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I noticed twice yesterday that guys were calling girls by their first name in public (single guys who would normally die of embarrassment if they “slipped”)….I thought it was pretty bad! Why is it that when they get “high” they say things that are not appropriate? I would die if a random guy asked me out on Purim in public!
Because alcohol reduces inhibitions.
Calling by the first name or asking out? Those are two different things. The former is bad, but might be excusable on Purim. (Might be, I’m not sure.) The latter is wrong anytime (even not in public).
I generally avoid being around men on Purim.
Because alcohol lowers a person’s inhibitions. Were you looking for a deeper answer?
Alcohol lowers inhibitions.
Did anyone mention that alchohol lowers a person’s inhibitions?? 😉
Seriously, why is everyone repeating eachother?
More than once I’ve heard guys say things on Purim that they wouldn’t have dared to say had they been sober. Think before getting drunk!
dunno:
“More than once I’ve heard guys say things on Purim that they wouldn’t have dared to say had they been sober. Think before getting drunk!”
I’m not sure how thinking beforehand would help anything. No matter how hard you think, alcohol still (wait for it…) lowers one’s inhibitions.
its really embarrassing when these yeshivah bochrim start asking you your name and age and stuff on purim!! but its pretty funny when they get drunk you havta admit…..
Yea i was walking down a street in flatbush yesterday and a guy, teenaged, calls out to me ” Hey how are ya, a frelichin purim sweetie! “. it was totally weird and he didnt even look drunk! does he think just because its purim he could act like that?? that never happened to me before so i was really suprised
Purim is no excuse for that crude vulgar behavior.
I mean maybe im at fault because i was dressed up sorta cutely (if i do say so myself) and i was like around his age.. but i wouldnt expect a guy to talk to me in the 1st place.
“I noticed twice yesterday that guys were calling girls by their first name in public”
No man shuld EVER call a woman by her first name in public unless its his daugter or granddaugter.
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I meant to say if he thinks what could happen before drinking he might limit it.
mosherose- Is it OK if my cousin sometimes calls me by my first name? He usually just says like “uh excuse me..” but yesterday he wanted me to pass him the Diet Dr. Pepper and I couldnt hear him coughing so he called me by my first name. I was takah very embarrased and I couldnt stop blushing the entire seudah..
what should they call them by then?!?
“Is it OK if my cousin sometimes calls me by my first name? He usually just says like “uh excuse me..””
If hes going to talk to you at all he shuld call you Miss or Mrs. whatever yur last name is.
Also I dont know if a mixed Purim seuda is a good idea eether.
mosherose; …Or his sister!
is this a joke each time a man other than ur grandfather and father call u they should say miss/mrs?!?
might confused:
why would anyone ever call another by a first name?
some one please enlighten me!
By many Bnei Torah, a husband will not call his wife by her first name if non immediate family is around.
mosherose- did I say Diet Dr. Pepper? I meant Gemarah. And it was over the mechitzah..
“By many Bnei Torah, a husband will not call his wife by her first name if non immediate family is around. “
And many more wont use her first name at all even if their alone in private.
“I mean maybe im at fault because i was dressed up sorta cutely (if i do say so myself) and i was like around his age.. but i wouldn’t expect a guy to talk to me in the 1st place.”
Girls just can’t seem to put 2 and 2 together on this one. It’s over their heads. If you care about the future of the jewish people, don’t dress provocatively (read: cutely) around drunk boys your age! Or ever, but that’s too much for you to understand, obviously.
I noticed twice yesterday that guys were calling girls by their first name in public
Yeah,
Even I called to some girls (something which I don’t usually do and I said Mrs.___ (In context, it was to ask if they liked it if their husbands get drunk)
mbachur: Men don’t need their wife’s approval to do a mitzvah.
seventytotheone: Firstly, it is so not over my head and i understand completely. i was not dressed “provacatively” at all, bute Cute, like i said. thats a big difference. Also, this guy was not drunk. I was just wondering if purim gave him the permission of talking to me, when it would never happen on a regular day.
Grandmaster,
I know that, that’s why i asked after i was drunk
I was just showing her that wives on’t care if their husbands get drunk
What about the girls that start conversations with guys? Also since it is known that the teenage guys are out collecting and unfortunetly drinking when it is not the mitzvah to (i.e. By night) then why do the parents let the girls go outside? Especially dressed CUTE? Or not tzniusdik.
