i'm feeling very guilty for what i caused

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  • #607868
    superstar
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    Basically I want to know if I’m responsible for someone doing something bad which in a way i helped happen? (By driving them.) I feel like it’s my fault and if i would have know i would have held my ground and refused. Also, i know that the parents would not be happy if they knew what happened.

    #922796

    If you drove the getaway car for a murder, you should probably feel bad. If you drove a kid to get cigarettes, get over it. But don’t do it again.

    #922797
    Torah613Torah
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    It sounds like you didn’t know what you were doing. It was a shogeg. Tell the person you wouldn’t have done it if you knew and how much it upset you. Then relax, Hashem forgives us.

    #922798
    superstar
    Member

    Thanx. I actually talked to the person and i think it made it worse. The person does not even feel bad and now i feel like the person’s a liar or just a bad influence and I just don’t wana be friends with them anymore.

    #922799
    Torah613Torah
    Participant

    Superstar: You can hate the sins but love the sinner.

    #922800
    ThePurpleOne
    Member

    so mayb dont be frenz w them…??

    #922801
    superstar
    Member

    I could never love a liar. Being honest is something that I feel is a major must!

    #922802
    ThePurpleOne
    Member

    so x be frends w them!!!

    #922803
    ObstacleIllusion
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    It is difficult when we find someone that we trusted doing things we don’t necessarily approve of. The knee-jerk reaction is to explain to them that this is wrong, assuming they’ll show some regret for their behavior, but this really doesn’t work. Most people by the time they hit their mid-teens know what is right and wrong, particularly in religious areas. They don’t need someone to tell them and they won’t apologize for their behavior because it won’t make them feel good. It isn’t simple to separate person from actions, if you feel you can maintain a level of friendship with them without being negatively affected then you can respect your beliefs and retain the friendship. To end a friendship, because a friend is perhaps doing something you don’t agree with is a loss for many reasons.

    #922804
    popa_bar_abba
    Participant

    Ok, now it’s time to tell us what happened.

    #922805
    Curiosity
    Participant

    OOPS! Sorry PBA… they give me one job, and I mess it up… :/

    Ehhemmm…Ms/Mr. Superstar,

    We are all wondering what happened. We can only offer more specific advice if you tell us people of internet – “cloud people,” if you will – precisely what transpired and what has you so distraught. Of course, it’s not our immature curiosity that makes us wonder, but rather our burning desire to help another Yid in need… right guys? 😉

    Good luck!

    #922806
    Torah613Torah
    Participant

    I second PBA – what was the issue?

    #922807
    ShiraTobala
    Member

    Ask for forgiveness. Find new friends.

    #922808
    superstar
    Member

    I know if I were you I would be soo curious, but I’m just scared that the person will see what I wrote and have a freak attack. (Even though I don’t think the person goes on here.) But whatever.

    And please don’t tell me it’s not bad: Basically the person hung out with the opposite gender. (Wow me writing it makes it seems like no big deal.)

    You might think this is really nothing but for me/ my school it’s huge!

    Hope your satisfied because I am giving no further details.

    #922809
    ThePurpleOne
    Member

    guilty

    #922810

    you should probably talk to him and give some strong tochacha

    #922811
    superstar
    Member

    Who says it’s a him? 🙂

    And i already tried.

    #922812
    interjection
    Participant

    The level of your guilt depends on how easy it would gave been for your friend to get an alternative ride.

    Just don’t do it again or you and your friends will do stupid, irreversable things before you know it.

    #922813
    superstar
    Member

    Ya that is why i felt so guilty. There is no way my friend would have gotten a ride there that night, if not for me.

    #922814
    Toi
    Participant

    explode your car,but.

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