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May 10, 2018 10:56 pm at 10:56 pm #1519246JosephParticipant
is she still your first cousin?
May 10, 2018 11:16 pm at 11:16 pm #1519275👑RebYidd23ParticipantYes. DNA tests would confirm.
May 11, 2018 7:48 am at 7:48 am #1519291YossiiParticipantObviously they are the שאלה is about the kids are they second cousins and siblings or does the fact that they are more blood/dna related the less dna related is cancelled
May 11, 2018 7:48 am at 7:48 am #1519292☕️coffee addictParticipantYes and she’s also your spouse
May 11, 2018 8:36 am at 8:36 am #1519301Reb EliezerParticipantThe previous Matersdorfer Rov, Rav Shmuel ztzl married his first cousin.
May 11, 2018 8:36 am at 8:36 am #1519300akupermaParticipantYes, but one usually refers to a relationship by the closest term. If someone is your spouse, your first cousin, and your fifth cousin twice removed – you refer to the person as a spouse.
In some American states, such marriages are prohibited (though I suspect the prohibition, left over from canon law, would be unconstitutional). Jewish law has no problem with it, though some geneticists might take issue (especially if the common ancestor, the grandparents of the couple, had any recessive traits that one wants to avoid, e.g. Tay-Sachs disease).
May 11, 2018 8:38 am at 8:38 am #1519308MenoParticipantThe previous Matersdorfer Rov, Rav Shmuel ztzl married his first cousin.
Was she still his cousin after that?
May 11, 2018 8:44 am at 8:44 am #1519311☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantHe was his own first cousin through marriage.
May 11, 2018 9:04 am at 9:04 am #1519317Reb EliezerParticipantSomething more interesting, you have a father and a son and a mother and a daughter. The father marries the daughter and the son marries the mother. What are the relationships after marriage?
May 11, 2018 12:01 pm at 12:01 pm #1519346Uncle BenParticipantIaskern; That’s an old sugya (in Yevamos?) known as “I am my own grandpa!” Of course that’s when both of those couples have children. That’s when you need to have a bottle of Tylenol ready when you read through the ensuing family tree.
Though not qualifying for your extreme example, reading a description of the intertwining marriages of the Skverer Twersky’s and the Vizhnitzer Hager’s would require the bottle of Tylenol at hand as well.May 11, 2018 3:12 pm at 3:12 pm #1519423👑RebYidd23ParticipantIf your wife is your cousin, when you’re with strangers and you want to keep your relationship secret, just tell people she’s your cousin.
May 11, 2018 3:52 pm at 3:52 pm #1519437DovidBTParticipantIf your wife is your cousin, when you’re with strangers and you want to keep your relationship secret, just tell people she’s your cousin.
It may be safer to say she’s your sister. (Bereishis 12:13)
May 11, 2018 5:14 pm at 5:14 pm #1519471votekosherParticipantIf you are planning to marry your first cousin. DONT.
May 12, 2018 11:18 pm at 11:18 pm #1519520GadolhadorahParticipantOnly if she is from West Virginia or Kentucky .
May 13, 2018 7:59 pm at 7:59 pm #1519886Undercover BochurParticipant@VoteKosher: What do you have against marrying a cousin? If your scared of genetic diseases- I hear where youre coming from. But if you think they shouldn’t get married because nits weird, a person shouldn’t not marry someone because hes scared of people calling him weird.
Wasn’t there a story recently of a bachur marrying his neice?
Also, I personally know step-siblings who are now happily married to each other.
If the would’ve broke up the shidduch because they were scared about what other people would think, they wouldn’t be happily married.May 14, 2018 6:07 pm at 6:07 pm #1520501Undercover BochurParticipantWhen I was younger there was a kid in my class whos parents were 1st cousins.
May 15, 2018 12:36 pm at 12:36 pm #1520973Reb EliezerParticipantUndercover Bochur, The Rambam פרק ב איסורי ביאה הלכה יד says it is an oral mitzva to marry a niece based on the pasuk ומבשרך לא תתעלם.
May 15, 2018 2:17 pm at 2:17 pm #1521022ToiParticipant…you’re probably a redneck.
May 15, 2018 10:00 pm at 10:00 pm #1521267Undercover BochurParticipant@Toi Im not a redneck, Im just not so close-minded
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