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Yesterday, friends and I were talking (face to face, if you can belive it) about how impersonal electronic communication has made us. We “hear” about simchas and tragedy, updates of all sorts, but with the same speed as the news is delivered, that’s how fast its forgotten.
A few weeks ago (late summer, maybe?)someone posted tragic news in the CR, about a family who R’L lost twin infants.
I meant to reply in a meaningful way, or at least acknowlege the loss, but with the constant flurry of info flying back and forth, I blinked and let it pass.
I feel rotten becuase of it, so if you read this, please accept my apology. The loss of life and pain that went along with it deserves better.
bpt- u are a special person. I know what you mean because it happens to me all the time. I think back to the Mumbai attack and wonder how could the world forget about this little boy so fast. How many people really still think about it? (I think I am the only one!) what about the Fogel family. How many people are still shaken up? I can say that I seriously think about them almost every single Friday night. But its not enough. Do I remember the pain that someone else went through? no!
I’ve been thinking a lot about the man who lost an entire family (wife, child and in-laws) in a van on train tracks. Yes, I am embarrassed to have forgotten his name but I think of him often and wonder how he is managing now. I think losing a fourth family member has made me focus much more on other people’s loses and worry about how they are holding up. (Not focusing on the negative, ch”v, but being empathetic)
Hashem gave us the ability to forget and not dwell on tzar. A yid darf zein b’simcha. A Jew has to be b’simcha. This is a blessing. We are not supposed to hang on to the bad memories, we are supposed to file them away and move on to happy thoughts. But if we want to think about them to be able to appreciate the good that Hashem gives us, there is a lot of tzar in the world and a lot of suffering that we can be reminded of.
its a bracha that we forget
adorable, (everyone else included)
do we still remember Leiby’s story?
(I was going from my car to my house around 9:00 last night and saw a little boy (around Leiby’s age) walking home by himself automatically I thought about Leiby
But there are things we should not forget. Like compassion for another human being.
I still remember Shalhevet Pass, murdered Hevron March 26, 2001
Dovid Gottstein was the only survivor of the van that crashed into a train.
aries 2756: You are absolutely correct! We can NOT go around sad, moping and depressed. I wanna second adorable’s comment too:
bpt, you ARE a special person! To think of another yid’s tzar and plight is a great middah and is very praiseworthy. I think about tragedies sometimes but try not to dwell on it too much as I physically can’t stop my tears in certain situations(Why am I the only man crying sometimes by a levaya??). Agav, is it just me, but everytime I see 9:11 on my clock I think of Sept 11, 2001.
Another thing about todays communication, people think that just because someone has a mobile phone, that person ‘must’ answer everytime the cellphone rings. I for one never answer any unknown callers, and when I want, only when I feel like it do I answer my cell phone.
Its not a device that let’s people catch you whenever they want, I bought it, I pay for it and I will use it only when and how I want.
moi aussi – thanks for that name.
Agav, is it just me, but everytime I see 9:11 on my clock I think of Sept 11, 2001.
I do too
then again when I see 10:40 I think it’s tax time 🙂
whenever I go on the Ari Halberstam ramp on the way into the city I am on the verge of tears.
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