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What the normal procedure to redting a shidduch?
1. Call the Boy or the Boy’s parents. Tell them about the girl. If they say yes you call the Girl or the Girl’s parents.
2. If you are closer to the girl or believe the boy will definitely say yes, but that the girl might not want you might consider suggesting it to the girl first.
3. The goal is to avoid making anyone feel bad and if someone has to feel bad it’s better if the guy feels bad.
The “normal procedure” (which is what you asked for) is to redt it to their parents.
Depends on how old they are and their community. Why don’t you just ask your friend to ask the boy whether it should go to him or the parents.
Depending on who I know, I just approach that side and suggest the shidduch.
Hatslocha!!! This is very exciting. I hope it works!! 🙂
I was told that the proper way to do things is go through the parents and only go through the kids if the parents are being obstacles or if the kids are entirely independent (and even then people go through the parents) them again it depends on your circles
From upper 20s, for sure 30 and up, better to go directly to candidates. Parents would stop a lot of good suggestions, its the kids who know what they are interested in. Talk to them.
You want a story about a mother who stops every suggestion for her talented son, who is over 30?
The Tachsit is still home…, and I wouldnt think its his fault. (after suggesting some candidates to the mother )
i agree with professional. from 25+ it should go direct to the guy or girl.
if they still need mommy to ask questions for them , then that in itself is a problem.
I say from 20+ it goes to both the parties and he parents.
From 25+ it is breach of confidence to tell the parents unless the parties allow it.
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