I think the real issue here is…

Popa bar abba. He and his fellow cronies lower the standard of conversation here. This allows for others to feel comfortable expressing their opinions in more hurtful ways. The most hurtful people here diguise themselves in a guise of humor but its clear they want to harm people. Popa bar abba is avi avos hatuma, not choppy, by a long run. If not for popa bar abba you could have even asked choppy to explain himself. But popa mixes in and hijacks the conversation and whatever he wants to get through gets through. He is manipulative. He is taking you for a ride. And he takes great pride in it. I also think there are alot of people with a guilty conscience who are being hypocritically over-aggressive (not to mention themselves hypocritically judgemental, biased, and perpetrating sinas chinam in other cases) and that is wickedness and there is no excuse for it.