I’ve heard many times that lots of bad stuff goes on on purim. In concerts, meals, boys collecting… Purim is NO excuse for anyone to overstep their boundaries. However when someone is drunk, their insides come out and they might say what they’re thinking which may not be appropriate. You can’t make girls stay inside and run away from guys. Girls are allowed to live just like guys can. Even if they stay inside, guys go collecting so you can’t stop it. Just respond coldly when a random guy starts a conversation. And this is why many girls don’t dress up “cutely” or at all.
And mosherose: mixed meals are fine when they are done correctly. Its called SELF CONTROL!!!
I dont get it. This is such a confused thread where yet again it seems we cant differentiate between acceptable and not. Comparing guys (married or single) calling out to single random girls in the street is never acceptable whoever and whatever. Calling a cousin by their name to whom you or at least your families obviously have connection if you’re both sitting at the same Purim ??????? I cant see anything wrong with that at all.
Purim is not an excuse for that sort of behaviour. But girls should not be hanging around drunk boys at all, it encourages that sort of loshonos. Seminarys should keep older girls of the drunken streets and on the holiest day of the year, Purim, will be a kosher day.
If one knows, he will not behave himself, he should no drink on Purim.
Just one of the reasons why I absolutely do not like Purim. On Purim, I don’t drink wine (I never do in any case), I don’t hold any big seudah (just a small seudah with my wife and close family with no or almost no alcohol), go to work, and at home I lock myself up behind a double lock to avoid the drunks.
You would die? Thank Gd that isnt something you have to worry about.
I wasn’t saying that the girls should be locked in the houses and its very different inside the house in front of the mother/father. Maybe there should be school get togethers for the girls with bouncers so no guys could come in (on purim night) I was going around delivering some shaloch manos on purim night and I saw groups of guys and girls right next to each other that’s unacceptable and either the parents should keep the girls or the guys @ home
You don’t like purim?
Is it true, alcohol lowers ones inhibitions?
Daniel whats going on with your ??????? No wine. Going to work. Small ????? ???? ?? ???? by the sound of it. Where’s the ??? ???? ????? that we’re supposed to have? You seem to have ????? ? (just about) but not the ??? ???? !!
Is it true, alcohol lowers ones inhibitions?
I’ve seen that a number of times.
BTW, the reason so many posts said the same thing is probably because they were posted when the earlier ones were not yet approved.
Or they thought they were being funny.
Now everyone try to be funny and repeat my post… 😉
BTW, the explanation as to why so many posts said the same thing is because they were posted when the earlier ones were not yet approved.
Maybe people said the same thing more than once because they wrote it before the previous ones were approved.
Or maybe they wanted to be funny.
another possibility is that, hard as this is to believe, they thought they were being funny
The most likely explanation is that every post in the CR is posted 3-5 times. Then Mod 80 deletes the ones that came before his.
A.
This is what girls have to realize, not only on Purim, but all year long: If you dress like a slut, they will comment.
To you its “cutely” to him its provocative.
B.
Purim is a YOM TOV, a holy one at that. You dont ‘dislike’ it. You dislike the way people are Mivazeh it perhaps.
C.
The solution isnt to deprive woman and girls of their Simchas Yom Tov because their are some boys (and girls) who cant control themselves.
The solution would be for parents to ACT like parents and Rabbeim to ACT like Rabbeim and to limit the drinking of those who SHOULD NOT be drinking. Believe me, it is not the ones who are fulfilling the Mitzva of Ad D’lo Yada correctly that are cat calling and embarrassing themselves (and their family, Yeshiva….)
Truthfully I’m not sure why someone who calls herself “cutiepie” is even asking the question.
This Purim I was thinking of sticking with Low-Alcohol beer only.
Because reduced alcohol increases inhibitions. 🙂
I don’t know how I missed all this, as I was outside (in both BP and Flatbush) from noon till past mindight, and did not see any of this. Boys were rowdy, but very respectful of girls / women. I know of one house party that had a mixed crowd, but that’s the norm for that house, so its unfair to blame Purim for that.
One the whole, I saw very few true drunken boys (did not see ONE drunk girl)
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