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How can I overcome selfishness?
It should be easy to overcome shellfish. Just stay away from them or substitute something else.
Aren’t you the impatient one too?
Perhaps there is a connection between the two…?
Just Do It !
Go volunteer somewhere and give your time.
Once you are committed to it’s success, give some money.
Rambam in hilkhos deios teaches that to overcome a bad mida you go to the opposite extreme. In the case of selfishness, give more than 10% to tzedaka for a while until it no longer feels “hard.” Then return to the middle-of-the-road.
Learn Musser and stop posting in CR!
Use your selfishness to make yourself act less selfish. Think about how things might be better for you in your life if you’d give more. People don’t like selfish people.
Hi Hershi,
pretty impressive that u chose a middah and u wanna work on it.
Like with all middos, we have to slowly work on it, piece by piece till we get better and better. Running 2 the opposite extreme is dangerous and will in all likelhoods end in a flop.
Choose something small to start working on. This could be 1 person who u find hard to give to and once a day give something to him. Or this could be 1 act u find hard to do (such as let a car go b4 u u) or whatevr and do it once a day. As you start training urself more and more and u feel the barriers of selfishness falling a bit more each day, u cud add on something else 2 “practice”. Eventually, u will find it starting 2 become more natural 2 u. Remember that breaking middos is hard and may take a long time- (even a lifetime!) but with hard work, u’ll get there Iyh.
Good Luck!
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