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shud one say hi or good morning to a stranger
good morning-thats what i say. or maybe hello, but for some reason-Not hi, i guess maybe because it’s less formal
Why not? Doesn’t hurt and could lift someones spirit!
why not?
I once said to a stranger, “hi or good morning” and he just kind of looked at me funny.
It couldn’t hoit…
What about saying good shabbos to a stranger
i once said good shabbos to a stranger – older woman. she looked at me and asked, “do i know you?” i said no. she gave me this big smile and said good shabbos.
My mother always taught me not to talk to strangers at all. Plus I grew up in NY where the minhag hamakom is to not greet strangers at all. So no hi’s or good shabbos for me.
And if you pass me in the street, please ignore me, so that I won’t feel uncomfortable ignoring you.
Papa bear- we have quite a few of those threads already and I can vomit from boredom!
I think it is very special to greet everyone especially on Shabbos. My husband said “Good Shabbos” to a yid who looked at him amazed and asked “Do you know me?”
“Sure” said my husband “You were standing behind me at Matan Torah!”
in my office girls say that its not owsgehalten to say hi how are you? to your boss. I think its just rude to nodd your head. Anyone know these halachis?
My little ha’ara about saying Good Shabbas….
Did you ever notice that when Yidden that do NOT know each other, pass each other on the street on Shabbas, they’ll say “Good Shabbas”.
But…
When you pass a Yid you DO know, but not really well (and you really have nothing to say to them) you’ll say “Good Shabbas, Good Shabbas” – i.e. you’ll say it twice, as if the second Good Shabbas is an acknowledgement of knowing the person, and is in place of really saying anything more substantial.
Theres a kinda smile that means hi that I give to strangers if we meet eyes.. I think thats called polite, not even friendly.
Shalom Aleichem To Ya, How do ya, do ya, do ya…
If you’re from out of town, the minhag hamokom is to be polite and say something to show the other person that you recignize him as a tzelem elokim. For some reason, in more in-town places (Brooklyn, Monsey and even the new Lakewood), the minhag hamakom is different.
Whenever I travel to these places, I say “Good Morning” and “Gut Shabbos” to everyone just to see the reaction. Usually it’s just a double take, like,”Do I know you?”
smile:)
just give them a big old hearty hug and jovially smack them on the back so that they just open right up and you two can become best of friends
wow yeshiva world leder, ive never heard something like that! you inspired me. i thinkk ill do that tom…thnks
or you could just flash a nice wide smile and shout good Shabbos with a little wave and a nod, and then when you see them in Shul later because they’re sitting right next to you, the ice’ll be broken already!!
i was once walking down the street in boro park…and some stranger said good morning to me. i was so taken aback that all i could do was burst into laughter 😀
I love this thread, THANKS!
Now for my question:
With the overabundance of good hearted individuals in Boro Park, who perform all kinds of Chesed for S T R A N G E R S all hours of the day and night, Hatzalah, Bikur Cholim, Shomrim, Kiruv, Hachnosas Orchim, there are so many to mention, with the help of Hashem, WHY OH WHY, do many Boro Parkers, feel uncomfortable offering a simple Good Shabbos to (same gender) S T R A N G E R S on the street, which requires almost no effort, as opposed to Flatbush where it’s commonplace and heartwarming???
Anyone have any thoughts/theories on my question asked above?
Is it really true that saying Good Shabbas to people on the street is so rare in B.P.???
I live in Flatbush (and though it’s definitely NOT Yerushalayim) most people will initiate, or at least respond to, a ‘Good Shabbas’.
What’s goin’ on in B.P.?!?
Ive been giving it some thought. Does this theory make any sense to anyone?
I think that perhaps most BPers and Flatbushers, do whatever their Rabbonim tell them to.
Is it possible that more or most Rabbonim in Flatbush encourage their congregants/Chassidim to greet strangers on the street (because they dont have to be just like you, theyre still Jews), than Rabbonim in BP?
Of course I say Hello.
Seeing the postman/woman drop the mail in my box…I say Good afternoon.
Passing the usual people on my morning walk, I say Good morning.
If i get a delivery to my home..I say hello.
When walking to and from Shul on Shabbos I say “gut shabbos” to Yidden from all walks of life.
Try it.
popcorn, you live in BP? There are some who do, but youre in the minority if you say Good Shabbos to strangers on the street.
Mailmen, delivery men, etc everyone greets. They want to continue getting their mail and deliveries..!
of course – i always thought it was simply logistics. if you’re from out of town, smile and say good shabbos to all the jews, normal, can be done. (not only that, it’s more like greeting, “landsman”. but, if you live in -town, boruch Hashem, you couldn’t even carry on a conversation with someone else – you’d be non-stop saying good shabbos.
i truly don’t think there’s any deep dark secret.
binah, but, if you live in -town, boruch Hashem, you couldn’t even carry on a conversation with someone else – you’d be non-stop saying good shabbos.
The fear of “saying non-stop saying good shabbos” doesnt seem to hold back all of Flatbush from saying Good Shabbos to all Jews.
its always nice to be nice.
i say good morning to people and some seem surprised. takes them a minute for it to register then they smile and respond gm to me to
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