously?

    Does a girl want a man who can grow with her or is it better to marry a tzaddik from the start?

    #1217081

    Joseph, check the URL. I’m pretty sure it doesn’t say frumteens.

    #1217082
    Joseph
    Participant

    Roger that. I’ll have tech come out to fix that.

    #1217083
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    what?

    #1217084
    MTAB
    Participant

    Didn’t you get the memo. You have to be a 90 year old tzadick while she goes to the mall and texts with her friends.

    Listen, ignore their ridiculous demands and craziness and greed. You just try to be a good Jew and don’t try to be perfect. Hashem will send you a normal, reasonable shiduch. Make sure you don’t pass it by because she isn’t perfect enough in whatever way.

    #1217085
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    Did they make fun of this thread?

    What’s the favorable way to read that please?

    #1217086
    Joseph
    Participant

    Twenty-nine is a meanie.

    #1217087
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    Can you then just delete the thread please?

    It was a serious question that reflected off of the OP on the other thread, which is also in this CR forum (Though now I know that Mods sometimes submit posts and threads that they personally may not find appealing for various reasons).

    Thank you and Shabbat Shalom

    #1217088
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    MTAB: Amen. Thank you! Dunno if you were talking to me specifically but I am going to take the bracha (though I am a woman/girl/something) and I appreciate your advice 🙂

    #1217089
    Joseph
    Participant

    LB, sorry for the last less than serious posts. I actually was the first to respond to your OP. And it was a long, serious and beautiful reply that directly addressed exactly what your OP was asking for. But the M-d (as LF would put it), in her infinite wisdom, nixed it since writeup of the post originated off-site.

    #1217090

    If only. The only truth in the above post is that it was the first response to the Op

    😛

    #1217091
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Now I’m really curious. What if you gave the source – would that make it okay? Or can you rewrite/summarize it in your own words? I would be very interested in knowing how people (male people in particular) feel about this. We already have one opinion above, and I would love to hear others.

    #1217093
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    Yays! I love when I’m wrong and there are all these details that I didn’t even think of to prove how much I needed to open my mind to other realities (such as Joseph responding and the post was deleted and so the Mod gave him a memo and I foolishly thought it was a hit to my ego when it really was Mod-29 talking to Joseph about something behind the scenes…)

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    Thanks 🙂

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