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Any advice on how to become more religious?
Daven three times a day with kavanah.
What does being “religious” mean?
Try to think positively of others even when they annoy you.
learn the jewish laws with a study partner, starting with the more frequent laws
Make it a priority to study the Torah every day, even if it’s only for a few minutes. Coordinating it with the weekly parashah is a convenient way to ensure that you study the whole Torah every year.
1. Think of an area you need to work on and take on one aspect of that area that you will try to do 100%.
For example, if you feel you need to work on tznius, start making sure that your knees are covered whenever you are sitting.
2. Make sure you go to some kind of shiur at least once a week.
3. Hang around people who are the type of people whom you want to emulate, and try to become friends with them.
4. Don’t hang around people whom you don’t want to emulate.
“so I really do need to work on this.”
Work on what exactly?How much younger?
so it was bound to revert to RebShidduch’s dating life..
1. you follow the advice that CR posters already gave you
2. you stop talking to, hanging out with, giving rides to, spending time with, confiding in, doing kiruv on, studying with, etc. any boy, no matter what age, religious affiliation, how much he promises you he will learn in the future, or degree of interest he shows in you, unless it is a shidduch date with the purpose of seeing whether he is a potential marriage partner, pre-approved by a parent.
3. see point 1.disclaimer: this advice is specifically geared to RebShidduch based on her previous posts and not meant to be generalized to other situations.
Stop wasting your time on Internet websites like your Rebbe told you.
I was going to suggest that you consider switching out of a coed college so that you won’t be around boys and the temptation won’t exist.
However, you now mention that you will be meeting this boy soon, but it’s not a shidduch. I am wondering what that means. How did this boy enter your life if you haven’t met him yet?
I definitely think you need to get to seminary right away. What is happening with your Midreshet Rachayl plans?
Keep more Mitzvos
why do you want to be more religious? is it because of a boy or your not happy with your own status? it it’s because of a boy then fuhgettaboutit. it’s not going to work. if it’s your own ambition that’s driving you than by all means, pick any advice that was given and fits with your style.
It is quite funny that you write that you think its wrong to talk to this guy but when you talk about meeting, you say that you will meet him Iy”h
Mammele, I had responded to that comment here:
and Rebshidduch responded to my comment here:
I don’t know if you ever saw those posts or if you did, if you understood what it was in reference to. I couldn’t write it next to yours because the thread was closed.
I agree with Mammele.
It sounds like RebShidduch is ambivalent right now. She can have mixed feelings. It may not be logical but it’s possible to feel this way and that way, and go back and forth trying to resolve the cognitive dissonance.
Has no one ever been torn?
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And/or maybe with this guy she is looking for, perhaps subconsciously, contradictory qualities:
Like some bochurim are looking for a wife that is this and that, but this and that usually don’t go together in one person.As explained in Dr. Benzion Sorotzkin’s Finding The Bashert: Why Is It So Difficult To Hear The Bas Kol?
Thank you 🙂
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