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I just read all these posts – Goq it sounds like you have a good intuition it is rare to be left out twice and to have everyone named except for you is hurtful and inconsiderate EVEN if it was an oversight.
I support what aries is saying it sounds like you’re unappreciated in your office. You’d be surprised it may be easier for you to find a job elsewhere where people would appreciate and acknowledge your efforts than you think.
Think about it – you spend more hours at work then you do at home – it can be a miserable life working in something you dont like or are unappreciated at. Looking to change your job might be scary but it could change your life.
That being said… Kol Hakavod to you for still sticking with it through everything 🙂 But you know what I’d do I’d go straight to that Rabbi and demand an explanation….. if it was an oversight he SHOULD apologize for missing you out twice as an oversight and if it wasn’t… well at least you’ll know where you stand and what to expect next time.
goq – sorry for the pain you are going thru. I know I would feel very hurt if that happened to me.
Yep I’m new. 🙂
Well I hope it helps! And thanks 🙂
I’m sorry it happened (again). It happens to the best of us. You did nothing wrong and don’t take it as a reflection of you in any way, just know that the fact you are bothered by it (as you mentioned earlier, not just because its you) only means you’re above doing it yourself.
(Side point; over time you’ve given out some info about yourself and you may want to keep in mind that there may be some readers who are familiar with some of the info.)
Welcome, shira 🙂
Goq-anyone in your situation would feel badly being excluded, even if it was an oversight. Oversights hurt just as much sometimes as something done deliberately. Is there anyone in the office you are close to who you could confide in? Even if you got invited and decided not to go, I think someone should speak to the baal simcha and let them know that they erred in not inviting you. It doesn’t matter if it was an oversight or not, if they ‘like you or not’, if everyone is included except you, then it was a hurtful thing to do and they should be told, l’toeles.
Goq-when someone’s feelings are hurt, it’s not trivial. And we can all relate to having had our feelings hurt at some time in our life…
The Goq-
Even if you got invited and decided not to go, I think someone should speak to the baal simcha and let them know that they erred in not inviting you.
Maybe a subtle hint like buy him as a gift the book ‘The Diary Of A Nobody’
Goq I feel so bad at how you were (are) treated!
The Goq – thank you for digging up those posts; I don’t keep a file. But they are 100% the truth, and you know it.
I posted them, and others, in the spirit of Penina taunting Chana. I have had singles coming over for the past forty years and some from the early years still do. Others have married along the way, we recently had a +40’s marriage. And there is hardly anything that I post that is original, I’m not that clever.
Life is very short and what do you have to lose? Just marry and get some lifelong companionship and giving. It doesn’t say anywhere in the Torah that a marriage needs to be eternal happiness, but it’s a lot better than a single’s existence.
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