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Look at the bright side of life and try to find the positives in anything. I know its hard. But there must be tons of good there too. I know, I just finished and I’m so glad!
I’m so sorry you are going through such a hard time. I really hope things get better soon!!!!
Kol hakavod for sticking it out and going to school each day. I know it’s a big challenge, and you are getting tremendous schar each day that you go. The harder it is, the more amazing you are for sticking with it!!!
Please let me know how things are going with the social worker. If it really doesn’t work out, I will try to see if I can figure something else out, but I’m not sure what I can do over an anonymous website, so I really hope it works out! Keep us posted.
JA: IMHO, you really should have a long talk with your parents. I find it hard to believe that if they know you are feeling this miserable that they would not listen to you. Maybe it’s time to open up to them like you have opened up to a bunch of strangers.
Iacisrmma – you are right in theory, but it does sound like she has tried. It can be difficult to know how to go about these things the right way. I am hoping that the social worker will be able to help her to figure out the right way to go about that. If she is a good social worker, she should be able to do that.
LU: IMHO, if you have put her in contact with a social worker then JA should stop posting for a while and let the professional try to rectify the situation. Continually posting (whether in this thread or the “diploma” thread, and by us responding, maybe counter productive to what the Social Worker might be suggesting.
Iacisrmma – I didn’t; her mother did, and I don’t know if she has actually met with her yet. My feeling is that if she is posting, she obviously must feel a need to post. She has mentioned that her social life is not great, and she probably feels a need to vent.
If she feels a need to post, I don’t think she should be discouraged from doing so. Additionally, if she is online, this is probably one of the safer places for her to be, so it is probably good that she is here.
I do agree though that people should exercise great caution in terms of their responses. This is true whomever you are posting to, but some situations require more caution than others. You really don’t know the damage you can cause, especially when posting to someone so much younger than you. All teenagers are very vulnerable, and some much more than others. This sounds like a particularly sensitive situation.
The main thing needed is sympathy and encouragement,imho.
I know it’s hard. It really boils down to having emunah and bitachon and making sure you have a nice support group around you of friends, family, and a mentor.
I know it’s hard. It really boils down to having emunah and bitachon and making sure you have a nice support group around you of friends, family, and a mentor.
Jhonny, even I did not show up to school. I missed so much that they did not even realize that I left. They thought it was me gone for another few days and going to come back a few days later, so good for you.
Hi Johnny Appleseed,
I wonder what makes you still stay! I’ve been through high school and I gained tremendous skills- like learning how to skip class! I did gain knowledge in navi and things like that that I do enjoy knowing now… But… I get you 100%!!! Why stay in a terrible place that is not out for your good, but for the good of…? Wait? The good of who!!!? : P I am not sure schools realize that the secular world has changed since the time of Sarah S. and her starting bais yaakovs. Then, every girl was into studying. Now, I wonder why girls are not taking awesome vocational courses to enjoy life and learn practical and fun skills. Fun here is the key, because living a happy jewish life should also be fun- or is that only my opinion?! And why not do some sort of learning on your own to keep connected with your yiddishkeit and such…? Or… there are seminaries that girls go to at a young age. If you are interested… I know of the new manchester sem and if that is something for you… you can look into that as an option…
Mostly, this is YOUR LIFE! Just in case everyone is putting in their input on what you should do… Yes, of course parents and administration need to be respected… There are many ways in which something can be handled. Why not calm down a little, though I know it is hard to do… Take a day off from school… Get in touch with your self… With your thoughts… Hear yourself, what you want from life… How you feel you can best live your life now (and not waiting for graduation as permission to finally breathe…) I don’t know if your parents get you and are in this with you… Just remember- you have every right to feel the way you do. There is nothing wrong with you. Remember that… and follow your dreams! Don’t live a life of hesitation and regret… If leaving high school now will help you be a lover of Gd and an intact Jew, why not go for it?
Iacisrmma – I’m beginning to see your point…
j/j I still wouldn’t discourage her from posting if she really feels the need to. It has its drawbacks but is still far better than most other places she could be.
Understandable. They don’t own you and your growth. They are helping you and maybe you can let them make that easier on you.
You can give them a job so it feels like you’re in charge. Tell them that you would like them to please drive you at this day at this time.
You don’t have to tell them what you talk about in there.
It’s still special and a gift for your personal development.
So glad to hear <3 You’re awesome JA!
Jhonny, just pretend that the social worker is someone on the CR. 🙂
I am very happy for you that you have someone real to talk to. I pray that it goes well and that she understands you and that you can find some resolution for your challenges.
You may not have found her by yourself, but you definitely started the process and have taken very important steps to improve your life. Kol hakavod. So many people (me included) complain about parts of their lives and want to change it, but never actually do anything about it. So you have already shown courage and strength of character just by reaching out and trying to change things.
Yay! I’m so happy! It’s super important to be talking to someone…I’m so glad 🙂
JA – so good to hear from you!! We hadn’t heard from you in a while, and I was starting to worry.
I’m so glad you started going to this therapist. Kol hakavod!! You are really courageous.
I can understand why it’s annoying that it’s through your parents. I would also find that difficult. But try to remind yourself that you are doing this for yourself and not for your parents.
It really takes a lot of guts to do this. I am very impressed and also very happy that you are going, and that it sounds like it went well.
Hatzlacha!
LB, WTP, and Shopping: +1!
WTP: “So many people (me included) complain about parts of their lives and want to change it, but never actually do anything about it”
So true.
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