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So I was setting up my sister’s friend with this guy I know. And my sister’s friend tells me that she is afraid to date, because she’s always afraid that she will end up dating Popa.
So I told her that Popa would never agree to date her because she is fat. Now she’s mad at me, and doesn’t even know that I’m Popa.
I wonder why she was more scared of dating Popa than of her shadchan being Popa.
(BTW: She isn’t really fat; I was just trying to help her anxiety. See also http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/popas-reflections-on-motzaei-shabbos-haazinu#post-306622 at point 2.)
So I told her that Popa would never agree to date her because she is fat. Now she’s mad at me, and doesn’t even know that I’m Popa.
When you called her fat, she probably realized that you’re Popa.
If you weren’t as funny as you are, I would say I think I just figured out who you are… but then it would be meaningless.
I imagine she must have realized you’re Popa by now.
Are you also funny in real life as a person or is it only online when you can be anonymous?
im so confused how popas brain works.. it just doesnt make the least bit of sense…
When he gets engaged to ur sis than u can find out!!!
This is really very funny can’t believe you said that Popa but good going 😉
Happy bump Popa thread day
u don’t ever tell a girl she’s fat. never, ever, ever.
goodgirl94
“u don’t ever tell a girl she’s fat. never, ever, ever.”
Why not? Maybe she doesnt know?
Believe me, she knows.
And if she’s not fat, she thinks she is. She doesn’t need any comments about her weight, even positive ones.
If you’re a male and not married to her, you don’t comment on her body. End of story.
If you are married to her and you absolutely must, must comment on her body (inadvisable) don’t tell her she’s fat, for heaven’s sake! Tell her she is “glowing”, or whatever narishkeit people generally say to pregnant women.
How many male shadchanim do you know? And since when is it a shadchan’s job to comment on women’s bodies? The LAST thing a shadchan should be doing is asking a girl to change in order to meet a guy. If she has to change something fundamental about herself in order for him to want her, then it’s just not shayich.
Well, you can tactfully say that popa generally only dates girls that are a bit thinner.
So I told her that Popa would never agree to date her because she is fat
I had my daughter put on a few pounds for just that reason. She may be fat, but she’s safe.
Syag, LOL.
I think that weight and shidduchim is obviously a very sensitive area. But, do keep in mind, that there is somebody for everyone. I’ve recently made great efforts to change my habits (hence the dearth of recipes. I’ve lately been eating simply) for my own sake, but also to facilitate shidduchim, so as to not be limited to heavier women.
syag- +1, im gonna have my daughter pack on some pounds, thanks for the idea.
If she is “fat” (a subjective term) and is motivated to lose weight on her own, great. If she’s not, and decides to lose weight only for the purpose of getting married, she will promptly gain it back after the wedding. And if this guy really doesn’t find larger women attractive, they will have a problem. Better for her to stay as she is and wait for a guy who appreciates her size.
What if you’re a doctor, don’t you have to tell a girl if she is fat?
A good doctor is well aware of what anorexia and other eating disorders can do to a girl and will therefore not say anything to a teen or young adult about her weight, unless the girl is grossly obese. A better tactic, if the doctor is concerned about a girl’s weight, would be to ask the mother privately about what she serves her children and make appropriate suggestions based on that information.
Regardless, it is better for girls to have female doctors wherever possible.
jewishfeminist02- I see nothing wrong with a doctor recommending a nutritionist to a patient.
I had a mishna berura teacher, (not a rebbi) in high school who told us about his cousin. She (the cousin) was apparently grossly obese, she had trouble getting married, she finally got married to a man of similar weight. During Shana Rishona, she started losing weight, by their second anniversary, she had become a fit, health-obsessed, petite woman and filed for divorce. A story.
I thought it was funny. That’s why I stopped arguing.
ObstacleIllusion,
I’ve recently changed my lifestyle (accounting for the dearth of recipes on my part) in order to avoid a situation like that of the poor hatan in your story!
I also liked “overly expansive”, “broad”, and “weighty”.
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