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March 9, 2012 9:11 pm at 9:11 pm #602418yeshivabochur123Participant
There’s a girl that I want to marry in Baltimore. I hope she likes me but I think I scared her off a little bit. How can I make everything OK again?
March 9, 2012 9:23 pm at 9:23 pm #860435soliekMemberstalk her in a very very creepy way
March 9, 2012 9:30 pm at 9:30 pm #860436popa_bar_abbaParticipantWhat’s her name?
March 9, 2012 9:34 pm at 9:34 pm #860437hershiMemberHow does she know you?
What did you do that may have scared her?
March 9, 2012 9:45 pm at 9:45 pm #860438gabieMemberWhy do you want to marry her? Looks?
March 9, 2012 10:26 pm at 10:26 pm #860439oomisParticipantBack off a little, then write her (NOT E-MAIL, NOT TEXT MESSAGE) her a friendly note. Tell her that you want to get to know her better, and that you sense she feels you are rushing things too much, so you want to ease up a little, if that’s the case. Ask her how she feels about that, or if you are mistaken. Either way, she will tell you how she wants to proceed, if in fact she wants to proceed in the relationship. JMO.
March 10, 2012 11:55 am at 11:55 am #860440moreMemberMaybe i can help…be more specific, please, like How did you scare her off? please note as a side pointer, Baltimore is a rather small place.. like PBA hinted with his question, don’t be too specific.. there may be factors on here that will scare her further.. chas v’shalom…
March 10, 2012 12:43 pm at 12:43 pm #860441more_2MemberBe more specific, would love to help.. Maybe you can speak to a mutual friend .. And have them smooth things through… You want to give over the impression that you are a wonderful guy and that Misunderstandings can happen. how’s the best way to get this acros? I can’t advise unless like I said you are alot more specific… Hatzlocha !!! O hope all goes well!!!
March 11, 2012 1:59 am at 1:59 am #860442yeshivabochur123Participantits not looks or infatuation. its her eclectic personality that I really like. I will try writing to her iyh. Thanks for all the advice guys.
March 11, 2012 3:32 am at 3:32 am #860443HaLeiViParticipantThat’s so cool, to propose on the CR!
March 11, 2012 3:42 am at 3:42 am #860444Bar ShattyaMemberI am the girl. I think if you take me to the harbor for the 15th time, I will be scared off.
March 11, 2012 5:32 am at 5:32 am #860445HealthParticipantYB123 -There are a lot of girls I want to marry -one in Balto. -some in NY, some in Lakewood. But alas, noone believes in shotgun weddings! E/o expects that the girl actually has a choice.
Be careful with stalking or harrassing -it’s more likely to end up married to some hairy man in prison than to the girl! :0
March 11, 2012 7:34 am at 7:34 am #860446more_2MemberI would suggest if you do choose to write to her, that it shouldn’t be via text. Nor. Email but rather snail mail on a nice piece of stationary. Thus way it is alot more personal. I wish you the best of hatzlocha in this… If I can be of any more help, please let me know! This letter will show a good dose of maturity on your part. I’d Also say it’s a good way to impress a girl..;)
March 11, 2012 1:25 pm at 1:25 pm #860447yeshivabochur123Participantjust got the news its officially over and strangely enough i feel quite releived.
March 11, 2012 3:38 pm at 3:38 pm #860448pascha bchochmaParticipantGo to a dating coach
March 11, 2012 4:29 pm at 4:29 pm #860449HLMMemberNot out to give advice or anything nut one thing I learnt is you have to be yourself and comfortable around her/him and not to pretent to be something you’re not.
March 11, 2012 9:34 pm at 9:34 pm #860450more_2MemberYou mean to say you were actually officially engaged to her? What makes you feel this way? Are you really feeling this way or you are brushing this feeling to the surface to hide your pain? People are allowed to show hurt and anger, if you keep it all in now you can explode later… I find it strange that you feel relieved after what you wrote previously…
March 11, 2012 9:53 pm at 9:53 pm #860451more_2MemberOomis, what is jmo stnd for??
March 18, 2012 2:54 am at 2:54 am #860452more_2MemberBump. Yeshiva bachur123, how is evth going???
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