Invited to the Wedding Feast, not the Ceremony-would you be offended?

Popa

If I keep a fresh glass of whisky in my hand and sip occasionally I’ll eat far less than if my hands are free.

If you arrive early you will be more than welcome to choose your own seat at the tisch. Late arrivals will be kept in the lobby. That’s the Yekkah in me. If you’re not 20 minutes early you’re late.

Remember, no gifts, just best wishes.

yehudayona……..

way back in 1918 my great-great grandfather’s children established a foundation and bought a cemetery for his descendants. More important than just providing burial was the twice monthly social gatherings.

Some had moved to Brooklyn or CT or New Jersey back then. This kept the family together.

We don’t meet twice a month anymore, we meet 4 times each year, in NYC, the suburbs, Florida and California and occasionally in Israel.

It is always amazing to meet a 3rd or 4th cousin (or for my grandchildren a 5th or 6th cousin) and find there are similar traits, likes and dislikes that still exist.

squeak………….

You arrive near the location 20 minutes early. You have time to park. Get out of the car leisurely. Check and adjust your clothing. Make sure you have everything your are supposed to bring with you. Turn your phone to vibrate so it will not disturb anyone. Approx 2 minutes before the stated time you approach the doors to the establishment. Then you have time to go hang your coat in the cloakroom and present yourself on time at the event.

Never would you actually enter before the stated time, that is inconsiderate. Punctuality means Not 7:59, Not 8:01, but 8:00.

Fashionably late is never in fashion, it’s just late.

And the full quotation is “better late than never, BUT BETTER NEVER LATE.”

Abba_S

Most people coming to the Chuppah and luncheon are not from NYC. We live 60 minutes drive on a Sunday morning from midtown Manhattan.

The wedding will start on time (my maternal side is Yekkah). We expect to wind things up in CT by 2:30.

The evening in NY starts at 7 cocktail hour/schmorg with 8PM dinner/dancing

The cocktail hour can be that short as there is no time needed for Tisch/TaNayim/Badecken…it’s not a wedding but a feast celebrating a wedding.

While you have made the assumption that the ladies will be making themselves ready in the hall, that is not the case. Mrs. CT Lawyer has taken over two beauty salons/spas for that purpose adjoining the venue.

The evening will wrap up by midnight. Monday is a workday for many. We have reserved a block of hotel rooms and will not return to CT until Monday mid day.

BUT…just so you know. we married off one daughter and 2 foster nieces from our home with Sunday brunch weddings and no one complained about going to a 7am minyan in order to travel. I go to a minyan before 7 every day, what’s the big deal? I don’t understand the sleep late on Sunday mishegas. I get up at 4:30 every day

Queen………….

Yes, it is all about rhythm and sleeping late on Sunday would disrupt that.

I come from a family of early risers. This is ‘my time’ to read, learn, enjoy a cup of coffee out of doors in good weather or looking out at the woods and animals in bad weather.

We have a home that is more than 200 years old. There are 5 fireplaces. This morning, I raked the coals and added logs to take a chill off from the overnight snow.

I also let the four dogs out to run and play in the fenced yard.

When they were young and at home, I would often make fresh cooked/baked breakfast for the children.