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It is very important these days to work on judging others favorably. Besides the mitzva it is also a segula that Hashem should judge us favorably.
Do you have any ideas or stories to share about judging people favorably?
The old belzer rebbi once saw (in Erertz Yisroel) a garbage truck driving on shabbos so he scram “yoledes” (a woman going to the hospital to deliver). They later heard that it was exactly true, there was no other vehicle around so a garbage truck took her to the hospital!
Some questions:
1- If you see someone talk in middle of davening, how do we judge him favorably?
2- Are there any exceptions when we should not judge someone favorably?
There is a great book by Artscroll called “The Other Side of the Story” all about judging people favorably. One of my favorite books by artscroll. It really is like a self-help book to using your wildest imagination in the most improbable of circumstances.
Kingdavid
What I do is I tell myself
1. They may not know it is assur. When they do things that are wrong they do it beshogeg while I do it bemeizid.
2. If they know it is assur they may not know how serious of an issur it is.
3. Even if they know it is serious they may have a huge yetzer hora to do it and it is very hard for them to stop. I know that there are things that I have problems with that I have a very hard time stopping.
4. Hashem doesnt appreciate when we look down on others and my looking down on others may even be meakeiv my tefillos from being accepted so I better mind my own business and stop thinking about what they are doing wrong.
Start saying the tefillah of Reb elimelech of Lizhensk before Davening Shacharis and have kavana by Aderaba Tein B’Libeinu Shenir’eh Kol Echad Ma’alas Chaveireinu V’Lo Chesronim.
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