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August 3, 2012 5:28 am at 5:28 am #604412commonsenseParticipant
Today I met the most popular girl in my high school class. Although it is a few DECADES later I still felt like that awkward high school girl and found it hard to string together a few sentences and sound normal while conversing with her. How come that feeling never goes away?
I’m pretty sure this topic applies mostly to the women and girls here but men feel free to add your opinion.
August 3, 2012 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #889924TheGoqParticipantIt sounds like you feel inferior to her she wasn’t better than you then and shes not better than you now, was she nice to you in high school? if yes than great if not than why bother to speak to her at all? the popular kid in my class was a jerk then and he probably still is, he treated me like garbage if i saw him today and he stopped to say hello i would either walk away or punch him in the mouth.
August 3, 2012 5:40 pm at 5:40 pm #889925SaysMeMember__ years later you wouldnt give him a chance? not even to say hello? Kids are kids and dont realize the power of their words or actions. He may have been completely wrong then, but you wont let him apologize or turn over a new page?
August 3, 2012 5:41 pm at 5:41 pm #8899262scentsParticipant<OPINION> Because you care <i>to much</I> what other people will think about you, therefore you get lost. </OPINION?
August 3, 2012 6:34 pm at 6:34 pm #889927TheGoqParticipantSaysme this kid terrorized and bullied me all through grade school nothing he could say could ever make up for the damage he did to me.
August 4, 2012 7:49 pm at 7:49 pm #889928CuriosityParticipantGoq – Arrogant “popular” kids, don’t always stay that way, and often gain perspective when they get older. I personally know at least 2 or 3 such people. You should forgive ppl.
In response to commonsense, I vote for what Goq said at the beginning.
August 5, 2012 2:47 am at 2:47 am #889929commonsenseParticipantShe was a nice girl even in high school and I have no reason to think she is anything but nice now. She was very nice when I met her. I know it is all in my head, but you would think that many years of being comfortable in my own skin would make me feel more self assured upon meeting such people from my past, but I immediately revert back to the very unself confident teen I was.
August 5, 2012 4:37 am at 4:37 am #889930gefenParticipantCommonsense: I remember learning about this in a psychology class. Even if a person overcame their feelings of shyness, inferiority, awkwardness, low self esteem, etc. and became a confident and self secure adult, they might still revert to their old feelings when meeting someone from their past whom they haven’t seen in a long time. It sounds weird but it does happen. It’s not uncommon. The mind works in strange ways.
So don’t worry. You’re perfectly normal.
August 6, 2012 11:16 pm at 11:16 pm #889931🍫Syag LchochmaParticipant<side whisper> Goq – if he’s still in the hood I’ll take care of him for you. Send me his initials in morse code. . .</side whisper>
August 7, 2012 2:15 am at 2:15 am #889932Think firstMemberCommonsence- as a man I can tell you that this has happened to me similarly. It’s weird. But hey.
August 7, 2012 3:14 am at 3:14 am #889933TheGoqParticipantLOOOL syag that was funny.
August 7, 2012 5:42 pm at 5:42 pm #889934I can only tryMemberAn article I read several years ago said that people attending class reunions revert back to the social structure and standing that existed in school.
Your feeling awkward around a class leader is completely normal.
August 7, 2012 6:37 pm at 6:37 pm #889935commonsenseParticipantGefen and ICOT, thanx for your support. It’s good to know I am not the only one this happens to.
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