Guys-things that a girl does or says on a date that makes you lose interest

Guys have humility and are judicious in their public commentary. Hence the lack of public discussion of intensely private thoughts.

Before this thread too becomes another girl/boy – man/woman issue, let me offer one thought.

HaShem in his great wisdom created BOTH versions of humanity. Each one with its own characteristics to succeed in productive life. We NEED both models – just the way they are. A man with masculine attributes, and a woman with feminine ones. No need to mix and match. Certainly no need to bicker and bash. To denigrate one variant over the other shows lack of appreciation of the Ribono Shel Olam. As if something ?? ????? is lacking in His creation.

Just another of my two pennies.

This happened to me 40+ years ago.

It was a first Beshow (sit in) and the first thing the young lady asked me was

“Do you intend to have a say in the way your wife dresses?’

When I said yes she stood up.

Can you imagine the looks on our parents’ faces whe we came in to the room after 2 minutes?

HaShem in his great wisdom created BOTH versions of humanity. Each one with its own characteristics to succeed in productive life. We NEED both models – just the way they are. A man with masculine attributes, and a woman with feminine ones. No need to mix and match. Certainly no need to bicker and bash. To denigrate one variant over the other shows lack of appreciation of the Ribono Shel Olam. As if something ?? ????? is lacking in His creation.

If she’s too preachy (just kidding) 🙂

Not too many guys commenting.

Guys are more judicious. We don’t make big decisions based on one thing.

if she doesnt talk!

That is not the question of this thread. The question of this thread asks for lists of things which make guys say no.

Most guys don’t have such a list.

If you want to know what balance of things guys look for, there have been multiple threads about that.

Firstly, the girls end it far more than 50% of the time.

But more important, there are common factors in why a guy might stop dating someone, but nothing which can be reduced to checklists.

So forget my firstly; I have no numbers.

But, I have heard that girls are more likely to be chronic “dumpers”.

“Firstly, the girls end it far more than 50% of the time”

If you’re right than that may be part of the problem.

Ofcourse,

I don’t think it’s mostly the looks. I dated many very pretty girls but I said no, mostly because they were dull, quiet, preachy, fake frum (one said to me “yasherkoach”).

Things that if a girl said (if I were still single, of course) that would make me lose interest…

“I’m sorry I had to postpone our date from yesterday. It’s just that yesterday Jupiter was in ascension and my psychic told me that it was bad luck to go out on a date then. But we’re good now until next Thursday when Saturn goes into conjunction with Mercury.”

“Would you like to see my collection of potato chips that look like Ernest Borgnine?”

“Well, I have two sisters, both younger, and a brother who is older than I am. Oh, and then there’s the horrible mutant who lives up in our attic. I’m not sure how he’s related, but I know that I dread it when it’s my turn to take the rotting fish heads he eats for lunch up to his room. But now that we’re together, you’ll take my turn for me, won’t you?”

“Well, my favorite mollusk is the octopus, although I suppose the nautilus is quite good too.”

“Have you ever had the rush that comes from playing a game of ‘chicken’ with a cop car?”

“Some people get turned off when I tell them that Daddy’s a mortician, but he’s really not that bad. It’s a job that has to be done just like any other? It’s certainly not that much worse than being a plumber or a sewer worker, right? And, on the plus side, in what other job could a man bring home eyeballs for his kids to play with?”

“Want to go cow tipping?”

“You’re so much nicer than the last guy I dated. All he did was complain when I spit into his drink.”

“As a rule, I don’t go in cars on dates… too much chance for yichud and all that. However, I have a rickshaw here that you can use to pull me around town.”

The Wolf

In either boy or girl, I would think someone who is rude to the wait staff at a restaurant, someone who bad-mouths someone, or talks negatively about their former dates.

1) sometimes the girl may ask questions that a guy may not understand.

2)a big deal breaker is when the girl doesn’t know what she wants (life, hashkafa, etc)

lol to the wolf!:)

Thank you real-brisker, well said.

Just be yourself. For example, if you start talking about art when you clearly don’t know what you’re talking about, that’s being fake cultured.

IJMO – No problem!

rb,

IJMO’s original post (which is the one I commented on) referred only to “yasherko(i)ach” as “fake frum”. “Fake frum” in my book, is, as you said, unnecessary chumras, especially at the expense of others. I would call a girl who asks, “so, do you shtelzuch on the rishoinim?” “fake yeshivish”. “Yasherko(i)ach, or “shkoiach” has become pretty accepted by some (although I still find it a bit amusing coming from a female). I wouldn’t hold “shkoiach” against her.

DY – The point is the same

DY – You bet!

metro – Yes but she wont be able to tell you what is written in them!